i have been in a relationship for 3 years now. we have had some very rough times. it all started with him lying to me inorder for me to do some thing that benefited him. I was upset when i found out and as a result, made his life at work and home difficult. that is i threatened to tell our boss about our relationship since he was senior to me and we worked together. We decided to continue giving our relationship a chance but it is very hard as he has trust issues with me and i have with him. Do you think it is possible to move pass this?
2007-05-29 13:22:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like your relationship was doomed from the start.
Be fair to eachother move on.
Lying and been vindictive aint going to work in any relationship.
2007-05-29 13:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you can move pass it. You two are not married and have only been together for 3 yrs. Sounds like he's very immature if he's threatening to tell your boss about your personal problems.
You find someone else, that you don't have trust issues with.
2007-05-29 13:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Earl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before you give up all hope. Sit down and talk with him. Tell eachother what can be done or what can be done. Nothing is more effective in a relationship than communication, that maybe all that is needed. Just also tell yourself why you first started going out and think of that before you start to talk to him, this will allow you to have a nice warm feeling of happiness before you talk so that you have nicer and more enthusiastic words. But, the only way your gonna move on is to talk about it and fix it together, do it alone in a silent spot, like on a couch together with no one around. Hope this helps.
Wee Man.
2007-05-29 13:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were trust issues when your relationship was quite new, and this is a red flag. Why don't you want your boss to know about your relationship?
If there is no trust there can be no relationship.
I'm not clear why he doesn't trust you, and I can't answer your question on the basis of the information you provided.
2007-05-29 13:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him, but it doesn't sound as if he loves you...unless his definition of love includes grossly insulting and undermining someone. Just because a relationship is long term doesn't mean that it's good for you, and if you were satisfied with it you wouldn't be going public like this to ask whether his behaviour is 'normal' It isn't, but you are, and you deserve more respect than this 'waste of space' is giving you. So go find yourself someone who respects you - you're only 22, make a long term relationship with someone who feels that you are special, treats you that way and who lets you choose the channel!.
2016-05-21 06:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by estella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were hurt. You decided that the only right and proper thing to do was to attempt to destroy his career.....because you could. Talk about a pig (you not him). What he did might have been wrong, but I know that two wrongs do not make a right. I understand completely why he has trust issues. If I was him, I would dump you and quick.
Grow up and you will be worth something to someone down the road.
2007-05-29 13:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important part of a relationship has to be trust...if thats gone or you have doubt move on, you already wasted 3 years why prolong it
2007-05-29 13:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Russ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You have both proven that you are not capable of being in a mature relationship. You won't trust him because he lied and he won't trust you because you threatened him and were vengeful. Move on.
2007-05-29 13:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jiggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if one of you leaves the company you work for. He will always have that threat hanging over his head. Besides, it's never a good idea to date co-workers.
2007-05-29 13:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not without counseling. Sounds like y'all well need intervention to overcome the issues that his and your choices have caused you in this relationship.
Because, while he should not have lied to you - you should not have threatened him.
2007-05-29 13:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by jenneylou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋