today is my birthday and my husband forgot. am i wrong for being upset?

Question

i reminded him and he was like oh happy birthday. he said it like it was whatever or no big deal. his excuse for forgetting was that he was tired. now im so upset to the point of crying. so what should i do?

Answer 1

Now wait a minute...I hear everyone say bust his butt or maybe he has something planned......he could however Why is he so tired....is there a reason...is he sick or really working a lot of hours at work are funds low???

How long have you been married? Is this a first time offense?
No one is perfect...however I would tell him it did hurt...would I argue or get really angry....forgive and forget....
Some Men need friendly reminders....Like post it notes on the fridge...10 days till I am 30...Or little hints like >>would you mind if we did this for my birthday....

Remember marriage takes two....my hubby has CRS...and He does remember, however it maybe the day before or on the day ....
We've been married 20 years and I couldn't begin to count the wonderful things he does for me and all of them aren't materialistic items either....

Don't get him so angry that he will frown upon any celebration that involves the two of you.....or will shy away from them...

Best wishes and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Answer 2

Some men remember every birthday and every anniversary. These guys are at a premium, because most men do not. Instead of crying about this, call the florist and order yourself some flowers, using your husband's credit card. If you don't have credit cards, pay for the flowers and send your man the bill. When the flowers are delivered, give your husband a big hug and thank him for the beautiful flowers. If you don't like flowers, buy yourself something else you want and follow the same procedure above.

Sometimes, you have to put away the tears and be a woman, girlfriend!

Answer 3

Are you wrong for being upset?? Certainly not – it’s important to you. He needs to make a greater effort to remember your birthday – tired or not. I’m a guy, and there’s no doubt that birthday’s and such really don’t mean the same to me as they do my wife. The fact of the matter is though – they are important to her, and I have to work to remember that. You need to communicate to your husband your feelings about the importance of birthdays and ask that he make great efforts to remember – birthdays, anniversaries, Valentines Days, whatever else. There may still be some times that he forgets, but for the most part, he needs to whatever he can to remember!

Answer 4

no u are not in the wrong. try telling him CALMLY how u feel about the issue and how it upset u don't escalate the situation. couples need to be able to discuss their problems and come to a peaceful agreement if they want their relationship to last. My guess is there may be something more than him just being tired that made him FORGET. maybe he didn't know what to do for you for your birthday or he didn't have the money.

Either way tell him how it hurt you when he is calm and you are calm and thinking clearly. LET THIS GO... you will have other birthdays hopefully he won't be absentminded on that day. im sure he still loves you. he probably doesn't know how lucky he is to have a person like u so forgive him.

Don't escalate the situation!

Answer 5

Calm down. It is OK to be upset but also put your self in his shoes. What is going on at work that would make him forget? Just tell him your feelings on the situation, calmly, because it may be an honest mistake. Also remember that he is a man an it is in their genetic make up to be inconsiderate at times. So sit back and relax and take the day for your self, after all it is your birthday. Happy Birthday!

Answer 6

You know your husband and your relationship far better than any of us. If this is abnormal behavior then possibly you should dig deeper to find the root cause... or not.
If your husband is like me time, days even holidays are virtually irrelevant, then you need to focus on the good things that he gives you on a daily basis. Your home, his love, the fact that every night he comes home to you and even though he may seem removed from his temporal enviornment know that he is in his way spending time with you. He may have the viewpoint that he lets you control the money, if there is something you want you can get it.
In any case he should be informed how you feel. Communication is the key to success in marriage.

Answer 7

Being tired is no excuse to forget your spouse's birthday. You have every reason to be upset and you need to let him know that! If he truly loves and cares for your feelings, then he'll try to do everything in his power to fix this! Instead of saying "oh, happy birthday").

Answer 8

No your not wrong for being upset, but you have to realise if he doesn't have a secratary to remind him of it THEY all forget at times either Anniversary or birthdays. It's not on purpose, they just truly don't remember. That's why everyone should be like me. I married a man who has the same exact birthday as me just a year older lol He can never forget my birthday lol He better not or we have to see a DR. Lol

Answer 9

i think that there are to sides to this. A.) he might have a lot going on and didn't intentionally forget, or B.) he did forget. in the second case, you have a right to be upset because this is the man you vowed to spend your life with. he should at least remember your birthday. in the first case, try to gently remind him. go up and show him something one of your girlfriends got you. he will remember and take you out for fancy dinner and get you something really nice.

Answer 10

I wouldn't have said anything. He may have had something planned for later and wanted it to be asurprise. You'll know later if he had something noce planned, and you can tell if he just threw something together. Don't cry, my fiance woke up the morning of my bday and didn't say a word, actually gave me a list of things he would like for me to do after work. I went to work cursing him and vowed to forget his birthday. Then the flowers arrived, and I felt bad, the balloons arrived and I felt worse, I came home from running the errands he asked me to run and found the house full of friends and family. Wait and see, he might not be a schmuck, he might be trying to surprise you.