I am 19 years old and looking for a new job. Most of my friends are either working part time, or looking for jobs as well and enjoy going to free concerts and events and other cheaper things to save money.
One of our friends always wants to go shopping or go to the city and shop or go to expensive restraunts, spend the night at the Palmer House Hilton "just for fun" etc.
Thing is, she only works 2 days a week and makes $300 a month, and 1/2 goes into her savings...so you'd think she'd want to save, too but she spends fast and then complains when she has no cash.
How can I tell her without hurting her feelings that I don't want to do these expensive things? I usually just go along for the fun of it but it's always just annoying to be there while she shops.
2007-05-29 06:59:02 · 8 answers · asked by sofia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am looking for a new job so that I can earn money but I will by no means join her in her excessive spending habits. I plan on getting an apartment with a friend in a year or two, not living in my parents home until I'm 30 because I can't save my money.
2007-05-29 07:10:21 · update #1
Just tell her you need to save your money and you are not able to go with her. If she gets angry at you then it's her problem and she is not really a good friend.
2007-05-29 07:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a suggestion for staying at the palmer house..... priceline.com. My husband and I got a night there for $69 a night. Timing is everything though. Wait until the day or two before to increase chances of acceptance. They would rather rent a room for $69 than to have one empty so if they have an empty hotel your chances are better.
For the shopping, take her somewhere that you prefer to shop that's cheaper. Maybe she will see what a good deal she can get. If she gets some awesomely good deal she'll be more likely to go there again. Even high end shoppers like a good deal.
2007-05-29 07:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it seems you are the smarter of the two. It is wise, very wise, to know what your financial situations are, and live well within your limits.
I always thought friendship to be a two way street. Mutual understanding and appreciations. Obviously, two of you have different outlook and don't share the same value in terms of spending habbits.
The only thing you can do is to say "No, I don't want to go to shipping. I don't have any money to spend" and leave it at that. You don't need to explain any further.
2007-05-29 07:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your friend to do more active things. Tell her you want to be outside in the nice weather and stay in shape. You could take walks, swim, roller blade. It sounds like your friend has a spending problem, see if you can get her to do other things. If not, and she can't stop spending, you might now want to continue the friendship.
2007-05-29 07:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by cary_bell_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a job, earn money and join her !
2007-05-29 07:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Y!@n$werer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell her straight up that u have 2 save up ur money..if she is ur friend she will understand..
2007-05-29 07:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't afford to be doing those things. Simple. If she cna't handle it she ain't worth being your friend.
2007-05-29 08:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by AyK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she should value the money she earns more.... she doesn't need to have it "all" bc then she won't have nothing at all!
2007-05-29 07:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by mpa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just like you said it.
2007-05-29 07:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋