2007-05-29 11:49:50 · 31 answers · asked by golfergal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is the affair still going on? I know it is tempting, but you should probably not do this.
2007-05-29 11:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As good as an idea as it may sound right now, because you might feel scorned, don't air things like this in public venues. You must be extremely hurt to think about doing this to her (not that you don't have a right to be angry about this), but the truth is, your husband participated in this act of betrayal, too.
I don't think employers will get involved in any domestic issues of an employee, unless it affects their work productivity. While it may cause embarrassment to the OW, you never know what your husband has told her about you and your homelife, so be careful if you start this war. After an affair, the OW has nothing to lose, but a lot of hurt. If you try to hurt her, you may have a war on your hands and indirectly affect your children, family, or your own employer. Remember, your husband wasn't truthful, so you don't know what kind of ammunition she may use to get back at you.
I believe you should continue to be the classy, dignified, honorable woman that you are and "kill her with kindness". That will drive her crazy, not mention make her even more jealous that she didn't succeed in taking your husband, if you two or trying to work things out. I say keep your eyes and ears focused on your husband, not the OW. God bless you!
2007-05-29 19:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the affair is taking place on company grounds, the employer couldn't do anything about it, even if they wanted to.
I'm thinking, as an employer, if someone called me to tell me one of my employes was having an affair with someone else's spouse, I would be polite to the caller, hang up, and forget about it.
2007-05-29 20:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by trippedits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally your husbands fault. His commitment was to you and he betrayed you! cheating is always a choice and never a mistake. My anger would be totally on him bcause he choose to do it and didn't walk away. No one makes you do something like that unless they want to do it anyway and thats why he did it. A man has to think about it all in his mind first and has to be aroused by a woman to have sex with her. This belongs on your husband and you need to let him own it. This woman had no feelings for you but your husband was suppose to! If he works with her and you are staying with him after all he has done to hurt you he needs to get another job. Also you both need to be in counseling together. If you are wanting to get her fired so that your husband can keep his job the boss may just fire him to. I would make him resign with a good work record so that he can use the job for a reference sweeite. Best wishes and I hope things work out for you.
2007-05-29 19:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how will this help you in any way?
It is your husband and your marriage that is in trouble, and you should focus all your energy and resources to either fix this or get out.
Being vindictive towards this woman and telling her employer will just get you to look like the scorned wronged wife and a victim.
Be pro-active and let your husband know that you intend on dealing with his infidelity and with him in a direct no-nonsense manner.
2007-05-29 18:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what will this accomplish? If your husband and her work for the same employer wouldn't this make him look bad? if you tell her employer, what keeps her from contacting yours back?
2007-05-29 19:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tempting to ruin her life since she ruined your marriage. But be the bigger person and don't try to get her back. Your husband is the one who did this to your marriage. Take it up with him not her. I don't think her employer cares what she does on her personal time or who she sleeps with.
Good luck. Sorry your going through this.
2007-05-29 18:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Shanny 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No.. Have no idea of the details and sure am not intending on taking her side.. But No.. I mean who wants their employer to know of their BAD choices...
Not many HR depts would do anything about it..
good luck..
2007-05-29 19:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Julie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in your position. No, you should not tell her employer. Be the better person and you'll never be sorry. Someone's got to do it. Why not let it be you?
2007-05-29 18:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by MNature 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wont do you any good. He doesnt care what happens outside the work place,allhes worried about is in the workplace and if neither shows ay sign of trouble,then theres nothing legaly or morally he can do about it
2007-05-29 18:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋