I don't want to be gay!!!!!!?

Question

I don't want to get made fun of. I want to fall in love with a girl. I want to hold her in my arms. I want to make her laugh. I want to hold her hand and kiss her public. I want to stop her from crying. I want to be a man.

I dont want to be gay. I hate it. I hate myself.

No ones ever fallen in love with me. Except a girl. And I shoved her away. I want her back. I want to be loved.

Answer 1

It's not as bad as you think, and if you really desire a woman, then maybe you're bi. But if the sexual desire for a woman is not there, do you think it's fair to any woman you might choose to fake it with? It's not fair to you either. Live your life in peace and be who you are. You'll be happier in the long run.

Answer 2

I would become a Christian (actually, I already have) because God wants to be your Father and he can heal you where your biological father hurt you. It will take time and you must forgive, but when the healing process is complete, you may very well find that you are quite content as a heterosexual man and you can satisfy a good woman better than you could before too. It's been my experience that no one can love me anywhere near as well as Jesus can and does. It's amazing, and not just something that I learned in church. If you do convert, just remember that temptation is not sin, so don't get discouraged if and when you are tempted back to your old lifestyle. All Christians struggle sometimes with the sins of their past. Maybe you should get counseling too. She needs the Lord too. Good men aren't completely useless but they have their limits.

Answer 3

THIS SHOULD BE SAID AGAIN:

Quote: "As much as there's a bunch of ballyhoo as to whether your sexuality is by choice or from birth, we all have desires each and every day that we can choose to act on or not. If you don't wish to live a homosexual lifestyle, then don't. There are people who are sexually attracted to both sexes, yet choose just one mate and aren't promiscuous. Love isn't based just on sex, it's based on compatibility, enjoyment, and common goals. Decide who YOU are, and don't let what other people say change how you feel. There is NOTHING wrong with being a feminine heterosexual man, and if someone tries to tell you otherwise, then he or she is the one with an issue, not you."

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Oh, hon. As much as there's a bunch of ballyhoo as to whether your sexuality is by choice or from birth, we all have desires each and every day that we can choose to act upon or not. If you dont wish to live a homosexual lifestyle, then don't. There are people who are sexually attracted to both sexes, yet choose just one mate and aren't promiscuous. Love isnt based just on sex, its based on compatability, enjoyment, and common goals. Decide who YOU are, and dont let what other people say try to change how you feel. There is NOTHING wrong with being a feminine heterosexual man, and if someone tries to tell you otherwise then they are the ones with an issue, not you.

Answer 5

Woah calm down its going to be okay. I have never been in this situation b.c im str8 thats who i am i like guys but i have been in similar things. I have been afrid to feel and love b.c of waht ppl mite htink. Dont let waht other people say get in the way of waht u want. If Being gay is who u are then dont be afraid of waht people think! Sure some ppl mite say stuff but screw them they are just insecure and not as free as u to express themselves. BEing able to say u are gay is a very hard thing and it takes alot of strength. Which u h ave just belive in yourself. SO if ppl make fun of u say so waht? Your straight, u could make fun of them for being str8. What really is the difference?? YOu can do it i know you can jsut be strong. This will all be hard at first but u will be so much happier. Dont be afarid of who u are!Tell that girl how u love her u jsut are afraid she willl understand. BE strong and good luck im proud of u for being who u are. I wish i was as strong as u. Im here for u. And i am pulling for u. Good luck.

Answer 6

How sad. You are what you are. Nothing can or will change that. There are lots of girls and women who like gay men, there are beautiful, wonderful, fun friendships between them, but either no sex or very little sex. In a relationship like that you get all the benefits of love except sex and if you are not attracted to females sexually that is no loss.

Answer 7

You have to accept who you really are....It is hard but you need to stop battleling inside and let it sink in. Are you sure you are gay b/c you were in love with a girl before? Maybe you are just confused and need to make up your mind... So decide what youre needs are and address them.

Answer 8

Oh, this is so sad. You will not find happiness until you accept yourself. You can have the loving relationship that you want, and I'm sure that you will, in time, but with a man, because that is who you are, and that's okay. Please don't hate yourself, you've done nothing wrong, you haven't hurt anybody.My grandfather always used to say "You are what you are and you ain't what you ain't."

Answer 9

Hang in there. You need to love yourself before anybody else will love you. Nobody can make that happen for you except you.

Answer 10

you can love anyone you want but if you arent sure of ur sexuality then its unfair to have someone be apart of ur life when ur arent really urself...you will find that the world has a lot of accepting people..though some may not be, that shouldnt make u be afraid to be who u are..