my mom is 26 weeks pregnant with twins (through IVF) and last weekend she slipped in the shower and hurt her back on the faucet and dislocated her knee. She spent the weekend in the hospital and was released last Monday but strtictly on bed rest because she even has to be helped to have someone help her to walk to the bathroom. I don't understand what her problem is because when i got home from school today she was trying to get herself off the coach and into the wheelchair we rented without any help. She keeps asking me to take her outside for a walk but I won't because she is insiting on bringing her cane to try and walk with my support.
This is ridiculous and my dad works really long hours. I don't understand why she can't just stay in bed for the next 10 weeks until her C section.
2007-05-29 09:20:49 · 21 answers · asked by pearl m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Are you freaking kidding me??
You try and stay in bed for the next 10 weeks, not move and have to rely on everyone else to do everything for you and take care of the house and cook.
You need to help her out and quit bi&ching.
2007-05-29 09:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Being on bed rest isn't easy. If you were only allowed to be inside 24 hrs. a day, 7 days a week sitting or lying down all day long, you would start to go a little crazy too. You can try to distract her with puzzles, games, movies, etc. I think she just needs some companionship. Remind her when her next doctor visit is, and when she can walk a little there and see the outside world.
First of all, she and your father were the ones who wanted these babies, and if she isn't willing to cooperate with the doctor's orders, then why did they even go through IVF? She is being ridiculous. Let her know that if she really doesn't care about having these two babies then for her to go ahead and take a walk, but without your help. If her demeanor doesn't change, then there is nothing you can do. She sounds like she is a little selfish or just wanting attention. There really isn't much you can do if she fights you on everything. She is the parent, and the one who should be setting the example for you. You can't change her, but you don't have to help her with her ignorant decisions either. Good luck!
2007-05-29 09:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Monica C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been pregnant but I was on bedrest for a while after I had surgery... I did a lot of eating and sleeping! But let's see... if you wanted to do something a little more fun/stimulating I would say watch a movie, paint your nails, do a crossword or sudoku puzzle, read, do some leg lifts, write a short story or a song, or even knit some booties for your coming baby! I hope at least a few of these are appealing. =)
2016-05-21 00:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my mom was pregnant with twins the girl pinned the boy down on her back or something can't really remember but she was in a lot of pain the doctors couldn't do anything they couldn't even move them so she was kinda paralyezed she had to spend all day in a bed I had to help to the bathroom, shower, when she wanted to walk, ext.(and my mom was no small woman and no one else wanted to help) so I know how you feel but I sat in there with her massaged her back to help ease the pain and watched movies and played games. She did get "cabin fever" and wanted to walk more often even though she would be in pain. I would try my best and help her and do whatever she needed
2007-05-29 09:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by ?????? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! I am surprised by some of the comments you have received so far. Okay so it is really hard to stay on bed rest because you are antsy and you feel helpless and if you are home alone that makes it really hard. You are right though she needs to stay down just try and help her the best you can and remind her it is for the safety of the babies that she rest. You are being a great kid by insisting she stick with the rules the doctor gave her. Good luck!
2007-05-29 09:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Luvinmykids 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your mother is pregnant with twins and nearing her third trimester, chances are she's really uncomfortable right now, and on top of this she has the knee injury.
I would suggest you try to be a little more understanding. Take a "walk" with your mother even if it means pushing a wheelchair. Spend some time with her. When the twins come everyone will be really busy so treasure this time.
You've probably never been pregnant so it's hard for you to judge her.
2007-05-29 09:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hun, lay down in your bed for longer than 48 hours, it sucks. Wait until your body creates life, not an easy task. 24 hours a day 7 days a week you are being drained by a kid, your mom, bless her heart, is creating twins.
Take her out, she created you, birthed you, raised you, deal with it. She's not asking you to wash her behind and chain you up and beat you with a bat.
Just take her cane away and make her roll in the wheelchair, she can't chase you down.
2007-05-29 09:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Harley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to get "cabin fever" when you're stuck in bed or inside all day.
It would be great for you to wheel her around outside, but do make sure you leave the cane at home. Some other things that can help her deal with the mind-numbing boredom is to get her movies she likes, books, puzzle books, or a good sit-down project she can work on (making a baby book perhaps?)
2007-05-29 09:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by daisyk 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to be taken for a walk in her wheelchair, then by all means, take your mother for a walk young lady! But, stress to your father and her that because the doctor ordered such strict bedrest, she must follow the rules or she could lose the babies. At this point, doctor knows best. But, if she feels the need to get up and walk around, that's her choice. She's a grown woman.
2007-05-29 09:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
How would you like having to stay in bed for 10 weeks? She is probably bored out of her mind and restless. Offer to walk her but only if she leaves the cane at home. It's hard for a normally healthy person to rely on others for care and a bit embarassing to. Find out if there is any physical therapy she can work on.
2007-05-29 09:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Meems 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being on bedrest is really hard, especially when you are uncomfortably big!!! Your mom needs to realize though that she could throw herself into labor if she walks against her dr's orders....you could always call her dr and see what he/she says about the situation and telll your mother...i would recommend going ahead and taking your mom on walks but under the condition that she stays in the wheel chair and just tell her that you want 2 healthy siblings and that means that she needs to follow the dr's orders very closely!!
2007-05-29 09:26:58 · answer #11 · answered by tll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋