If you are involved with a married man and you see someone else also is that considered cheating?

Question

I was involved with a married man for like 5 years. I started seeing someone else (unmarried) and the married man I was involved with became very upset and said I was cheating on him. Is it possible to cheat on someone you are having an affair with or does it just not make sense?

Answer 1

If he expects a commitment from you, then he should give you his commitment in return. If he cannot leave his wife, for whatever reason, then he has no right to hold you. You deserve a future and if all you are getting from your lover are promises, then how long do you wait until you want something more? Ten years could pass with him still making promises to you and in that time many men could have come into your life and one of them could have been just right for you. If he thinks you are cheating on him, then you need to remind him, that he has a wife at home and every night you go home to an empty bed. If he really loves you, he will understand you want more from him. You also need to remind him, that if he can have two women in his life, then you can have two men. He is using double standards on you. Keep on seeing this other man....he is available and who knows where it will lead. You have been loving your married man for 5 years now....dont you think its time he made a choice to where he wants to be? You have hung on for a long time now and he is still married. If he has no plans on leaving his wife, then you are wasting your time and you need to persue a future for yourself. If he does plan on leaving his wife, then you need to ask for a specific time frame and expect to see some kind of positive actions. Dont give this other man up based on your lover's promises. You have every right to see as many men as you want. He is married....I think hes forgotten about that.

Answer 2

wow,how funny is that,HE got upset and said YOU were cheating? What gall! First of all,there is NO excuse for getting involved with a married man,or woman for that matter,unless you just want to be a homewrecker! How would you feel if you were married to someone you loved,and you found out he was having an affair,and the biggest insult was that the woman he is seeing KNOWS he is married? There are plenty of single men,so ,why go after someone who already has a wife? Its about morals,or lack of......

Answer 3

No, you technically were not cheating - he was/is cheating on his wife.

That is, unless he's your sugar daddy and paying for your apartment, clothes, utilities, car and such - but than, what would that make you?

You were just playing the field. Which you have a right to do - while still keeping the married man on the side. He's already committed to someone else anyway.

He's just having a temper tantrum because he can dish it out - but can't take it.

Now go find a man of your own and don't look beyond his smiling face.

Answer 4

Well, as long as both guys your are seeing know you are seeing other people, then no its not cheating. That doesn't make it right to date a married man. If you are concerned with cheating and morals, you should think about how you would fee if you were the married mans wife. Look in your heart, you know the right answer..

Answer 5

He is quite hypocritical to get mad at you cheating on him when he is cheating on his wife. My advice would be to date only single men. Dating a married man is usually a no-win situation for everyone involved. They very rarely leave their wives for the other woman and how would you feel if you were married and your husband was cheating on you? Cheating is wrong. Instead, you should communicate with your partner and see why you are unhappy and if you can fix the relationship or if it's time to move on. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I think that the married man that you were seeing was confused about himself and his marriage. Think about it you were with him for 5 years and he through all those years did not think that he was cheating on his wife. In my opinion there is no way you can call what you did cheating, although he was. Within that 5 years he mentally grew to consider you his.
So yes he considered that cheating. All the cheating rest on him, but you have to take some blame to because you knew that he was married.

Answer 7

The ruels of a relationship override everything in that wheather or not your with a married man emotion's are just that emotions, all the basic emotional defence mechanisums will be triggured including jellousy . . . the only cheating going on is to your self from this clown. You need to think of this my friend, if he can cheat on his wife what makes you think he won't cheat on you, i mean here your asking is it cheating? mother nature is already trying to give you the answer as you stated you were involved with some one else. You need to wake up to ruel number one. Hunt on your own territory not some one elses before you enjoy the spoils of your kill, or you could very well end up being the spoils of someone elses kill . . . Rots of ruck, i gotta feeling your gonna need it . . .

Answer 8

In my eyes I wouldn't say you were cheating on him because you were in a relationship that was already based on lies and most likely wasn't going anywhere. You were cheating on your the other guy if he didn't know you were also seeing this married man. As far as the married man goes...Tell him when he tells his wife about you then he earns the right to say you cheated on him.

Answer 9

Well, for the last 5 years, you have been a mistress, and an adulteress. However, if you are still seeing the married guy, you would be being unfaithful to him, however he is not one who can be faithfull in the first place. Sever all ties with him, and focus your attention to the new guy.
The husband, can not be trusted, he could never be faithfull to you, there is no long term relationship there.

Answer 10

If you think it makes sense for you to sleep with a married man for 5 years, anything is possible!