Ok, I feel like i am walking on this silver line at the moment, in one way is my happiness and the other way my family. I really love my family, but now that i have finished collage and got a degree, i want to move out and live my life the way i want to. the problem is that i know if i leave i will hurt alot of people and my family will fall apart forever. but if i stay my traditions and duites as a women that i need to follow will kill me because i just can not pretend to be a doll who cries and laughs only when others want to. I can either be selffish and leave a happy family into never ending tears or kill all my desires i had from my self and keep on pretending to be the perfect plastic doll who can't even cry when she wants to. What should i do, follow traditon or my heart. i wish there was a way in which no one got hurt and i could actully live my life rather than living it on someone else terms. what do you think i should do, why are only women the ones who have to sacrafise
2007-05-29 16:33:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe that you should gather and sit down to talk with your family. It seems that you have a lot of respect and love for them. If they care and understand you, they should respect your wishes. You're grown now and know that you can take care of yourself. It is time to begin your future and experience life on your own. But make sure you get them to understand how you feel without turning their backs on you. Have them give you some support. I understand how traditions are, I know how you feel because I've got some in my family as well. But this is America, a country where many people make new changes and live life differently..yet for the better. It will take time for them to understand..but more importantly try to get them to understand. Talk and work it out.. Because if you do not follow your dreams and make sacrifices like that, it can ruin your life. It'll be a burden to not being able to do what you want to, remember, this is YOUR life.
2007-05-29 16:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by dazzlingclassic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live as you want to live.
Now is the time to move forward with your life. Your family will have to understand that you have different goals for your future. They may not respect your wishes but there is no other way for you to be happy.
It is really hard to please everyone, including yourself. Be happy with your decisions and have faith in your judgement.
Be respectful to your family and let them know that it is not your intention to hurt them. However, you are a woman now who has to make her own decisions.
2007-05-29 23:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 50 years, what will you look back on? You are in this life only once; it is not a dress rehearsal.
Tradition is good only if it doesn't hold you back from achieving your dreams. Your family won't fall apart--they will go on living, and probably will admire you for your strength.
Only you can live your life; your family can't live your life for you. Please don't waste your life by caving in to "tradition".
2007-05-29 23:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by boogeywoogy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart......only you can decide what u are going to do. Your family will come around when you have attained success in the future...
Your family will be happy by pinning you down to their will but you will never be happy cuz you do not want to be subjugated by men's tradition. Tradition if not broken, will break us.
2007-05-29 23:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Such is Life! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i assume you mean by family you father and mother, if that is the case then it is time to leave the nest.
if it is your husband and children, then yes you are being too selfish.
2007-05-30 02:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋