I am 42 and in a very unhappy marriage, there was a party, and a young married man was there and also unhappy?

Question

he tried to hook up earlier at the party, and I kept telling him I was old enough to be his mother. Well to make a long story short, we ended up having sex in a car. I am freakin out as I don't want my husband or his wife to get hurt by our actions. I think we had unprotected sex, and when I got home I realized that this was during the time I ovulated, My husband and I can't have children something about our fluids don't like each other, I am scared, This guy is young enough to be my son, 19 years, I knew he was young, but not that young! What do I do if I get pregant, after all these years of wanting a baby, and if I am I hurt two people if I keep the baby, and ruin two marriage.

Answer 1

Why are you counting the chicks before the eggs hatch? First get your pregnancy check done medically. If you get negative report just sleep calmly, if it’s a positive report the give a thought what to do next. It not necessary that unprotective sex during period of ovulation will definitely result in pregnancy, chances to get pregnant no doubt are great at this period but it all depends on the fertilizing of your egg /ovum by his sperm did it took place? Your age itself 42years chances of getting pregnant at this age are very remote but not impossible. Wait for final medical report & then take step. As far getting a child for the first time is concerned in your life it no doubt will be a great moment of joy for you, but you cannot hide this fact from your husband at least, so if such contingency arise if you want to continue the pregnancy if it occurred then must tell your husband frankly about it, if you are not interested in this pregnancy get rid of it without informing any one & continue life as it was. You can even think about telling your husband that you got artificially inseminated for the child as you were interested in being a mother & having a child, this if works can save you from charges of adultery you did with this guy, young enough to be your son. Best of luck!

Answer 2

Yes, well you should have thought about everyone else back then.
You should know whether it was unprotected or not.

You need to think long and hard about what you did and now do, whether you are pregnant or not is not really the point.
Have you said anything to your husband about how you feel?
The only way to go on from here is to be honest and open with each other. The sex out side of your marriage is a symptom of the problem, which is an unhappy marriage. Mind you, some years of my marriage would be classed as very unhappy but I never strayed.
We've been together 35 yrs now!
The other consideration in all marriages is commitment. Many people have none and when the going gets tough, they are out of there. Little knowing that many marriages can be saved with a bit of effort. This saves so much heart ache and distress that it is usually worth the effort. But now, you are where you are and it is all up to you. Only you can decide what to do............

Answer 3

Do you know who your asking for help on here we are mostly married wives who can't wait to stick it to someone like you. Let me ask you a question ? Don't you found it kind of funny that every married man who cheats on his wife keeps making excuse after excuse why he can't leave his wife. 99% of every married man ALWAYS go back to the wife. Of course the married man is going to tell you he is unhappy in order to get in your bed. I really don't think if he said " I want to f--k you" would get him very far do you ? Look you believed all the lies he told you your not the first to get hurt and you sure won't be the last. If you could step back for one minute and just think what the two of you have done to his wife who most likely thought her marriage was going good right up til she found out. Don't think your anything special your just a statistic now so learn from your mistake.

Answer 4

Starting out saying you were in an unhappy marriage doesn't make you less guilty or justify the action.

You have 2 problems: the affair itself and if there is pregnancy. You seem to suggest you would cover up the affair if there is no pregnancy. That is for you to face.

Answer 5

You can't have your cake and eat it too. If you want happiness and the baby then say good bye to your unhappy married life with your husband. Or you may choose the other.

Answer 6

You for sure do have some serious issues. I would never hop into sex with a man without knowing him for a good year. There's to much STDs going around. You need some help!!!

Answer 7

generally we realise late what we have done,
you are mature enough to decide,
you are thinking right,
it`s going to hert two people and ruin two marriage,
don`t do that,

one more thing,
believe you me,
there is nothing like
happy or unhappy,
(the things convinient to me, of my benifit and i like...
is happyness for me and
the things non-convinient to me, of not my benifit and i don`t like
is unhappy for me..)

we all have both the things in turn by turn, or
one can just change the above defination, then
there is nothing like happy or unhappy...

think again and act accordingly..

Answer 8

Bit late for that now eh.
What's done is done, nothing you can do but face the music. You're the one to blame here, alcohol or no alcohol, it was your weak will power that gave in to adultery.
Sorry, but deal with it.

Answer 9

Wait and see if you get pregnant first. If you don't, and this is a one time thing, then don't tell your husband, unless you are planning to leave him anyway.

Answer 10

Ouch !!! He's just a youngster, you should have known better. Hope and pray that you aren't pregnant. Work on your marriage, otherwise it will be ruined.