I'm finding myself tearful more often...?

Question

Does it happen to you too? My parents tell me that I should feel lucky to have a family that loves me, and to have my parents together supporting me in whatever I do. A lot of people around me think I'm smart because what I've accomplished. I learned a new language in such a short period of time, I go to school and I got a good job with a decent pay. They also say I'm young, cute and that I have everything to be succesful and happy. But I don't feel as such. I don't feel as happy. I love my job and I think that's one of the most rewarding jobs one can do. I love my friends and family, I love my culture, my religion and my nationality. Im proud of where I come from and I like myself -my body and my thinking. Yes, Im lucky to have all this opportunities, to be healthy, to do the things I like to do... but I still feel empty. Im lacking something and I think is love. I wonder if I'll ever find the one. Did you?.. Meanwhile, how do I comfort my heart and tell 'it' to be patient?

Answer 1

get to know G-D better for he is the one who leads you to do what he wants doing His will should be our need to fulfil. put Him first .

Answer 2

it may or may not be love. if it isn't love, then try to look deep inside yourself and see if you are truly what you want to be. i went through a similar time as you. i had everything a person could ask for: good family, health, happiness, success, friends. but i felt something was missing. then i realized that in some situations, i wasn't true to myself. i wasn't being myself. in an age where social pressures is at an all time high, maybe you can figure out whether what you are doing is making you happy or making others happy.

if the problem is love, then my philosophy is that love will find you in unexpected ways. this has happened to me a few times. the relationships haven't worked out, but looking back, i realized that i found some sort of love in an unexpected place; at a time where love was the least of my interests.

well, i hope this helps. i wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

Waiting is the hardest thing that you will ever, ever do in your life. It sounds like with all the wonderful things you have going, the family, the job, your accomplishments, etc. You feel the lack of someone, more then family, and friend, but someone to share it all with. First I would like to remind you, that where you are now, you got yourself there. Good, or bad, or indifferent, you have achieved your success. Now lets look at the senerio if someone else was there, would you have achieved it? I hope so, but sometimes when we have a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse, we limit ourselves or we get influenced to limit ourselves. Secondly, we should be complete in ourselves before we want to invite someone else into our world. If we are complete, bringing in another person won't be a "completeness" as it will be a life of integrity. Having An undivided or unbroken completeness or totality with nothing wanting, nothing lacking and this is true happiness.
When you give up on obtaining this, or dwelling on the lack thereof, believe me it will happen, it happened to me. I too, was in this situation many years ago. Had everything, but somone who made my life light-up! I went on and before I knew it, I was growing, changing, learning myself, fixing my own situations, choices, and enjoying life along the way. I found contentment in mine own self! Then Mr. Right came in and I never knew I could have "Heaven on Earth", but it comes to those who wait and are secure in themselves. I am living proof! Good Luck and dry the tears and live, life will go on....even if you venture it alone abit longer, trust that you are worth it and love will come! As for teaching someone how to comfort yourself and to be patient, all I can say is "trust yourself that God has someone" just for you!

Answer 4

I thought I had someone. I knew it wouldn't work out though, and today he broke up with me...


I was patient forever. I can give you a tip: Your first relationship is your hardest one, and I can tell you that even if you already have had one, just don't have one right now. All The relationships leading up to the one that really works are great experience, and being patient really does work. If you never find someone, which you are more likely to than you are not to, you still have everything else so don't worry about it. I love my friends, and they're what get me through it all. If I never found my true love, I wouldn't care, because I would have them. Take that into proprtion.

Answer 5

Well, sometimes you think that to be perfect, you have to have a perfect man. Thats not really true. For now you must be an indapendant, strong, and emotionally stable inavidual. You have a great life. You should use it. I day dream all the time. Mostly of things like romance, but I've never had any luck in that department. You can't let not having a man behind you slow you down. You have to be strong. You have so much going for you. Hope it helps.

Answer 6

First of all i'm glad that you have such a good mental picture of your life, most people don't ,but, what you need to do is forget about the things you have no control over and those will take care of itself but focus on what you have around you and those who love you. When you get busy and focus on your life and career, love will find you as it did for me!!!!

Answer 7

Hello, good for you for being successful in many areas of life! YaY! I suspect that you may be a tad bit depressed though. Be careful with depression and intervene on your own behalf as soon as you can. You may not need medication, but perhaps a good group might be helpful for you. Maybe you could volunteer at a hospice or help the illiterate learn to read.
Remember too that a lot of people have that empty hole feeling...I think it is nature's way of helping us grow and excel... Peace to you :)

Answer 8

oohh...i feel the exact same way and i get the SAME lecture from my mom (but ur o smart, but ur so beautiful, but ur so "blah blah blah)!! and i was starting to feel like i was not appreciating enough and then i realized the same thing u did...haha, but i swear i don't think i'll ever find the right guy, psh...i haven't found any...idk...trangely enough i doo believe that there is "the one" out there for u and that all u hav to do is be patient and seriously learn to love yourself...confidence means everything (of course not talking ********* :/) but just pride, keep that chin up there and enjoy life for what it is and what it brings...we're alive and well :)

i don't know if any of this helps at all but i'm just happy to hear that i'm not the only one with those probs :] <3

Answer 9

You may want to reconsider your notions of "love".

Most people cannot live up to such expectations as they are unrealistic. Those who need love will become "clingy" or "needy". They often end up in abusive relationships because of their beliefs about love. People who "need" love are often manipulated and taken advantage of.

Answer 10

If this is truly a longing to share your life with someone then begin thinking of what you are looking for and look for it.

I would ask you to be cautious though because this sounds more like depression then a desire to be loved. It sounds as though you do have people who love you and who you love.

Good luck and if this is depression please seek assistance, many people can deal with depression if treated properly.

Answer 11

philosophy is the study of ideas
psychology is the study of human behavior.

I think you need to post this in psychology.

Do you really honestly think you will never in the next 10 or 50 years, find love? Honestly?