I am 19 and my husband of 2 yrs just left me (were 2gether for 4) and i have a 2 yr old daughter. He says he just cant take the arguing (mostly over finances) and that he doesnt want to get divorced but that he doesnt want to be with me ne more. I gave up all my friends and family to be with him ( we moved 4 states away) and now i dont know what to do.
2007-05-29 06:33:47 · 15 answers · asked by :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jessica Empower yourself. You need to be strong for your Daughter. I cant tell you what to do but whatever you do show your Daughter you are strong. If you feel you need support move back to your friends and Family.
2007-05-29 06:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up your things, pack up your daughter and high-tail it back home where you have friends and family.
Here's the link to Traveler's Aid - if you need money to get back home. Your local salvation army may be able to help you.
http://www.travelersaid.org/
When you get back home and your feet under you, contact Legal Aid and file for divorce. It's not a good for either of you to be married - at least not to each other.
Then look into grants for education and child care etc. So you can get your education and a better job. Consider non-traditional jobs - like heavy equipment operator. The field is crying for women and operating a bulldozer is actually pretty fun. There is money out there specifically for women in your situation - but you will have to dig for it. Your local Public Services office can be a big help.
Once you get your divorce and your life back, make as good a life for you and daughter as you possibly can.
God Bless You
2007-05-29 13:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its as simple as "quit arguing" When you feel like your about to get get upset or argue let him know that your bothered by direction the conversation is headed and you don't want to argue. See a counselor. Learn to manage your fianaces better. Theres numerous options. The real question you need to ask him is if he loves you. It might be hard. But if he wants to separate because he doesn't love you anymore then theres really not much you can do. Its impossible to make a person feel a certain way about another. But if he does still love you. Its time you both made some drastic changes on working things out.
2007-05-29 13:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Fox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. You sacrificed a lot, you're in a pretty sad situation.
If you're fighting over money, that can be fixed by talking to a financial planner.
If he's willing to let money problems make him not want to be with you, like, really not want to be with you, then I think you need to reevaluate this relationship. You're both young enough to move on, and I am sure you both can work together to support your daughter.
You both need to have a very honest heart to heart about what not being together will mean for both of you and your child. You are stronger as a team then on your own, divided. If the love isn't gone, neither of you should give up.
If it turns out he wants OUT of this relationship, then yall gonna have to share custody, with you probably taking your child to be with your family.
2007-05-29 13:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by pola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt say if you were in love with him.
In either case, he is still legally your husband, and he is also the legal father of your little girl. Therefore, he is also legally obligated to support you and the girl.
Yes divorce is difficult, but you must consider it. Especially if he left you with all of the bills.
You need to tell him that if he leaves, he is still obligated to support you and the child. Get a good attorney and start the support paper process. Dont let him shirk his responsibilities.
Good luck
2007-05-29 13:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Like being single is an awful thing?
I Love my freedom! I worked hard to keep my status.
Anyhow I'd go to the workforce services and look into getting child care assistance and work on that resume of yours. You are so lucky that you are still so young and you have your whole life in front of you.
Just be sure to have fun with it. I think that the best revenge is to show him how happy you are and having fun and maybe he is the one who is really missing out!
2007-05-29 13:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's serious about getting a divorce, then there isn't anything you can do to change his mind. What you'll need to do at that point is get a good lawyer, because you and your daughter are gonna need legal assistance to protect your rights and get what is owed to you in the legal sense.
2007-05-29 13:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always turn to family. You mentioned you gave up your family and friends for him.....(big mistake, but what is done is done). It may take time but your family will come around and accept that you did what you did. You may scared to go to them and it will not be easy to admit that they may have been right in being concerned for your sake. But you need your family and you need to contact them, people may be stubborn but they always come around and if they are family there is always the thought that it is family and you need your family.
2007-05-29 13:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by bull_ridin_chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I curse his *** out u left your friends and family for him not to get dumped if you have an older brother have your brother to beat his *** no big brother wants to see there little sister cry I know mines wouldn't.
2007-05-29 13:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Bianca C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
80% of divorces happen over MONEY. What the hell is so important that warrants arguing over money!?!?!
Could be an excuse though....
2007-05-29 13:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋