My husband is a great guy about 98% of the time, he is a good father, good provider, great lover, great husband, etc. But there are a few things I hate:
When he is grumpy, sometimes it seems for no reason at all
he is ALWAYS mean and moody around my family. I barely see them because of him now. I know they are difficult but they are nice and do nice things for us for instance took the kids for us the whole weekend for free, and did he even say thank you? No, he grabbed them and didn't look any of them in the eye and was like sitting in the car waiting for me (jerk?) I mean I know he's tired and they talk alot but can't a NORMAL person say something like "I'm tired, thanks so much for taking the kids, I'm gonna take off and catch up with you when I'm not so tired?"
and,,,holidays he acts like a jerk too. So we had an excellent anniversary weekend. Now today it's our anniversary and he's being a jerk, maybe because he already gave me a nice weekend and doesn't have to be nice 2day?
2007-05-29 12:05:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do guys not get that they are supposed to say "sorry" and try to make amends, not give the silent treatment or act "moody" and flowers don't hurt once in awhile, or "I was a jerk".
2007-05-29 12:06:11 · update #1
If he's great 98% of the time, let go of the times when he's not so great... I'm sure you're no angel either. If being moody is his weakness - accept it and forgive him. I wonder how many other women can say that their husband is a GREAT guy 98% of the time? No one can be perfect 100%.
2007-05-29 12:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can empathize with you when your husband acts like a jerk! But if you've got a man that's 98% great, do you know how many of us would swap with you in a heartbeat???
What kind of family does HE have? That might provide a clue as to his actions around your family. He may have some emotional issues to deal with that stem from the family he came from. And generally speaking, men are not as talkative as women. The fact that he's acting out on your anniversary may be another clue. Does he find it hard to show emotion (except during lovemaking)? Is he uncomfortable with the emotional aspect of holidays?
Otherwise, you seem to have found a GEM!!
2007-05-29 12:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If giving flowers isn't something he's done in the past then I doubt it will happen with out a little more hints from you. As far as your family goes , you don't have to take him with you when you go pick up the kids or you want to visit. It's how you want to take the bad with the good. Or if you find it over bearing and out weighing the good, it's time to talk to him about a marriage counselor . By the way Happy Anniversary and I hope you have a life time of them together.
2007-05-29 12:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really a great guy 98% of the time, focus on that to get you through the few rough times. Family is very important, but how many women do you know that are lucky enough to have a man that's great 98% of the time?? I dont think I know any!!
2007-05-29 12:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Here_for_what 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I read a little of myself into your predicament - I am not a huge fan of my in-laws and sometimes have approached the status you describe.
There really is no excuse, though obviously we don't have his side of the story.
I agree with some of the others. Calmly but firmly state your dissapointment in his behavior, then focus your energies elsewhere and be happy with the 98% great guy.
Good luck
mg
2007-05-29 12:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by Matt G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he just feels awkward around your family because since he is the man who married you there's a lot expected of him. Try talking to him about it the next time it happens. If worst comes to worst then try bribing him. And if that doesn't work make him sleep on the sofa for a few nights!
2007-05-29 12:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by Realist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Some people are biogenically "disagreeable;" sounds like you got yourself someone with a "trait" issue. Hmmm...Either that, or he has a really stressful job, and simply needs a restorative "niche," getting it by withdrawing...
You love him, and he's good to you and the kids, right? Forget the rest! Is it that important/can't you simply compensate/keep him away from such situations?
Best of luck.
2007-05-29 12:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Artemisia G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are so self centered that they do not care to be polite, they do not care to have manners, and they do not care about what is important to anyone other than themselves. I have a feeling you know of something that is important to him. Maybe next time he wants that, you can act like he does. Maybe it'll get through to him, but it's doubtful. He sounds stuck in his ways.
2007-05-29 12:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah u might desire to be disillusioned come on now it truly is you adult men anniversary extremely he is going out along with his friends and spend money and then turns around and buys a stereo equipment whilst u adult men dont haven't any money sounds desire to me he only cares approximately himself and u instructed him b4 the anniversary comes up and doesnt wanna to pay attention and tells u u adult men are happening a visit and money comes and flow i may be disillusioned with him alot he couldnt even get a anniversary card for you yet buys a stereo equipment for his motor vehicle so if he might desire to that plenty on that crap then might have have been given u a card a minimum of or permit you recognize happy anniversary whilst the subsequent time hes broke or in spite of and u been working difficult with ur money and carry on positioned it to the part and whilst he comes around i wouldnt provide him a million single dime stable success
2016-10-09 02:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i recommend the book that violet pearl said. i read it and one page changed my marriage. perhaps he feels you side with your family instead of supporting him as his wife? im not saying he wasnt being jerky, but theres always 3 sides to a story. are you married to your family, or him? and what did you do for HIM on your anniversary day? just a thought. good luck, and love your husband, he is the person you chose to marry, and im sure there were many reasons for that
2007-05-29 13:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋