One of my best friends [recently, 2 days ago] admitted that he was married to his 1st cousin. Im not sure how I really feel about it. Known them for 7 years and they are so happy together
2007-05-29 12:45:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are no children of their own. They are my age. Over 50...lol
2007-05-29 12:57:06 · update #1
I would greatly appreciate no name calling of females or others that have answers for this question. Thanks, have a great evening.
2007-05-29 14:17:19 · update #2
It's legal. USA is the only modern country with cousin marriage laws, and over 1/2 of the states allow for it.
They won't have genetic problems with their children. People who don't marry their cousin have a 2-4% chance of birth defects, it only goes up to 6% with first cousin births. They also have a MUCH lower rate of miscarriage.
It isn't against the Bible. Of all the things that are an abomination, cousin marriages isn't one of them. In fact in many stories God commands many 1st cousins to marry.
Check out the links below to further educate yourself.
2007-05-29 12:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you really want. Do you want a lasting relationship? Do you think that it's possible to have a lasting relationlship with this person? Or, do you think that the family pressure would get to you later on? Love is certainly a good ingredient in a lasting relationship, but it is not all the ingredients. I suggest that you take a break from the relationship, and have an inventory of what is really important to you. Keep in mind that your family will always be your family (they will be there for you - better or worst). There are a lot of guys out there just like your sister's ex (some even better) that you could potentially be with, actually, there's millions of them. Are you sure you want to have that family pressure hanging over your shoulder the rest of your life? - The answer is really up to you.
2016-05-21 04:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I just want to say we women on here are not a bunch of dumba**es as was stated above (plus smartie you can't even spell right!!). And I don't remember any first cousins being married in Mayberry either.......
I would sit down with your friend and let him know that it disturbed you and you really don't have an opinion about it yet. But if they are happy I would just go on and continue your relationship as close to normal as you can. Let them know that it does mean a lot to you that they do trust you enough to tell you.
2007-05-29 13:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by steeler_chic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think so. There must have been a point (in the very beginning) where your best friend should have thought what the hell am I doing. They should have stopped it before they got started. Also, what about children. The chances of a child having a mental problem are high.
2007-05-29 12:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by happy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They may be happy but it is very wrong and they will not have normal children. Are you sure they were not joking? I thought it was illegal to marry your 1st cousin. I would not let it destroy your friendship if he is your best friend cuz it really doesn't affect you and you would not feel different if he never told you.
2007-05-29 12:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by christie g 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love isn't just about making selfish choices. I think if that is his 1st cousin. He should have made a choice out of love and let her go. Do they have children? If so, isn't there health problems that could arise from that?
2007-05-29 12:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kandi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, this person felt close enough to you to share this big secret with you. They are opening themselves up to your scrutiny. If this changes the way you feel about them then you need to be honest with them. But to be honest if they are happy - are not having any children then they really arent hurting anyone. You need to decided what you value more - your friendship with them or your moral obligations. then go from there :)
2007-05-29 13:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by saaen 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why ask that to these morons in here, especially the females in here( bunch of dumass, except one or two,)
basically, its only wrong because of the genetic factors, if youre friend is planning to have children, there is a likely chance of diseases/illnesses.
2007-05-29 13:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not if you live in Mayberry. If they have children, do the kids call her Mom or cousin.
2007-05-29 12:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Actually quite disturbing. Mention to your friend to never bring that up again. Yes, it is wrong to marry your family.
2007-05-29 12:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Green eyed Senorita 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋