She told my boyfriend to invite me over so we could talk today which hass happened before and she cancelled. This morning after I got mentally prepared and he cleaned and prepared his room for me, he was getting ready and she said she didn't feel well & we should reschedule... he has been angry at his mom changing mind. I dunno what to feel... right now I am just confused. I know she loves me, but why does she keep changing her mind, (she gets sick sometimes) so I think thats why. What can I do to make him feel better and not so upset with his mother?
2007-05-29 13:31:27 · 7 answers · asked by Queen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to remind him that unless he knows otherwise she canceled for a good reason and that if his mom is prone to get sick she needs some understanding not anger directed toward her. If you aren't upset and aren't worried about it then I don't think he should be either. If it was really pressing I think she would have asked you to come on over anyway. You too have what sounds like a good relationship and there is no need to tarnish that with your boyfriend getting upset.
2007-05-29 13:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What exactly do you truly love about her? Is she really sick or does she have symptoms of some phantom illness that no Doctor has yet to diagnose? If it is truly that she is sick, send her some flowers and a note that says, "Don't worry, we'll have plenty of time to talk when you are up for it". Your boyfriend will appreciate the gesture and you will look like an angel in his eyes (which is the only thing that matters anyway).
2007-05-29 13:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let it be, if she changes her mind, let her. it is not a big deal. maybe she is siked up to tell you something but gets nervous too , just like you. maybe she really doesnt like you and is finding it hard to tell you once the date comes up, maybe she wants to give you something but is waiting for the right time to tell you, maybe she is really sick and when it is time for your date she gets worse. look there could be so many things that are happening, you cant hold it against her. if your man wants to be man at him then let him, that will be his fault or wrong doing for being mad. anyway stay out of thier lil fights, thats the only thing they can do.good luck.
2007-05-29 14:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that it's OK about his mom, and that you are not upset.
It will make him feel better to know that you are not put out by her cancellations and that you are understanding about her illnesses. Make sure you really mean it so you don't harbor hostility that blows up in his face, later.
2007-05-29 13:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The most you can do to make him feel better is not to show him that you're upset. As for the feelings and issues he has with his mother, he'll have to deal with that on his own.
2007-05-29 13:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is one of those controlling things that he has to deal with and come to terms with his mother. Theres actually nothing you can do.He has to do it himself by himself, otherwise you two will have a continous problem with mommy dearest
2007-05-29 13:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's pulling your strings, dear its all about power play. next time she sets up an appt. tell her no thanks, and stick by it. you do not 'know' anyone over there loves you, you hope they do. she's used to jerking people around & she's trying to keep her ground between the two of you. DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH ANY GUY WHO HAS MAMA ISSUES.
2007-05-29 13:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋