How can I feel happy?

Question

Sometimes I feel a bit down and then I just spiral down and down and feel really depressed for a day or two. I hate it because I start to think of really stupid things like am I wearing the right make up, am I unhealthy, am I too shy, do I wear the right clothes. I've always believed that people should be who they want to be and I try to follow that belief but I just can't. I don't have the confidence to be individual. I also think that I'm bad at sport and I get really paranoid about it so that knocks my confidence. I think if I can feel really happy each day this would all stop but I don't know how to change things around and feel confortable with these things.

Answer 1

In the Morning act "as if" you are allready what you want to be.. Good at sports pretty, your clothes look good on you.. then you will Feel more that way and actually Change your attitude.

Answer 2

Well I have been a bit like it for a while, had a really low year so far with close family members dying and getting MS and so on but I wont bore you with this, this is about you. I tell you what I did the other day when I was really pissed off, I know this sounds silly but it made my day. I took the kids for a walk on a hill top and we all rolled down on our sides. I honestly cant remember the last time I laughed so much. I reckon if you did this once a day it would be a good start!

Answer 3

Sounds like you depend too much on external things and approval for your happiness. Real happiness lies in being true to one's own principles, to what you know is good and right no matter what others may think. You have to start being true to yourself and let the fear of others' opinions just burn off. As you do things according to you, you will gain confidence and build upon it. Start applying yourself and seeking out the things that you like, even if it has nothing to do with the crowd. Nobody matters more but you. When you are more of an individual, you project confidence and you will attract better people into your life, and you will be happier.

Happiness is not a thing in and of itself. It is by product of you living your life. In fact, one of the surest ways to unhappiness is living someone else's expectations.

Answer 4

your just normal, everyone has those periods of doubt...sometimes about things that others wouldnt even notice. Many of us are made to feel we have to live up to perfection, then punish ourselves by feeling we have failed in some way. Of course its ok to have goals and try to be better at something, although often we dont always take to everything like a duck to water and some people are good at things that others arent, it may take more effort eg in sport, but it doesnt mean you cant be good at it ever. Focus on what you are good at (you'll be surprised how many things you might be better at than others). Dont compare yourself with other people as this will make you unhappy and everyone has different strengths and weaknesses.

Answer 5

Look forward to something, have a small goal in each day, week or group of days. Just something to keep you going forward.
About all the things that you worry about (your shyness, your clothes) just don't care about them (about your health, pay attention to it if you don't feel too well, as in the flu, a fever, etc.).
A psychologist also helps. At least one that's not like the stereotype that charges 500 dollars an hour and draws tic-tac-toe on his papers while you talk.
Swearing whenever anything goes wrong also really helps (but also try to fix anything that goes wrong, just swearing won't repair it).

Answer 6

Are you happy? What is happiness?
People with low self esteem are unhappy with themselves.
You can have OK self esteem and still be unhappy.
This means that you like yourself but are unhappy with some of the circumstances of your life.
You could be unhappy with your relationships, career, finances, how you look, a recent setback, boredom, being criticized or any number of other factors.
But if you are unhappy your self esteem could be low as well - this is because we often blame ourselves when we are unhappy.



How to be happy
Unhappiness may be due to a specific circumstance in your life, but the feeling infects you completely.
It is hard to feel happy about some things and unhappy about others at the same time.
Small things can tip the scales to make us feel happy or unhappy.
We all have happy and unhappy moods - feelings that do not last long.
Often we shift from unhappy to happy just with the passage of time.
Or something happens to tip the balance towards a happy mood.
Something as simple as warm sunshine on a cool day or a refreshing breeze on a hot day.
But what if you are unhappy most of the time?
What can you do to shift yourself to a happier mood?
Unhappy people may have real problems with relationships, career, finances, etc.
Changing your circumstances might make you happier but this may not be very easy.
What else can you do?
Try to avoid dwelling on what makes you unhappy - but thinking alone won't get you far.
It helps to be active - doing what makes you happy and taking more pleasure in them.
Even physical exercise can shift your brain chemistry towards a happier state. It's all about getting out of yourself.
Try to take a different perspective on your life as a whole.
Imagine that you just arrived at your dream holiday destination.
Would you let the fact that your holiday has to end spoil your holiday?
What about mishaps and setbacks --- short of being killed, seriously injured or mugged?
Would you not strive to enjoy your dream holiday in spite of minor mishaps?
Or would you waste your whole holiday feeling sorry for yourself?
If you thought of your life as a dream holiday, would you not seek to make more of it?
Why should you regard your life as the holiday of a lifetime?
But can you imagine the great things you would have missed if you had never been born?
Just being born is like winning the holiday of a lifetime.
You can view your life however you want. It's your choice.
But if you have an negative attitude towards your life or circumstances, ask yourself if it isn't your self esteem that's a problem rather than your external circumstances.
It is easy to be defensive by dumping bad feelings on convenient external scapegoats.
Constantly criticizing everything around us helps us feel better about ourselves.
But this way of eliminating unhappy feelings is no better than abusing substances.
So, becoming happier requires being active, changing what we can change, accepting what we cannot change, trying not to blame others or circumstances for our misfortunes, valuing what we have and developing a more positive attitude to our lives.

Answer 7

Deal with your problems. Thats life, get over it.

You're you, be happy about that. It could be so much worse.

My mum's blind. She passed her blind gene on to me so I'm going blind peripherally so its like looking down a tunnel. Does this bother me? Of course not! It helps me to grow because I am always thinking "How can I beat this so it doesnt beat me?"

I am doing a degree, and doing damn well. Whilst I am studying I also work full time as a special needs teacher. I feel very fulfilled because it is such a rewarding job.

I decided a few years ago that I would find a boyfriend and I didnt have to wear makeup or dress like everyone else because he would have to accept me for me, he would have to wake up next to me in the morning without makeup so he'd better like it.

I'm, not pretty at all, I dont think I am, but I have a gorgeous boyfirend who loves me. He does despite the sight problems, and loves me for who I am.

I am thankful everyday of all that I have, what I dont have doesnt bother me, if I want it I shall have it.

Answer 8

Take a good look at yourself. We're not good at the same things. You have you're own blessings and talents. I'm a musician, you may be a writer or a painter or something like that. Concerning the sports, there are many different sports. Try them all, rugby's my favorite. The measure of a person isn't the clothes or make-up they wear, it's what's in their heart. Try volunteering to bolster your self-esteem.

Answer 9

Happiness does not come from material things, it comes from inside you...Yes, we have to be comfortable with what we wear, and look like, but comparing yourself to other people will always bring you "down"....You need to "love" the person you are..Who do you want to become, what do you like to do, all of these things will define the person you are....
Remember this, you are made in the image of GOD and with GOD all things are perfect....This is not being taught today, and if it was, there would not be so many people looking for fulfillment in objects....You should ask the LORD JESUS into your life and from there grow in HIS GRACE and MERCY and become the beautiful woman that you were created to be!....God Bless YOU>>>

Answer 10

There is always the old fashioned way of counting your blessings as your day begins. Start your day by thinking of at least 3 things that are good with your life and after you have brushed your teeth smile at yourself in the mirror and mean it. Your are a beautiful person with a beautiful smile and they even say it is infectious. Good luck with seeing the brighter side of life.