Why do people think that sex is what's most important in a marriage?

Question

Personally I don't feel that way, I think there are more important things to marriage than sex, but just curious as to what you all think.

Answer 1

I don't think its the most important part of marriage, but it is a important part..

Answer 2

Its not the most important but its at the top, I mean we as humans are not suppose to have sex till we say "I do's" and if we did that then it be a lot better. But its very important the same with kids and all the great stuff that comes from a marriage even the bad stuff but least you have someone to hold when bad stuff happens. Now some humans don't like sex which is ok, just find someone the same way as you , or it could be cheating down the line.

Think everything is equal and if not it should be, shouldn't put work over sex, or shouldn't put cars or other things over raising your kids.Everything should have an equal will in the marriage. But that does mean that sex should happen 20000000000 times a day till both are dead but also all the other things 200000000000 times a day also.

Lost my job, came home mad
Got a hug and kiss and that's too bad
She said I can go to work until you find another job
I thought I like the sound of that
Watch TV and take long naps
Go from a hand working dad to being Mr. Mom

Well
Pampers melt in a Maytag dryer
Crayons go up one drawer higher
Rewind Barney for the fifteenth time
Breakfast, six naps at nine
There's bubble gum in the baby's hair
Sweet potatoes in my lazy chair
Been crazy all day long and it's only Monday
Mr. Mom

Football, soccer and ballet
Squeeze in Scouts and PTA
And there's that shopping list she left
That's seven pages long
How much smoke can one stove make
The kids won't eat my charcoal cake
It's more than any maid can take
Being Mr. Mom

Well
Pampers melt in a Maytag dryer
Crayons go up one drawer higher
Rewind Barney for the sixteenth time
Breakfast, six naps at nine
There's bubble gum in the baby's hair
Sweet potatoes in my lazy chair
Been crazy all day long and it's only Monday
Mr.Mom

Before I fall in bed tonight
If the dog didn't eat the classifieds
I'm gonna look just one more time

'Cause
Pampers melt in a Maytag dryer
Crayons go up one drawer higher
Rewind Barney for the eighteenth time
Breakfast, six naps at nine
There's bubble gum in the baby's hair
Sweet potatoes in my lazy chair
Been crazy all day long
Oh been crazy all day long and it's only Monday
Mr.Mom

Balancin' checkbooks, juggling bills
Thought there was nothing to it
Baby, now I know how you feel
What I don't know is how you do it.

Title: Lonestar - Mr. Mom lyrics
Artist: Lonestar

Answer 3

I agree that there are many things important in marriage but Sex too is important thing in marriage as marriage is the only organized way of doing that and if that does not happen the whole purpose of the marriage goes.. Love is more important for human being for doing anything or at least for living together in marriage so if that is missing than marriage is just a getting together and meet the basic needs of body like eating, drinking..

Answer 4

I personally don't think the foundation of the marriage and the most important thing in a marriage is sex. I do agree that it is an important part of the marriage though. But you will be amazed at how many people, especially men, tend to think that sex is what holds the marriage up.

Answer 5

If the sex is good in a marriage, than it's not the most important thing. If the sex is bad or non-existent, than it becomes the centre of all problems. When you marry someone, they expect intimacy, and if they do not get it on a regular basis from there spouse, they will find it somewhere else (this goes for both men and women.) Of course, you need to seek a partner who is compatible with you in all aspects, spiritual, mental and physical, to share the same goals in life, and to be as sure as possible you are truly ready for this important life time commitment.

Answer 6

I don't think most people think that sex is THE most important thing -- I think it is important - because it is an expression of how you are feeling toward the other person it is a barometer of how all of the other things in the relationship are working. Communication is the most important thing -- If you don;t have that -- you have nothing.

Answer 7

I'm curious too. Curious to know who told you sex was the most important thing. I don't know any married couples who feel it's the most important thing in their marriage. Important, yes. Most important, no.

Answer 8

I wouldn't say sex is what's 'most' important....but sex is DEFINITELY important in marriage.

You realize, some of the most common causes for divorce are financial or sexual related? Obviously that means something.

Sex is a way to connect to your partner...to REALLY connect and 'become one.' It's emotional, it's fun, and it's something special that you *should* only share with that one person.

I always find that my hubby and I argue a lot less when we are regularly having sex, lol. It relieves a lot of tension...and reminds us (or maybe just me, haha) that we're still attracted to each other and want to be together.

So, sex is DEFINITELY not THE MOST IMPORTANT aspect in a relationship.....but I would say it's DEFINITELY up there.

Then again, all relationships are different, so I'm sure each relationship would hold sex at a different level.....it's a lot more fun having it near the top of the list though ;-)

Answer 9

Sex is a part of it but its not the most important item in a relationship anyone can have sex but not many people can have a relationship we all know relationships can be hard and we work on them all the time but i look at it like this if you don't have it mentally then it does not mean much physically

Answer 10

I don't think sex is that important at all. Of'course I am 45. I know other people men and women that have a way higher sex drive than me. Marriage is way more than sex.

Answer 11

It's just as important as other aspects of marriage. It's not the only important thing. The only time it becomes "important" is when one partner is withholding sex or using it as a tool. This happens to many men, read this board.