I meet some one online when i was 17 over the years we've stayed in contact and fell in love through letters , phone, and emails. I am now 23. But we never met. in the begining of this year we started to talk again and decided that we were meant for each other. She become sick a couple month ago and died. i dont know what to do . i never meet her face to face or her family. but i loved her. should i still go to the funeral? i feel that if i never got to see her in life do i have the right to see her in death?? Someone please help me.
2007-05-29 17:01:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I found out through a text. then her cousin told me.
2007-05-29 17:51:50 · update #1
You should do what's in your heart to do. If you really want to go, then go. And if you don't want to go, then don't go. You should do whatever you feel like you need to do to get some closure. Maybe you could write a poem about how you felt about each other.
2007-05-29 17:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by watersign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card to her family letting them know that you met her online and that from your conversations alone you know that you loved her. Tell them that you will miss her friendship and that you wish you had the opportunity to meet her in person before she passed on.
Don't let the only real image you have of her be her in a casket. Meeting face to face was obviously not meant to happen.
I am sorry for your loss.
2007-05-30 00:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Attend the funeral. Show your respect. You will feel better after having done so. You could introduce yourself to her parents as a friend. That is all that need be said. Sorry to hear of your loss.
2007-05-30 00:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! You can pay your respects to your friend and to her family...and if they ask, let them know how you knew her. I'm sure that it would be of great comfort to them. Although, I'd suggest that you make it brief. Just long enough so you can make peace with your loss and know that since you didn't have a chance to actually meet her-that at least you'll have a chance to say good-bye. I wouldn't stay long or go to the luncheon, if there is one. I'd probably just go to the wake/visitation. I think that's so nice of you. I'm saddened by the loss of your friend and you have my deepest sympathies.
2007-05-30 00:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason why you shouldn't go to the funeral if you want to. just because you didn't meet her face to face doesn't mean you didn't know her & going to the funeral may be a good way for you to say goodbye
2007-05-30 00:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by chazta01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one man. The way I see it. You knew her, maybe not physically saw or touched her but I'm sure you 2 probably shared alot of time and knew alot about each other. Maybe you should ask yourself, would she want to see you at her funeral? or do you think she would understand why you wouldn't come? You know her better than any of us would.
2007-05-30 00:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by gibsonaddict 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over the years I have come to understand that funerals aren't so much about the person who has passed, as they are for the people who are left behind.
You are no doubt one of those who the deceased left behind, so you have a perfect right to attend her funeral & join in on honering her memory if you wish.
The question you need to answer for yourself is: Will attending her funeral bring you comfort, & some closure?
No doubt her family & friends will take comfort in knowing that their daughter, sister, cousin, friend touched your life in as profound a way as she did theirs. But don't go for them, or for her. Go for yourself!
Sorry for your loss. :(
2007-05-30 00:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tuff. if it really moves you to go then go. I think that if you sent a card with a letter to her fam to tell how much a friend she was to you that would be good. Also if you have it send a CHECK OR MONEY ORDER with $50-$100. it may be Little money but it might help her fam out.
hope that helped.
2007-05-30 00:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sydstarr100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is YOUR call. Hard as it is, it's up to YOU to decide what's best; there's no "should" or "shouldn't " about it. You're going to be the one who has to live with the memories of this decision. So let your heart be your guide. Feelings don't need eyes to know what's best to do. Good luck...
2007-05-30 00:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should go to the funeral. It wouldn't hurt, but it will sure help you feel better.
2007-05-30 00:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋