ever get a "gut feeling"?

Question

my husband left me 4 weeks ago and is now with someone else (though they say they are just friends, they DO go on dates). I'm getting better and better by the day. I'm happier, smiling more, and full out enjoying life! I still have my moments of weakness and sadness, but overall, I'm very proud of myself for taking is better than I ever thought I could. Part of me thinks maybe the reason I have taken it SO well, is beacuse I have this GUT feeling, this all-over feeling, that he WILL come crawling back to me. he still loves me, he still cares about me, and he wants to be friends, and do things together with our daughter (zoo, beach, aquarium...). He's not giving me false hope, because at the same time he says, it will NEVER work between us again. But I've prayed and prayed to God about it, and I get such a comfort each time that my prayers will be answered. Anyone else ever had a gut feeling about a spouse returning and it turned out to be right? Should I listen to my "gut feeling"?

Answer 1

I don't believe it's necessarily a "gut feeling", as much as it is the Lord giving you hope.
Continue to pray and have faith that the Lord will restore your marriage back to you--and more importantly, continue to rely on God even past this aspect of life.

Answer 2

I honestly would not listen to your gut that he will come back because it may just be setting yourself up for some disapointment. Instead, pray for good things to come your way in the form of personal strength and growth.

I have been in your shoes and I can tell you, the best and most comforting moment you will ever have in your life will be the day that you feel good about being independent and you become the center of your own decisions with your daughter as the only partner in crime that you need.

Answer 3

I have lived my whole life on gut feeling and looking into others eyes not once have I been wrong,not once... I get this intense feeling when looking deep into others eyes and I can tell what sort of person in across from me. Not sure why but thus far I have not made a mistake, by all means I am not young at all..I do not have to look long into ones eyes but I know...

Answer 4

If he left me for another woman then why in the world would i want him back ! i wouldn't want her left overs regardless !! You are better then that aren't you, you shouldn't want someone back after they left you for another woman!! wouldn't you feel like you were being used, so he takes you back because she didn't want him anymore!!! what if he only wanted you cause he can't have her? that's what I'd be thinking all the time!! How could you get over the fact that he left you for another woman?? And how do you know he doesn't really love her? after all he left you for her and he will leave her for another too !! just wait and see, he will see that the Grass isn't greener on the other side and then may want you back but then you should be strong enough to say No way to him and dump him like he deserves it !! kid or no kids!! no one should stay together just for the kids sake either !! kids grow up and they leave home !!! You better find someone else who really loves you !!! forget this piece of junk !! Really!

Answer 5

I get that gut feeling and you're right turns out the way we envision. Do not forget to live your life regardless of what your "gut" says. He has moved on at least for the time being and you should too. Sounds like you are doing good. Go on Girl

Answer 6

One way or another, this feeling helps you to get better. So it is good. Our instincts are good, they help us survive in the worst of the situation. Whether or not he'll return - noone knows, noone has the chrystal ball, so I can't reassure you. It may very well be that he'll come crawling back, but you won't even want him back anymore. But one thing for sure - if you're smiling and happy, that will make him wonder and that increases the chance that he will come croling back. Happy people are always attractive.

Answer 7

Your daughter should be the most important one. This is going to effect her the most. You do not have to prove of what he did, but you have to forgive him for your child's sake. Your bound to him for life because he is the father of your child.

It is intersting that your intution and spirit is up after he left, more healthy, free, and your gut feels that he will come crawling back. Your gut is probably right, women have a strong intution, usually they know. Just because your gut is telling you that he is going to come back, it is not telling you to take him or not take him back.

Answer 8

Yes & those gut feelins are right, if you listen to that u will be fine. If i go againest that feeling it will be bad.You are doing all the right things. Praying is the best thing anyone can do.
Big Hugs,
STAR

Answer 9

the only person who can answer that is u and your husband. it sucks cause last year i left my husband and said he loved me he will be back. he did everything for me. i mean everything. well the other girl that he ended up seeing shortly after we broke up played the pregnant card. i swore he would never leave me completly but he did. she wasnt really pregnant but got pregnant 4 months later. it sucks cause now im so hurt. ive went on with my life too but i still wonder what if? thats the hardest part. so dont let to much time pass to see if things will work. he might want out who knows but you need to talk to him before its too late....good luck

Answer 10

No. It's not so much that you're listening to it as that your basing your happiness on this thing that exists, at the moment, ONLY IN YOUR MIND.

Of course he wants to be civil and friendly with you. You two have a child to raise together. Even divorced you'll be doing that.

The problem with you right now is that you're not dealing with reality. You're dealing with reality as interpreted by your FANTASY, not with it as it is.

The problem is the simple fact that, when it comes to praying for things, sometimes the answer is, "No."

Learn to deal with that.