ive found out today that ive lost my baby (8wks), altho im gutted, i would want to try again. I'm thinking of waiting for at least one normal period before i start! do you think this is too early or will this be ok?? (sensible answers only plz!) Thanx x
2007-05-29 08:48:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would like to thank you all for your well wishes... and feedback. from looking at all your answers i feel the answer depends on 'when you feel your ready!' thank you so much! xxxx hugs xxxxx
2007-05-29 09:04:37 · update #1
I miscarried in January after an agonising 4 weeks of on/off bleeding.
The gyn told me I could start trying straight away and that they only advise that you wait one cycle so that they can date the pregnancy.
The nurse that was with me during my d&c recommended that I wait until May (i.e. now) to allow my body to heal properly etc.
In the first few days after the miscarriage I was adamant that we would probably start trying straight away.
My feelings changed a number of times. My periods have only just started to settle down. I had three 20 day cycles and now have only just got my second normal period.
Now I am starting to feel like trying again. I have gone back to the gym to try and get a little fitter and stronger.
I feel like i have given my body and my mind enough time to try to heal. Christmas and January was a horrible time for us.
Anyway we both agree that we would start trying again and see what happens.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a very sad time. My best advice would be just allow yourself to go with how you feel at the moment, dont fight any feelings. Let your body and your mind grieve.
Only you will know when the time is right for you. Lots of people fall straight away next cycle and go on to have normal healthy pregnancies. Do what feels right for you.
Good luck and lots of baby dust to you xxxx
2007-05-29 09:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i am sorry , very sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 6 weeks in November and was pregnant again by late December, am nearly 7 months now. I say this to everyone , who has miscarried ...please grieve and make sure both you and your body are well .... No one can tell you when the best time is, only you and your partner will know for sure. Take care adn I hope all goes well for the future. By the way, my doc said that contrary to what peole may think, just because you have had 1 miscarriage does not mean that you are at greater risk of having another. ALot of women miscarry without knowing, we all have probably had a few in our lives, just didnt know about them and we end up thinkink that our periods were late or just heavy. Again, good luck and god blessx
2007-05-29 09:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by brunelscooby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its how you feel. i had miscarriage at 13.5 weeks and i went through a pretty bad time because of hospital negligence afterwards i thought i would never want children. i am now with a new partner and we have a 5 month old son. this all happened 3 years ago. only you know when your ready everybody will be different. my personal advice would be to wait a little while for your body to settle back down as its been through a trauma but also shock can set in a few days or weeks later and you need to deal with that. all the best and i hope whatever you decide works out for you .
2007-05-29 09:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Harry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should go to the doctor if you haven't already. They need to check you to make sure everything has worked its way out so you dont get sick or have problems becoming pregnant again. This happened with my husband & I and the doctors told us to give it a month or two before trying again because even though you were very early in the pregnancy, your body needs to heal. Wait at least 2 months to be safe.
P.S. Im sorry for your loss.
2007-05-29 08:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Aubry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and was advised to wait for one full cycle before trying again. It took 3 months but now I am pregnant with twins!
This is a very difficult time for you and the only way to get through it is to look forward.
Good luck.
2007-05-29 08:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I ve had 8 miscarriages and 2 live children. When I had my first miscarriage I got pregnant again right away. About 2 -3 weeks later. My son turned out okay. I had a miscarriage 2 months after having him. I got pregnant, again, after that one in about a month. My daughter turned out just fine. .....
2007-05-29 08:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was told to wait and have 3 periods. I only ended up having two in 6 months though - but i fell pregnant anyway - 21 weeks tomorrow.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 01:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there first of all im sorry to hear of your loss i miscarried 5 weeks ago we were both gutted but as it was a complete miscarriage decided to try again and im pregnant again now i fell straight away so the doc took the day of my miscarriage as the 1st day of pregnancy its totaly up to both u and your partner when your ready to try again but i wish u all the luck in whatever you do xx
2007-05-29 19:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all i am so very sorry for your loss. I know how heart braking that can be. I was told to wait until i was done bleeding and than wait another cycle. Good luck Hope you feel better.
2007-05-29 09:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I want to send you my condolences, it's a horrible thing to happen.
xxx
You are normally advised to wait 3 months before trying again to give your body a chance to settle back down after the hormones you've started to get in your system.
(well, I was anyway)
Good Luck with trying again.
xxx
2007-05-29 08:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋