i am a married woman that is miserable in my marriage and i have been seeing this man who is also married. we have been together for 3 years but we both cannot get out of these relationships that we are currently in. we love each other very much and i am willing to leave everything behind to be with him but i am not sure if he would do the same for me? why do men act like that? does he not feel anything for me?
2007-05-29 07:44:39 · 35 answers · asked by HEARTBOUND♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you both are in love you can do whatever you want to do no metter waht people say
don't pay attention to none one.
if you are not sure
ask him if he's willing to do the same thing.
2007-05-29 07:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pmike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he won't do the same for you.If he really wanted to then he would have a long time ago. If you are unhappy in your marriage and you are willing to give up everything then do so its not fair to your partner or to yourself carrying on in a loveless marriage.Get on with your life. When you are free you will feel a big burden off your shoulders all ready. And maybe this guy will then see what he is doing to his wife is also not fair and either work things out with her or also leave.Either way you and your current husband can go your separate ways and stop hurting each other.I sure hope there is NO kids involve here...
2007-05-29 07:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, the claim that you "cannot get out of these relationships" is a load of bull hooey. This ain't the Middle Ages! Divorce is perfectly accessible and legal and acceptable and, in this case, is the only right thing to do. If you can't be faithful to your husband, you need to at least be honest with him, and your lover needs to show his wife the same courtesy. If you really love each other, and respect yourselves, you'll face the difficulties of divorce to be together.
Tell your lover that you intend to get a divorce so you can be with him, but that he needs to do the same. Since your marriage is so miserable, you should get a divorce regardless of what your lover does - if he gets a divorce, you can be with him; if he doesn't, you need to refuse to be the "other woman" any longer.
Talk to him and take some action - it's only cowardice that keeps you stuck in this quagmire.
2007-05-29 07:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl wake up. The man you are having the affair with will never leave. Why would he? Two women - two sex lives, he's got the best of both worlds. I hate to break it to you but affairs never have happy endings. You should have stayed with your marriage and worked it out like you promised to on your wedding day. Now you've gotten yourself into a loose loose situation. In the best case you will divorce but he will always keep you on the sidelines for backup.
2007-05-29 07:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been seeing one another for three years - did I get that right? And you are having these doubts? You don't know the answer to whether or not he feels for you?
Then I would say that likely he does not.
Oh - and that's not even addressing the issue that you ARE married! You are communicating a lot about yourself in the choices you make - and it's not the type of things that makes most men want to give up all to be with you.
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Okay, I know it feels like 'beat up on you' time... but it doesn't have to be a life sentence. It's your choice, Dear. Make the right one and you can have happiness. Make the wrong one... and you have doubts, questions, fear, concern... and the potential to be left alone with no one.
2007-05-29 07:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by jenneylou 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can leave the current relationships, but you don't want to go through the mess of it all. Both of you want the cake and eat it too, but now you want more than he bargained for.
Either accept the conditions of your adulterous arragement and put up with it, or else, he will get rid of you once you start demanding divorce and marriage from him.
If you are "soo miserable", then be a woman and end it, you don't have to depend emotionally from anyone to save yourself from an unhappy marriage, or demand divorce from someone so you can jump to another boat...
You make the bed, now lay on it.
Good luck
2007-05-29 07:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the grass is always greener on the other side. This new guy your with, you 2 are only together for the good part of life, who's to say that things wont go bad when you 2 are together full time. you obviously married your husband out of love for each other. The fact that your seeing someone else means your only focusing on the bad part of your marriage. you might be better served to communicate your problems with your husband and fix whats wrong instead of seeking companionship with someone else. You might sleep better at night
2007-05-29 07:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rick G 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You say you cannot get out of your marriages, that is just bs. Sounds like you don't want to take the chance of leaving your husband for this other man and then him staying with his wife. Don't you think you deserve to be honest with your husband? If you are so miserable, he has to know things aren't going well.
2007-05-29 07:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some men need something on the side to feel
"hot". You are the side dish. It is about to cost you everything. Get some counseling; your self worth is
in jeopardy, along with your marriage. Then decide it you want to be married or single, very single. Because when you leave your husband, your bf is going to disappear.
2007-05-29 07:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by M S 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because you are his escape, with you he has no obligations, no bills, no nagging, and no kids. If he left his wife to be with you, then you'd become the stressful relationship with all the bills ect. and then there would be another you on the side, which is a carefree, fun exciting relationship. Trust me, put more effort into your husband and leave that other man behind, we always seem to want what we can't have. Human nature I guess.
2007-05-29 07:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why do men act like that? is there a question... why are you actin like that and why are you cheating on your husband?
Anyway you should get a divorce and make your husbands life easier. You do not deserve your husband. You are using him just to stay married.
It should not matter if he (the person you are cheating with) leaves the wife or not. You should end your marriage because u are a CHEATER
2007-05-29 07:49:43 · answer #11 · answered by me_confused 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋