I have been with my boyfriend for a few years and we are getting married this July. Since the day i met him, I was so deeply in love, and my feelings have not changed. For about 2 and a half years we have been sexually active and our sex life is great. But lately, for about the past 7 months, I have not wanted to have any type of sexual activity at all. I still love him and it has nothing to do with that.
I have depression, anxiety and bi-polar.. could that possibly have anything to do with it? Or is it all of the insane stress i go through from my job, our wedding, and money issues? Or do you think it could be something to do with our relationship?
I have talked to him and he understands. Some nights we will try, and im just not into it at all! I need help and suggestions... thank you all.
2007-05-29 10:05:26 · 19 answers · asked by afireinsidexxx77 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
What type of meds are you on for the depression etc... you described? The side effects on some of the medicine cause loss of interest in sex. Read the paper you are given with your refills or look it up on WebMd. Talk to the one that gave you the medicine and see if they can't make an adjustment. It's a good thing you can talk this stuff out so early in your relationship. I hope you keep it up. Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-29 10:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by VetSupporter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not worry at all, it is a temporary period, you just answered your question by saying, depression, planning for the wedding, and money issues, may dear nothing wrong with you at all, you are normally perfect it just your brain is not concentrating. because of those your wedding, money and etc.... i have been their, do not worry, and you know what is the most beautiful thing here that you both are in love even if it was the first or second year that is it ,you are secure , this is more important than anything else in the world love, so if you do not want to have sex try to do alternative stuff, does not have to be sex , try by loving him more and him loving you back. that work. and congratulation on your wedding, and please just enjoy it it is once a life so take a break and breath, and look at the man you have chosen to spend your life with. good luck :), money depression comes and go, one day up and one day down, .
2007-05-29 10:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your taking medication or had a recent change in medication for the bi-polar it can definitely kill the sex drive. Stress can kill the sex drive as well. Try planning an easy night out and not putting stress on having sex....Sometimes that makes it even more difficult. If you are on medication then you can talk to your doctor about finding a different medication that may have less of an effect on your libido.
2007-05-29 10:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by be happier own a pitbull 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a big step. Do you have a therapist to talk about your feelings? I would wonder if your body is trying to tell you something about how ready you feel to marry your boyfriend. Or, maybe you're starting to feel safe enough in your relationship with him that you're ready to process abuse issues from childhood (if there are any).
In any case it sounds like you've got a good guy. I hope you'll find a neutral person to talk to so you can start to delve into the issues and figure out what's going on. If you want to talk privately feel free to email me.
Edit: Oh yikes!! The medication!! That's very likely the cause if you had any change in meds around that time.
2007-05-29 10:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-05 15:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the stress, depression etc. If you are on medication for your depression/bipolar disorder, this could also cause you to not want sex. You should speak to you doctor if this is the case. Congratulations and best of luck with you upcoming wedding.
2007-05-29 10:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by CDRN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes to all of the above. Depression, anxiety, stress, have all been clinically linked to reduced sex drive. If your relationship is still good and loving otherwise, then no worries. As long as he loves you enough to understand.
2007-05-29 10:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by DTD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be your medications. I was taking anti-depressants for awhile and lost my desire completely. It can also be a change in your hormones which is common as you get older. Have you switched any psychotropic drugs recently? If you don't think it's the medications, talk to your doctor about hormonal changes and see if he/she can help you with that. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
2007-05-29 10:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it may just be stress from all the preparation for the wedding and your future together. Just take everything one step at a time and one day at a time, and it will work out fine. Congratulations & I wish you both the best!
2007-05-29 10:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Finesse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is probably just all this stress.Also, if you are not into sex right now and your future husband understands its ok.You might be stressed or you might be nervous.If the marrige is coming to fast then you should delay it.If this keeps happening after you get married then you should contact a doctor about depression
2007-05-29 10:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋