At a crossroads - forced to take the wrong path due to non-action, not deciding?

Question

Have you ever been in a situation before that was so unbearable, and not doing anything about it just finally made you snap, for the good or bad?

Answer 1

only in marige..yes...

Answer 2

Yes, just recently!
My husband of 19 years walked out. There were no signs of him being unhappy and everyone envied us.
He told me in January of 2006 he had filed for divorce, so in depression I waited for those papers. They never came and still he lied that he had filed. Finally in March, my lawyer convinced me to file separation papers to protect myself. This wasn't what I really wanted but I had so much pressure from everyone around me to do something. I became a different person . . .
I've just recently started pulling myself out of my depressed state. I think I did "snap" in your words. I wanted to destroy anything connected to him, which is not my nature. I guess I thought this would "destroy him, since I felt he had crushed my soul. For a time, I was in limbo, going thru the motions of life and trying to "freeze frame" life.
I ended up losing my home and job! By not wanting to make a hard and fast decision when everything happened, my life changed more than maybe it should have. I have moved to another state.
But . . .as time passes, I find I'm in a better place. I've discovered alot about the person he really was and what was happening behind my back. Hello, would you like to meet "blind love", that was me!
I have lost so many things I treasured, but I have found my strength again.
I truely thought this was the worst thing to happen in my life, but maybe it was the best thing!

Answer 3

Yeah. That happened to me a couple of times. Whenever you get faced with a question of which path you should take try to make a "decision" and stand by your decision no matter what. Remember, there is no wrong decision. It's always better to make a decision rather than let someone else do it for you. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

No one IS Forced to take that wrong path.....We take a path due to the information that was given and along that path we find out the truth and decide that it was the wrong path......It's called living your life and the decisions that you make and living with the consequences that come with it....

Answer 5

NO, I didnt, but my husband did. He said he wasnt happy within our marriage and made a choice to have an affair instead of just divorcing me. A divorce would have been far less painful, cuz I still love the man and want it to work, but i live with this everyday, and now he decides he really loves me and he is really happy with me and wants to be with me and wants me to forgive him. Its a tough one. So, yah,i guess you can say he 'snapped' and made a very bad choice and now we all have to live with the consequences of his moment of unhappiness and then he wonders why this family is so screwed up.

Answer 6

Yes, it broke me down. But in the end I was able to build myself back up. That situation taught me a lot about myself. I , applied what I learned from that situation, & now I'm able to see more clearly now. I was doing alot of thinking & decision making with my heart instead of my head. Seeing things/people for who they really are. Instead of who/how I want them to be.

Answer 7

I did, and it was for business reasons. I worked for a company for ten years, and they used fear and intimidation on us to make us work harder. I finally caught on to that and called them on it one day. I'd been so stressed out and they'd been threatning to fire me, so I finally said "Go ahead, I don't have a problem standing in the unemployment line for awhile, and there are other companies out there who would be glad to have me because of my skill sets I've received by working here". It stopped.

Answer 8

yes - my marriage - I am divorced now but it knocked me down to my lowest point in life.

Answer 9

Yes, try to learn from it...

Answer 10

No.