How do YOU deal with anger??

Question

I need some help in the "happy" area

Answer 1

I usually punch someone.......

Answer 2

~~~ I was having some anger issues and didn't really know what to do with either. Then enstead of just sitting there brooding in silence, I put on some Bob Marley music. I guess it's true what they say about music calming the savage beast because I felt better immediately. Bob Marley is the King of Reggae you know. For a long time I only listened to him, because I really love his voice. Then I got some Pato Banton cds and now I'm hooked on him too! Reggae is feel good music and really does put you in a good mood. Let the vibes move your heart and you'll be singing along before you know it. I promise. I have it on from the time I get up and listen to it until I go to bed. It's been a tremendous help. ~~~

Answer 3

I found that the only way to deal with negative emotions and feelings once and for all is to look at what is really behind them and deal with it. I'm sensing that this is related to a something turned sour. Usually I found that there is some rigid expectation that an experience should be a certain way, and when it is not, it usually triggers an emotional reaction. The more that expectation is upset, the more severe is the emotional response.

If you are angry because you feel that you have been wronged, please consider this - no two people really look at life and deal with it in the same way. Even though there are social expectations about how each person is expected to behave, when it really comes down to it each one of us feels the need to do what is appropriate for us. That is not a character flaw, but simply each person's right as a free human being to be truly free to think and act in a manner that is appropriate for each one of us. So if you come into a situation with a certain expectation of an experience, others may or may not necessarily see it from that same perspective. If you try and force your perspective on others, you will quickly find that they will balk at it. This usually starts to sour the experience, and then it starts to escalate from there.

Your expectations of an experience is based on your perspective of life. You are entitled to your perspective, and if you can acknowledge that others are also entitled to their own perspectives, you will be able to see that other people's actions or reactions are based on their own perspective which may or may not have any resemblance to yours. Then you will be able to let go of your rigid expectation of others in that experience, which will allow you to release the anger. For me, looking at my emotions and feelings and what is behind them was the only way to effectively deal with my own anger from childhood. When the anger is released the memory of the experience no longer stings as it once used to.

I urge you to take measures to release any unresolved anger. Recent studies have shown that unresolved anger weakens the body's immune system, and a weakened immune system leaves the body more prone to cancer.

Answer 4

When you wake up in the morning....do you resist breathing?.... or do you know that there is plenty of air out there and just do instictivel and naturally. Being angry is having a resistance to negative energy you have laid in front of you from past thoughts. Each time you think angry thoughts you travel way into your very consciousness...the reality created from your thoughts on the subject of your anger and how they make you feel. You need to understand that it was you and you only that was the director of the movie playing in your mind. Reclaim the great power you put into creating this anger for yourself, recognize yourself as the true creator. When you truly understand that your anger was created by you and only by you. You will use the reclaimed power of this understanding to write a new script and scenes in the movie you call your life. Breathe in life....deflect your thoughts to what makes you feel good....anger only chokes this off. Namaste

Answer 5

I have to say" not very good " as anger is the opposite of fear , is the loss of control over a certain situation that , does not agree to the perception of what should be. so when anger arises I just walk away with my mouth clenched and let my self cool down and begin the process of rationalizing a solution .

Answer 6

Daily meditation

If you're interested in the practice, just sit comfortably with your back straight.
Breathe in deeply and slowly, in and out. Concentrate on your breath. If any thought enters your mind, gently brush it aside and concentrate on your breath.
I use an egg timer so I can decide to meditate for 5, 10, 20 minutes or more, depending on how much time I have.
It really clears the mind.

Answer 7

Look beyond the anger. It may last for a minute, it may last for a year, but all in all, things get to us because we let them. It's OKAY to be angry. Anger is a natural emotion, but when anger controls your judgement (not only violent acts but social behaviour) then it becomes a problem.
JUST CHILLAX!

Answer 8

Well... I Clean. Sounds silly but as long as i can take my anger out on "that spot that wont come out" of the carpet than i usually calm down and have time to think things threw.

also.... make a batch of tortilla's!!! pounding the "masa" or dough or whatever it is called helps out with the frustration big time!!!

Answer 9

1. Stop thinking about it.

It is a tendency to think about situations that have made us angry. Each time we think about what happened, who said what, who did what, etc. we only recreate the original anger in th present moment.

2. Modify your speech.

If you tell 3 people about something that made you angry, you will feel angry 3 more times.

3. Let go of the belief that "life should be fair".

Sometimes life is fair. Sometimes it isn't.

Answer 10

I have a smoke, maybe a drink, take some time away by myself until I cool off, and then, as calmly as I can, I face what made me angry in the first place. Either that or I just keep drinking until I forget what made me angry. Either way.

Answer 11

I take deep breaths and let people deal and control their problems.They usually WANT to somehow go through their obstacles in life with me.I just take a deep breath and let them deal with their problem like I do.