im 18 and just recently got sexually active, my boyfriend and i had haved intercourse like about 9 times and?

Question

still too painful, whats wrong? my boyfriend gets really frustrated and says its his fault but its not, it just hurts really bad, it burns a little

Answer 1

If it has been 9 times and you are burning you may have contracted an STD. Have yourself checked out. Go to Planned Parenthood if you don't have a doctor.

Answer 2

I had the same problem when my boyfriend and I started having sex. It was extremely painful, but he was patient with me. I found that pain and a burning sensation can be the cause of several factors.

First off, try a few different lubrications, we found this really improved our sex life and eased the pain. Stay away from oil-based lubrications; they can cause infection. If it's water based, it's usually safe, but always read the small print. If you're not sure, simply don't use that brand or type.

Another thing that could be hurting, exspecially if it burns, is the brand of condom or the lack of one. I still get a burning sensation if we use regular condoms, but I find that Trojan Lubricated Condoms or Trojan Twisted Pleasure Condoms releave that burning feeling and the pain that's normally caused by friction.

Lastly, it could be the position you are in while making love. Certain positions, like doggy style, allow a "deeper" sensation that is very painful for inexperienced women. While something like a spooning position, which does not allow such a deep penetration, could be more enjoyable. If you want to stop some of the painful sensations choose positions that don't allow him to penetrate so deep inside, until your body is used to the sensation. If you want to speed this process up, along with having some fun, fingering can be an intamate part of pre-sex activites. Fingering allows the vigina to stretch gently. If you are more relaxed in that general area, then the pain should lesson.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

some woman are allergic to latex if you are using condoms (and i hope you are) that may be the problem try sheep skin condoms instead, they sell them in the same section as latex condoms try a Walgreens or CVS.
It could be that your vagina was torn during intercourse previously and has not had time to heal ( and when i say torn i dont mean your hymen) maybe around the entrance to the vangina i know it may be uncomfortable for you but get a hand mirror and go take a peak perhaps you can see the problem if it is on the outside of the vagina. if that is the case give it some time and it will heal
or possibly he could be to big and your body needs time to adjust to the size of his penis try having him take it really slow and relax , it could also be that you are not wet enough they sell lube at Walgreens and CVS try the warming kind (very nice)

Answer 4

You could be lacking lubrication: are you wet enough before he penetrates you? Some women don't produce enough natural lubrication even when they are really aroused, you can get KY jelly or any of the Durex lubricants.

If you are using a condom (hope you are), always choose water-based lubricants besides the two recommended above. Don't use baby oil and petroleum jelly with condoms, or any oil-based lubricants because it can damage the condom. However, most condoms already have lubricant with it in the packet but this may not be enough if you are not very wet before penetration.

One reason why you may not be very wet is that you are just too nervous when doing it (since sex is still rather new to you). Women take longer to get turned on compared to men, so you may need more foreplay to get fully aroused. Talk to your bf about trying more foreplay, perhaps get him to make you wet by fingering you first. Fingering helps you relax - and get him to coat his fingers with some lubricant before putting them into you. If your b.f has a big penis, you may just need abit more time to get used to him because you may still be very tight for him.

Answer 5

Pain is normal when you first begin intercourse. Try taking it slow and using alot of lubrication. If after a while, it still hurts alot, I would suggest you see a doctor.

Answer 6

sounds like he isn't giving you enough time to "warm up"
Women are slower to arousal than men, and it can take a lot of foreplay to get your juices flowing. Most young guys get an erection at the drop of a hat, and expect to have intercourse right away....he needs to learn some patience and some foreplay techniques that you like.
You can also use a water based lubricant like KY to help.

Answer 7

Stop having intercourse. Save yourself for marriage. You'll feel better about yourself, and then you won't have to worry about whether or not this guy is going to leave or stay.
Physically, you might have an infection of some kind. See a gynecologist.

Answer 8

FIRST OF ALL IF HE'S GETTING UPSET AND FRUSTRATED THAT'S ONLY GOING TO MAKE YOU TENSE . YOU NEED TO BE RELAXED AND BE IN THE MOOD! DON'T JUST DO IT BECAUSE HE WAN T'S TO! IT WILL TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOU TO REALLY START GETTING SOMETHING OUT OF IT! BUT IF HE CAN'T BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING THEN HIM KNOWING YOUR SITUATION HE SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT BEFORE GETTING RAPPED UP IN IT. JUST TAKE IT SLOW AND IF HE DON'T LIKE IT KICK HIM TO THE CURB AND THEN TELL HIM THANKS!!!! YOU JERK