I have dated this guy for about 3 years or so. We have lived together for about 2 and a half years. We also have a one year old toddler. He hardly ever wants sex anymore. I don't know if it is our age difference or what. I have mentioned several things to him but he don't seem to be interested in nothing. What should i do to him. I am in desperit need of something. I am getting very cranky. Please help me to think of some things to do.
2007-05-29 16:18:32 · 14 answers · asked by TTC#2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so glad to see that you are looking at the two of you for the solution to your problem instead of bringing in a 3rd party.
In otherwords: don't think that having an affair will help you, because it won't.
Having said that, you should know that what is going on between you two is probably not about you, since you still have the motivation. It is he who has the shortfall.
Whatever the cause is, it's with him. He has lost the desire to have sex. To get it back you will need to have his participation. Start with some honest dialogue with him to try to find out a place to start.
If he isn't willing to talk, then you can try some role-playing, such as taking on a suedo personality such as a naughty school girl, or a teacher, or a nurse or something like that, & then come on to him. But it will be a cr*p shoot, & you will probably not hit the mark the 1st time. Honest dialogue will be the shortest route to a home run, so talk to him if you can.
Good luck!
2007-05-29 16:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he would be quicker to initiate sex if he called the shots? You could make an invitation, to invite him to an evening of seduction. Go all out and start the evening, by dressing in something that you know he finds sexy. Make him his favorite meal, light casual talk, no talking about bills, kids, etc. Then give him his choices for the evening, you can write his sexual options out menu style and have him "order" what he wants! Or you could write down a mad lib and let him fill in the blanks. Example: Finally he could stand it no longer and told her to ________ his _________. They retreated to the ________where they decided to ________a_________.
Leave little notes, where he will find them, telling him how you think he is sexy, how attracted you are still even after 3 years,
Or you could tell him Saturday nights (or whatever night of the week) is "men's choice" and he gets to choose what the agenda is for the evening
When my husband and I seem so be our tired old selves and one of is in need of some "attention" one of these ideas usually work, and the other will usually return the favor a few nights later! Good Luck
2007-05-29 16:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men have a problem with the Madonna/Whore complex.
He likes all the dirty things he did with you in order to get you pregnant, but now he is going to bed with the mother of his child, the woman he should hold in great esteem. How can he do those lovely dirty things to Madonna?
Or he might be tired.
2007-05-29 16:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 02:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know one that works! First, go out into the forest. Give him a tranqualizer gun and make him count to twenty while you run off and hide. He will try to incapacitate you and when you wake up you can do it! For extra fun try it blindfloded!
2007-05-29 16:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relax holiday treat. or having sex in differnet corners of the house, not necessary the bedrom.
text him to go hom eearly tonight for a big surprise
2007-05-29 16:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by AK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about renting some porn movies. that usually gets their motors running. You also might try doing it dressed in a black teddy,a black bra, black stockings, with a garter belt, and high heel pumps. that really turns some guys on.
2007-05-29 16:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to sex store together and pick some things you both like. you can get some costumes/outfits and do roleplay.
2007-05-29 17:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Natalie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise him, plan a weekend away (leave toddler with grandma) and you treat.
2007-05-29 16:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bowl of whip cream and a wet t-shirt.
2007-05-29 16:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by blink_ww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋