this women has been pursuing me for a while now, but she is unhappily married and SAYS she is going through a divorce. we go out on the date she comes back to my place we dont have sex, but we make out and do some other things. but the whole time, she is lifeless shows no passion and lies there like a coprse. would you consider this beavior abnornal? was she feeling guilt?
2007-05-29 05:20:09 · 18 answers · asked by louvandam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she dosn't show any passion because she is unhappy.
there is no reason for you to be unhappy, maybe she's just not the right girl for you. When your with someone, both of you should be passionate, or it's no fun for either of you.
2007-05-29 05:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Tina G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is pursuing you because you are there for her with open arms. Its safer than being alone. If she is showing no passion, it means there is no love. She only wants to be with you as she is scared of being alone. She needs some space to get over this trauma of marriage. Rushing into a relationship with you is not the answer. Both of you are going to end up hurt. I would give some space until the divorce settles. But tell her you will be there to talk to if she needs it. Then embark on a relationship if the feelings are still there after things are sorted out.. Otherwise you are just a replacement. It is not guilt. She just feels let down and hopeless as her marriage has not worked out. I don't think she is looking for passion at this time. If you love her, you will give her space, time to heal her wounds
2007-05-29 12:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by ANGEL-T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be guilt, but it might be depression about the divorce.
Maybe she still loves the guy, but can't make it work.
Sometimes guys like you are the rebound.. from a nasty dispute.....
I don't think I would carry on with someone who
exhibits this behaviour.
There might be alot of stuff she is dealing with and I don't think you are helping.
She is trying to distract herself from this stress and is not doing a very good job of it.
I think I would let it go.. she needs to do some healing before she is ready to get into another relationship, sexual or not......
I think you are looking for more than this woman can manage at this time.
You need someone who is unencumbered ... she is not free and she is not ready.....
2007-05-29 12:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and see. Do not take her word for it, since she might just be playing you to get revenge on her husband for something. If she's really gettting a divorce, give it time. They're costly and can take a while to finalize.
As for her physical behavior, she might want male companionship from you, but not sex. Like I said, give it time and see where she goes with this. You shouldn't feel like the one with anything to lose.
2007-05-29 12:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Blazen Elite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird. Sounds like she wasn't really into it, for some reason. If she was into it, she would have been very responsive. I would stay away from her, even if she is telling the truth about leaving her husband, give her time to straighten that out first, she shouldn't be getting involved in something new Right away.
2007-05-29 12:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jacqueline M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it good idea to be with someone who is married and now going though a divorce.. and she just getting out and you are at your place with this woman.. of course she feeling guilt why??? moving fast and I think you shouldn't be in there until she really ready.. she seem feeling guilty for rebound you and used you as income.. don't believe me?? ask Her yoruself... smiling.
2007-05-29 12:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there are plenty of issues here, I think it might be a good idea to step out of this situation until she gets her problems and divorced resolved. You can stay friends with her but I wouldn't get "involved" romatically with her. It would freak me out a bit if someone acted like that, you know?
2007-05-29 12:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that has some thing to do with why she is getting a divorce! Cold fish now cant imagine what it will be like after a couple years?
2007-05-29 12:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by markisboss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when I dated again it felt weird 2 be with another girl. Give her some time and it should get better. If not she is not getting a divorce.
2007-05-29 12:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by dirbe22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what she was feeling...you have to ask her. THen immediatly cut ties with her. She is obviously not ready for a new relationship. You are security for her untill she knows what she wants to do. In the end you'll be hurt.
2007-05-29 12:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by jebby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋