My fiancee has a ex wife and they have no kids together and have been divorced since 2004.She wants him back but he said that he just talk with her about her kids that he raised for four years why they were married.She said that she divoced him for cheating,but he said that she was just insecure and very jealous. And i don't want him to feel like i'am acting like her at all! He is also such a good man to me and gives me and my daugther any thing we want.He's a christian man that i love and when he's not at work he is with me.Now let me tell you that i am 31 and he is 41. What makes me so mad is that she wiil call the house like 10 times a day for nothing and when i answer the phone she will hold it and then say nothing before hanging up.Now it's the little things that i hear being said in his conversation with her that makes me wonder what's going on!! I need to know should i trust and confine in him or should i give him his engagement ring back until i feel like i'am ready to go on?
2007-05-29 07:40:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He still enjoys talking to her and you can't change his feelings for her. It's not the fact that she calls, it's the fact that he answers and talks. You should talk it over with your pastor, since you're all such good Christians.
2007-05-29 07:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, there are two or three issues here we can resolve. What kind of relationship did they have? Was it rocky? Did they both get over their issues after the divorce and now they can talk openly about things? What is your relationship like with him? An honest question here: Are you the jealous type or no? Have a serious talk with him and let him know her actions bother you because you know what her intentions were and what they could be now. He might seriously not even see what you're seeing, and if that's the case he'll realize and put his foot down. If you don't feel like you can trust him or anything like that, I'd wait things out. See what he has to say and go from there. You can tell a lot by what a person says and their body language. I've had some doubts of my own in my relationship, but let me tell you, he's proudly let me and others know he's with me and nothing is going to hurt that. That also separates "the boys from the men" you know? Let me know if you want to talk more =) Good luck!!!
2007-05-29 07:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might desire to be sure her viewpoint. i assume she thinks that there is no buisness for you 2 to talk approximately. yet i understand you too. as quickly as you smash up with somebody doesnt propose you hate them. there is probably no longer the comparable good love you felt yet there nevertheless is a friendship and care. only assure you fiancee that there is not any longer something she has to agonize approximately and intently tell her which you care approximately your ex... be conscious: which you CARE no longer LOVE. yet in addition take this into attention... are you waiting to deal with somebody who's that this jealous??? you have been seeing her for over 2 years... the place is the have confidence? P.S. WHy do you talk to your ex??? im assuming you have infants... different than that be carefull ..... the place there as quickly as replaced right into a hearth ashes proceed to be.... <--- old asserting
2016-10-09 01:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy has a lot of baggage
they have kids together so the kids and the woman are now a part of your life
you have to set some ground rules
you have to agree on the rules with him and then both of you have to present them to her together
the ex-wife has to see you as his new love
otherwise she will continue to play games
be careful what you say - don't piss him off but stand up for yourself
this is a preview of your life together
I don't know why a woman would ever want a guy with baggage like that
2007-05-29 07:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well speaking from experience I married a man 10 years older then me as well.We are divorced now.We have four kids together.He always talked to his ex wife before we were married they didn't have any kids together but he got really attached to her two little girls during their relationship.I became really good friends with her.You just have to trust him give it time.If he loves you and he comes home to you every night then there's really nothing to be upset about.This could be one of those cases that they are better friends now then they were when they got married.Hang in there.
2007-05-29 08:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU KNOW THAT NOTHING GOING ON THEN LET IT GO. SHE JUST TRYING TO MAKE YOU MAD AND IT'S WORKING. YOU JUST NEED TO BE NICE AND MAKE IT LIKE IT'S NOTHING. WHEN SHE CALLS BE LIKE HAY HOW ARE THINGS ARE THE KIDS GOOD EVEN IF SHE DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING. IF YOU MAKE NOTHING OF IT THEN IT WON'T BE SO FUN FOR HER. AND IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU DO NEED TO TALK TO YOUR MAN THEN TELL HIM SHE CALLS AND HANG UP AND THAT YOU ARE WORRIED THAT MAYBE THEIR SOMETHING WRONG THAT OU JUST WANT TO MAKE SURE BECAUSE YOU KNOW HOW HE FEELS ABOUT THE KIDS. BUT IF YOU LOVE HIM THEN STAND BY HIM ENTELL HE GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO WORRIER ABOUT. YOU HAVE TO TRUST OR YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANYTHING. ALOT OF PEOPLE TALK TO EX AND IT'S NOTHING
2007-05-29 07:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give back the engagement ring. obviously something is going wrong. they sound like they are still messing around.
no kids together? what do they possibly have to talk about? boiling water?
2007-05-29 07:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is something going on there,,,,He is no truly honest, give his ring back,Find another man, You still young,Love doesn't hurt.
2007-05-29 07:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatum. Tell him he needs to give up his first wife before he's getting a second one!
2007-05-29 07:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"men are only as faithful as their options."
2007-05-29 07:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋