When your man goes on business trips, do you trust him? Would it bother you if he was going to nude or topless clubs or renting porn? How would you know if he was actually doing these things?
2007-05-29 07:05:22 · 23 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One of the most basic fundamentals of a good relationship is trust. My husband is going to Canada this summer for a Soccer game with his buddy. I'm not nervous in the least. I trust him to value our relationship enough not to do anything to hurt it.
If you are worried about finding out what your mate has been up to, then there are more deeply rooted problems in the relationship than just what he's doing in his free time.
2007-05-29 07:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by wolfwoods01girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question. It all depends on how much you trust him, and if he has given you any reason not to in the past. Personally, I trust my husband when he goes away, but he hasn't given me any reason not to. As far as going to nude or topless bars, he has gone (for bachelor parties and stuff) and I'd being lying if I said I liked it but I trust him. As far as renting porn goes, I see no problem with it. If he has to go away on business why not call him up and surprise him with a little phone sex. That way everyone's needs get met while he is away and it could be fun for the both of you and bring you closer.
2007-05-29 14:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by skylo0406 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one I don't claim ownership of anyone so he's not MY man. He is his own man. We don't live together. When he goes away on business he goes away on business. Nope it doesn't bother me that he would go to topless/nude clubs, it doesn't bother him that I go to see male strippers and we both watch porn. We know these things about each other because we have an honest relationship and we are grown ups who are secure in their on selves to not let childish jealousies get in the way of the relationship.
2007-05-29 14:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me if he was doing those things on a business trip because he has no desire to do them now...so why would he do that on a business trip? We do rent some somtimes, but as for going to strip clubs or anything thats just not him.
I know he doesnt do those things behind my back because he has respect for me, and because I trust him. You probably wouldnt know if he was doing these things....but if you trust him then you should have no reason to worry.
If there are other 'clues' that something may be up, then you need to have a conversation
2007-05-29 14:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to look at that stuff online with my buddies and to tell you the truth, it ruins so many aspects of relationships and marriages. I probably looked at it for at least two years or better, daily and it made me a monster. Kind of gross really. I decided one day to stop and never look at it again, unless with my wife. Guys do look at that stuff all the time and it is nasty. I also used to listen to Howard Stern, not any more. Marriage is a sacred thing, coming from a guy who just had two affairs. I think that if you suspect that your man may be looking at that crap or going to men's clubs, pull him aside and talk to him. Arrange for counseling, mine tried to talk to me and I didn't even realize that I was so messed up and now it may be too late. Communication is the key to a solid marriage and I strongly believe that if you can be up front with each other, then he will always think twice before he makes that kind of decision. As for the business trip's, communication will always be the solid foundation to that and if you keep it up and honest, you will have a true loving relationship.
The porn, booze, single friends, depression and many other things contributed to my affairs and I never want to be back here again. Some men don't care, I do and it hurts, hurts alot like a nightmare that does not end. The pain never goes away and I am in therapy right now and I feel good about life. I am trying to win her back, we go back 13 years. Life is fragile, do not take things for granted and tell your man that you love him everyday and mean it. I wish I would have listened to mine.
2007-05-29 14:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do trust my husband when he goes on trips. But I don't do strip clubs. Now people may say men will be men but if you are looking at a nude woman less than 12 ft from you, it's border line cheating to me.My husband is brutally honest ( and it does hurt sometimes) so I trust what he tells me ut I would be very bothered if I knew he was looking at another woman nude.
2007-05-29 14:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by hollabac girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say from a man's point of view that my wife trusts me when I go away, go to strip clubs (which i rarely do only for stags etc) and when we watch porn we watch it together. She trusts me because when I go to a strip club, for example, I don't try to hide it. I'm open and honest about it and I've never given her any reason not to trust me. If you're not willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt then you probably shouldn't be with them in the first place, and if you've already caught him then it's probably a sign of things to come. Just my 2 cents.
2007-05-29 14:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by J.E. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm....well, here's the thing. Most gentlemen won't do the things you've mentioned, and if they do, they'd prefer you to be with them. ( I mean renting videos only). If I was with someone who did that, I wouldn't think too highly of them. I know guys who really get into stuff like that, and I know men who would never be caught dead with any of it...I honestly wouldn't know unless he told me. That's really the only way to find out. (Stalking him at the clubs is not a good idea). If I were married, these things wouldn't take place. I'm in a wonderful relationship with my significant other, we've been together nine months now, he's never mentioned any of it. He'd be more embarrased about it. I have my own collection of videos from over the years and he's aware of them and not once asked to see them =)
2007-05-29 14:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just me but i believe that if u dont trust ur partner then u dont need to be in the relationship the most important thing in any relationship is trust i would trust my husband if he went on a business trip i would trust him if he went to nude beaches titty bars and renting porn if he did do something i trust him to tell me he did it and to wear protection yea i would be upset but i wouldnt leave him because he told me he didnt try to hide it i hope this helps some good luck
2007-05-29 14:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by <3 Allie's Mommy <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-You have to know your partner to judge that. My bf of 4 years, goes away often. I know where he is and I can call him anytime. I have a lot of trust for him but sometimes I feel insecure. He knows that I would not want him to go to a topless club, so he respects my wishes. I wouldn't go and do things that I know he does not like. Of course everyone can go behind your back and cheat and do things that you wouldn't like but you have to know your partner and trust that they will respect your relationship and not do those things. If you can't trust him/her then there is no point being with that person. -
2007-05-29 14:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Here kitty kitty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋