I've been friends with a girl for 18 years. We got on so well and have so much too talk about and she is just such a great person to be around. The problem is I think I may have developed stronger than friendship feelings for her. A friend mentioned that this friend of mine and myself would make a great couple and it was only when this was said that I started to think of my feelings for this girl. She currently lives in the states and I am in NZ. Her last visit her recently did not see she and I catch up because I was confused and now I think she maybe frustrated with me for not catching up. She has since gone back to the states. I want to tell her but I'm not sure if i should. I really value the our friendship and I don't want to jeapordise it but at the same time she knows that something is up and I don't want her thinking I've become nuts or something. Anyone with some honest advice? Anyone been in this situation before?
2007-05-29 17:20:48 · 4 answers · asked by FIt for Life kts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think it is time to tell her how you feel if you don't you might be losing something special just by her actions she is already peeved with you. you never know maybe she feels the same about you but if she doesn't just continue to treat her as a friend
good luck
2007-05-29 17:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by shaz35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. She may not have the same feelings for you. You have to be prepared for there to be awkwardness if she doesn't like you like that. But if you all have the friendship you say, it will continue long after the embarrassment. Or even better she may be able to return those feelings. Either way, if she is a single woman than don't let a little embarrassment stand in the way of what has the potential to be something special! You all have already proved that you have enough in common to sustain a friendship for 18 years! That's something right there! Go for it! I think if you let her know that there are no expectations of her when you tell her your feelings and that you truly value the relationship that if nothing else it will only get stronger, even if you don't end up together. Take care.
2007-05-29 17:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by deadsqirrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. How you have laid it out here is how you should tell her. I got involved with a friend of mine, who I have known for about 16 or 17 years now, about two years ago. Things didn't work out primarily because we lived very different lives but we are still friends. We both eventually felt the need to let each other know how we felt and although things didn't work out, I don't regret anything that happened between us. I think she would be happy to hear the news!
2007-05-29 17:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her wjhat you are feeling, what does it hurt?
2007-05-29 17:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋