I recently got to know this one girl. We had some mutual attractions in the beginning. Two nights ago I was in her room having sex...and in the middle of it all...I felt that I was just not turned on (plus I thought about my ex). I was not attracted to her body nor her personality. She asked me 'what turns me on in bed.' And I didnt know. We stopped without finishing. Is the reason why I can't perform...is because I am not attracted to her? Or is it mental health issue? Or a physical health issue?
2007-05-29 06:41:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
You were having sex with someone that you didn't like, and weren't attracted to. I wouldn't be turned on either! That is totally normal. Guys think that they have to be sex gods, but you don't. You don't have to have sex with some chick just because she puts it out there. It actually shows a level of maturity to want something with a little more substance than an easy lay.
2007-05-29 07:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is both physical and psycological. If you are not in the mood then you are not in the mood. Different people work differently. Some people handle sex well while under preassure. By this I mean under stress, bills, people harassing them etc etc. Its a relief for them. I for one work the exact opposite. If I'm relax I can give anybody a run for their money sort of speak. If I'm stressed I want nothing to do with it. I rather spent my energy solving my problem.
So, it could be that there wasn't a connection between you too or that your mind was somewhere else. It happenes. You could always give it another try and see how it goes.
2007-05-29 06:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is multiple issues. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone physically... and sometimes being mentally attracted is not enough. If you are still thinking about your ex, this is going to be a *major* roadblock for you. Perhaps you should seek some counseling to work through your issues regarding your ex and see if that opens up your feelings for this other woman. I think once you get over your ex altogether, this will help you in your sexual endeavors.
2007-05-29 06:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Maneerae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a normal issue. Human beings are not machines who can perform sexually simply because they are expected to. We are all subject to our emotions, among other things.
Relax and forget about it. You're just like everyone else in this respect.
2007-05-29 06:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Moxie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are just not attracted to her, mentally or physically, plain and simple. Maybe give it some time.
2007-05-29 06:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by super 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is clearly a mental issue... Why are you forcing yourself to have sex when you cleary don't want to?
Get your head on next time you decide to take the plunge and spare yourself the headache. It's not fair for either you or your partner.
2007-05-29 06:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You just have more and better morals than a lot of guys. You don't have sex just for the sake of sex so kuddos to you. I applaud you and would like to meet you.
2007-05-29 06:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by richmorecock 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just realized how much you missed having an emotional connection with someone you really cared about.
2007-05-29 06:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems Ex-problem,Forget your Ex and live the present.
2007-05-29 08:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in the Middle of it and you Couldn't finish? It's either a mental or physical problem because a red blooded normal male can have sex with any woman any time! You may need to think about viagara!!
2007-05-29 06:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by toyman 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋