How to be happy?

Question

In the last few weeks i just have felt useless and forgetable. I don't know exactly why but it feels like i'm stuck in one spot in my life and everybody i know is moving forward. I don't know how to get out of this and feel idk i would settle for stress/worry free and happy.

Answer 1

Life is full of 'hills and vallley'. Sounds like your just in a valley right now. Everyone has 'em. Don't dump on yourself too much. Get involved in something that makes you feel good. Or that makes others feel good, which will in turn make you feel good. Smile! :)

Answer 2

This is just a suggestion, but try going to Church or talking to someone who cares about the outcome of YOUR life. A pastor, parent, grandparent, counselor, or anyone who has your best interests at heart and doesn't have any hidden motives. Remember that you are unique and that you can be anything you want. Sit down and write down your goals in life and what you need to do before you can reach your goals and start making baby steps towards your goals. Don't try to do too much- you can get discouraged that way! I am praying for you!

Answer 3

I think alot of people experience this feeling. Do you think it's just a rut or do you think it's something more serious like depression or anxiety? Think about what you want and work towards it. Or, simply find ways to rewind and relieve stress. Maybe you need to do something new and spontaneous as a way to break you out of these feelings. Take a break and a breather.

Answer 4

So, who are you? Are you someone who has a spiritual-, psychological- and a physical self? Of course you are!

In the spiritual and the psychological realms, you can become whatever you want to become. You can transcend any heights and surmount any obstacles in the path of your spiritual and emotional development. In the physical self, however, you can improve only on some of the aspects, but others you must accept.

It is possible to have a sense of physical well-being and good health in spite of the body not feeling all that great. In case of a serious and chronic illness or handicap, acceptance of "as is" is critical in order to focus on accommodations (of the limitations) and improvement.

Life is more about climbing heights and jumping hurdles than about staging a walk in front of an audience. Yet, a lot of people believe and act as if they are on display. Their central inquiry is about "How do I look?" rather than "what am I like as a person?"

Personal satisfaction to some extent is related to the satisfaction with the body. The extent to which you let the body satisfaction influence your overall satisfaction is up to you.

For a balanced perspective, we should perhaps view ourselves ninety percent spiritual and psychological beings, and ten percent physical beings. Bodies decay and develop problems, as we grow older. Therefore, it makes sense to assign larger percentage to the nonphysical aspect of our existence. However some people put these percentages the other way around. They act as if they are one hundred percent body and nothing else!

As a result, enormous anxiety and depression could build up around physical appearance, size and weight. There are people who are afraid and disgusted with their bodies. Some even kill themselves in the process of changing their bodies by starvation, over exercise, surgery, drugs or synthetic hormones and all because they can't stand the sight of their body.

You don't lose your motivation for self-improvement when you appreciate and feel grateful for what you have (or don't have). You can still work diligently and persistently on self-improvement. In fact, you are likely to progress faster and overcome the obstacles with an attitude of acceptance and gratitude.

People, who don't believe that progress is possible without being self-critical and discontented, will notice a difference in the progress if they just try for a few months to feel appreciation and gratitude for what they have.

So, if you are one of those who think their face is too long (or too round), their belly is sticking out, thighs too fat or thin, breasts too large or small, you should try admiring yourself in front of the mirror instead of always feeling apologetic.

Changing the focus of the attention works better towards the goal of improvement. For example, if you are unhappy with your weight or some other aspect of your body, find other activities and interests that can bring you joy. Discover for yourself how enjoyable life can be without focusing on how frustrated or disgusted you are with some aspects of yourself.

So, change the focus of your attention if it has become an obsession and still be disciplined to work diligently and persistently towards self-improvement. Who says that you have to be disgusted with yourself in order to exercise, eat better and work harder?

As the focus of negative attention should change, so should the toxic meaning of certain distorted values. For example, food should be for the purpose of nurturance. If you have a love-hate relationship with food, you must change it. The sole purpose of food is to nourish the body, mind and the soul. Is it serving that purpose right now?

Beauty truly lies in what we create and what we offer to others. If that is the case, know that you are beautiful. Okay, so you have people around you who think that physical attraction is all that there is to beauty. It doesn't matter. What matters most is what you believe.

True freedom also involves freeing yourself from the tyranny of such negative emotions as guilt, self-criticism and self-dissatisfaction. Don't give too much power to the things you can't change.

Find your self-worth in who you are; not in how you look.

Answer 5

Geesh, your question certainly brought out the windbags!

Just decide to be happy, then do it!