I have a set of triplet babies. I boy ( Alex) and 2 girls ( abby , anna ) they are 5 months and just are starting to rawl and get into things my husband works from 9 in the morning to 5 at night I have a degree for doctoring but can't start working till the babies are bigger. These are my first children. It is very hard to take care of the babies during the day when my husband is home he helps ALOT but during the day its hard to take care of 3 children. What shoukd I do hire someone to help me during the day or what?
2007-05-29 08:10:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If you could have someone help you out for alittle while I would do it. It seems like you have your hands full and you need to be able to take care of yourself as well. Good Luck!!!!
2007-05-29 08:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by spunkygirl77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Triplets, they are a handful even if they weren't your first. I don't know where you live, but I would call to see if in your area they have any parent aide services available. Someone that would come in to assist you even just a couple hours daily, to help with the babies routine. They will have you explain what your daily routine is and where you feel you need the most help. Then you can decide how much help you need during the day and where you need it most.
If you are a trusting person, you could advertise in your local paper for someone. Besure you do a thorough background check on anyone you are trusting in your home with yourself and your children. Or you could go thru a nanny service to assist you, just besure it is a crediable service and that they have complete references and background checks on people they employ. Whichever you choose, make sure you see the persons credentials and you know their background. You don't want to open your home and entrust your children's care to some unstable person. It is also not a bad idea to put closed circuit camera's in each room to monitor the care your children receive from caretakers when you are not home, for your children's protection.
Just remember background checks and credentials are all fine and well but your best guide is your mother's intuition. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or you have an uneasy feeling or any doubts, stay away from them. Relying on someone other than yourself for the care, safety and protection of your children is a difficult thing to do. Good Luck.
2007-05-29 16:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy_cruzir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a neighbor or friend who could help out on certain days? Maybe this summer you can find a teenage girl you trust and ofer to pay her to help.
At lest maybe pick 2 or 3 days where someone helps you and it will give you some sort of break. My husband watched my 3 year old and our twins age 15 months throughout the week when I work, it is very hard. I hope you find someone who can help you. Also, if you go to church ask someone there. Good luck.
2007-05-29 15:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! 3 babies your first time?! I have one and I can barely keep up with her! I would definitely look into having someone help you out. Even if its only every other day or for a couple hours a day. You definitely need some relaxation! Also, try to get out with your husband sometimes just the two of you. It will give you a much needed break from the kids.
2007-05-29 15:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 year old and an 18 week old and I can't get anything done - I can't imagine having 3 babies and no one else to help during the day. For your sanity I think it would definately be good to have someone help you out - It would be nice to have someone there to help out with daily house chores - cleaning, laundry.... that way you could concentrate on the children and not worry about anything else. Also, you may enjoy having another adult to talk to during the day - I love my children but after an entire day of just them I can't wait to talk with my husband when he gets home from work.
2007-05-29 15:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by tracey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, if you can afford it, get help. I can't imagine trying to coral three active crawlers.
Beyond hiring help, you could also make your life easier, if you haven't already. Create a room just for them and gate it. Babyproof this room, create obstacle courses for them, and generally let them crawl around to their heart's content. It'll not only allow you to relax a bit (not having to chase them around), but also tire them out! However, there's only so much time you can keep them in the gated area and it has to be pretty big to encourage their activity... so hiring help is key!
If you're tired from doing housework, I would hire a maid or a housekeeper type. That way, you can devote your time to meaingful activities with your children instead of cooking, cleaning etc.
I work full time and didn't have the energy to chase my active toddler around and get the house cleaned, so I "outsourced" that. I also "outsourced" the landscaping. I have never felt BETTER. It's money well spent.
2007-05-29 15:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can your mom or MIL, a younger sister, or relative help out a few hours a day until you get a routine down. If you have the means to hire help for a few hours a day, then do so. It can allow a more enjoyable, relaxed pace for your family. However you should try to make it a temporary arrangement until you figure out how to manage on your own during the day. You should contact a local branch of MOM (Mothers of Multiples) and maybe they have someone who helps you!
2007-05-29 15:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you could hire someone, or call on your parents or siblings help to get you through as well.
Just remember, keep them on a real good schedule to save your sanity.
I watched 4 babies all under age 8 months when i was doing daycare and only wanted to take babies. and i found the more strict the schedule and the more i stuck with it, the better i felt at the end of the day.
I know its not the same and i really have no idea what you must be going through. might wanna try it and see if it works
good luck to you and congrats onall the babies :)
2007-05-29 15:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by ilovemykids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the money by all means hire someone to help you do the chores around the house. Helping bathe and feed the babies will be a huge help for you and you wont miss out on all the good stuff that happens daily with them.
Good luck!!
2007-05-29 15:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby proof the house so there isn't anything bad they can get into. Hire someone for a few hours a day to help out.
2007-05-29 15:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by nanners454 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A degree for "doctoring" eh? lol
Anyways, definatley get some help. Have grandma come over. Hire someone if you can afford it. Five months is extremely early for babies to crawl well enough to be able to get into stuff....especially for triplets, who tend to be preemies and behind a month or so for a while....
2007-05-29 15:18:50 · answer #11 · answered by Mara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋