My g/f is pregnant and i don't know what to do? please help?

Question

plan and simple my g/f is pregnant with my baby. She is the head cheerleader and i am the star QB for my high school football team. I will be the best QB when i enter the NFL in 6 years. We are only juniors and planning on going to collage after high school. We are dating and we did have unprotected sex, she is hot and i mean hot but i love her then just her body.

We do have jobs to support the baby, i will support her and the baby. She works at walmart and i work at movie gallary. She is only a couple weeks pregnant but she is scared already, she won't talk to me because i got her in this situation. I love her and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. My dad is a huge football fan and wants me to keep playing football until now, he wants me to quit football and focus on school and my g/f and the baby, i wont quit sorry but football is the only thing i am good at lol. Should my g/f quit cheerleading because she is pregnant. So what do we do, she is so scared and i am too

Answer 1

First of all, stop thinking of only yourself here. You were responsible enough for getting into this situation by not thinking of the consequences of your actions, and as you know, you can't use the same level of thinking that got you into this situation to get you out. Take the high road, take responsibility, and accept the consequences.

I would recommend that the both of you see a professional counselor, and get the proper advice. There are other options available, although I personally don't condone abortion, but that is my own personal feeling. You have to consider ALL of the options, but first of all, you also have to consider the feelings and desires of your girlfriend too.

There are more important issues here besides whether or not you get to play football. Sure, you enjoy it, and perhaps you may have a career at it, but that is not definite, regardless of how it may seem now. Don't count on things you don't know for sure. What have you planned for in your future if football doesn't turn out to be your dream career?

I would also discuss these issues with your girlfriend, but in a professional setting, where there may be a counselor or a mediator. You need to be able to separate the issues from only yours, and see things from all sides of the picture - not only yours.

Answer 2

Welcome to manhood. Same thing happened to me. And you dont know how good youre gonna be at football in 6 years. By the way just so you know..you sound kinda stuck on yourself "star QB?...Greatest quarterback in NFL? ) Even if you dont go to college (not collage) you gotta get over that and play the hand youve been dealt. Be a man. I wanted to go into the Marines until I had a daughter, now I gotta say I wouldnt give up anything. You dont need to marry a girl just because you knock her up. If youre just in high school you probably dont know what love is...but i promise if you have a child, there wont be a question in your mind. If you think you love your girlfriend, just wait. I got married and got a job and we work and struggle just like most families in America do. If we didnt have a child we would be very comfortable, but its worth the struggle i promise. She doesnt need to cheer if its gonna hurt the baby....but you need to talk to her not us online. We dont matter when it comes to your family....and thats what you are now whether you choose to accept it or not. PS Good talk son. (sorry i had to throw that in there)

Answer 3

Your girlfriend is most likely not speaking to you because she may think you won't stand by her. Go to her house and explain that you love her and will support her and the baby and if she won't listen write a letter. Don't give up football, but carry on your job to earn for the baby, and don't let your studies slip. Your job and studies are most important. Convince your girlfriend to tell her mom and dad, they need to know and they can help her. I think it'd be best if she either quit cheerleading or asked if she could take a more backseat role (she could just say she has a sprained ankle). If you need any more advice or just need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to contact me. Hope this helps :)

Answer 4

seriously i think that she should have an abortion. sorry but if she keeps this pregnancy her body will end up ruined. You both have so much going for you right now. If you both don't believe in abortion, then please please give the baby up for adoption. Having a baby at a young age is very hard! The first thing to go is the money. Babies go through new clothes every couple of months the first year alone, now add in diapers. Newborns go through 75 diapers a week my friend. Add in formula, and if she breast feeds instead her breasts will sag after. Then you have medical insurance and bills, no sleep, teething, shots, illnesses, and that is only in the first two years. Having a baby is no joke. And you have them basically forever even though they may be moved out at 18 they still need their parents sometimes. Also throw in time. Kids require ALOT OF TIME. And they always take more than they give. So please seriously think this through because i know from experience how truly hard it is to be a teen mom. And then there is sometimes resentment toward the kid, for things you've sacrificed and given up for it. Although you love it.

Answer 5

I love how you got the blame for getting her in this situation. It takes two to tango, and unless it was rape, she was a willing participant.

Bye bye football, bye bye cheerleading. I have a 16 y-old, make $60K a year and it's a struggle at times. Walmart and Movie Gallery part time won't hack it.

Once that egg was fertilized, you and your girlfriend ceased being the center of the universe. Don't worry, you too can be the center of the universe in, say, 19 years.

Answer 6

You are so involved in yourself that you shut out the world. You were not smart enough to use protection, but you are smart enough to know you will be first in the NFL. You have a lot of growing up to do. It sounds like your Dad is a wise man and is giving you good advice, You just kicked football out of your life, now find a real job and support the child.

Answer 7

if your parents will help support you at least emotionally until you can finish school that will help --- see a doctor and let them tell you what is best for the baby ---- if football is all you are good at you need to have a back up plan just in case that does not work out as well you need to have a good plan with what you will invest the money in if you do succeed at football -- i know it sounds daunting if you love and support each other then you can make this work --- my best wishes to you both

Answer 8

You are kind of sounding selfish...think of your girlfriend right now having a little person growing inside of her, growing hands, growing feet, using all their senses. All I say is don't choose abortion that is murdering someone, and don't say it isn't someone until they are born, because I will go into an arguement with you about that. If you don't want the child there are plenty of loving caring people out their who would love to love your child. Last thing stop thinking about yourself and the little game of football (which could be over anytime), life happens, sometimes the outcomes of mistakes can be the most positive event in your life.

Answer 9

FIRST of all you guys Act like it was the baby's fault you can't get rid of a human being that is murder maybe this mistake as you guys say can be the best thing in both of them in there lifes if you do not want YOUR baby there is adoption and other sources think hard about this every thing happens for a reason

Answer 10

Let me get this straight, you and your girlfriend are about to bring another life into this world and you're more worried about extracurricular activities?

All I can say is that she will eventually have to quit the squad because all the bouncing will be impossible around the 6th month.

You might want to figure out what you're going to do after school. And you should tell your parents because at around the 9th month when she's in labor, it'll be a little difficult to hide contractions.