is it possible they could fall in love with that person or capable of loving 2 women at one time
2007-05-29 13:24:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of the time, men have affairs for the sex -- but if there are serious problems within their marriage, then yes, they can find love elsewhere.
Generally, though, they aren't in love with two women at the same time. If they have fallen in love with the other woman, it is usually AFTER they had fallen out of love with their wife. (Many people -- both men and women -- have trouble letting go of a loveless marriage, either because they're just used to it, or afraid of being on their own.)
2007-05-29 13:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think an affair is ever for just sex. I believe it's been something to seal the deal, but from what I've seen, men and women have affairs because there's something missing in their relationships and marriages. From my experience, men and women have affairs because their current spouse/partner isn't enough in terms of challenging them, communicating with them, or loving them. Someone in my life cheated because it was "years of misery and the child was the only reason he stayed." Someone else I know cheated because she was essentially on the rebound with this guy she was good friends with, and her ex (who was the one who ended their relationship) gave her an opening, as it were, a chance to hook up one last time. So while sex was involved in both instances, the reasons were very psychological. The first one, to add to the reason, had a father who left him and his several other siblings at an early age, leaving a single mother and a horrible male role model as a lifetime example. Also, in terms of loving two or more people at once, I don't believe it. Here's the justification: if the ratio for relationships was greater than 1-to-1, that would leave an unequal amount of relationships. For example, if one man had two women, he gets loved twice as much as either woman - that's not fair, is it? Life is all about balance and fairness, respect and responsibility. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-05-29 20:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking like a monogamous person of good character. Cheaters have a different motivation and mindset than you and I.
Cheaters don't love two men or women at one time, they don't really love anybody in a deep way.
Cheaters are swingers. They want lots of sex from alot of different people. They think monogamy is a dumb rule that is made to be broken. At best they think what you don't know wont hurt you. At worst they get off on hurting you with betrayal.
If cheaters had any honor they would just call themselves swingers and only date other swingers. But then they would lose out on all the straight people they could be having their fun with.
To get involved with a known cheater, you are just begging to experience heartbreak. To a cheater you are a square and a rube and they will tell you whatever you want to hear, it is all meaningless to them.
To love a cheater is like giving pearls to swine.
2007-05-29 20:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband had an affair and it started off as just sex, but as it dragged on, he started to develop very strong feelings for her. To this day, he denys loving her, but something tells me he did. So, if I am right, yes, a man can be in love with two people at the same time. He never stopped loving me while he was doing what he was doing. Never treated me badly, was still a 'good' husband. But in most situations, it is just sex. I guess anyone can fall in love with another if they allow themselves to constantly be with that other person, which was the case of my husbands. I guess after awhile a person can grow on ya, even if thats not what you originally intended. As I am sure my husband never intended to develop feelings for her. He just did.
2007-05-29 20:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married to the most beautiful woman on the Earth for almost 26 years. Have I ever cheated NO. Why? Because I love his woman and is not that what it is all about? Faith and trust, and dedication. I gave my word at our marriage vows, and damn if I will not keep my word. She is my angel, my treasure and I love her more than the day we said I do.
2007-05-29 20:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they have an affair for sexIts not about loveing your wife,most times they have a family with their wife,home ,security, just not proper sex.
2007-05-29 20:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by jjohn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When men cheat it's all about the sex. And if he cheats he doesn't love his wife as much as he thinks or else he wouldn't cheat. So if a husband cheats and says I love my wife he is lying.
2007-05-29 20:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some just want the excitement outside their marriage and as for whether they could love 2 person at once - nay, they usually say that because they are greedy and want both women and doesn't want to leave either one
2007-05-29 21:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by zirconiag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys really do think with the wrong head sometimes.....I know guys are visual beings and we get attracted to objects very easily. Girls are physical beings....love touches,hugs, kisses etc. Guys just want to hit it and u know. Guys just dont think, but there are girls that are just the same.
2007-05-29 20:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its for the thrill and sex plus they dont care if they get caught because they dont love their spouse if they cheat.
2007-05-29 20:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋