I have been with my gf for two years we have been going through some hard times and now she just wants to be my friend while she go's for another gurl and she wants me to wait for her im really hurt and dont know what to do i love her but the thought of me just sittin back and waitin on her while she is with another gurl just kills me i cant just not talk to her its hurtin me either way if i stay and watch her be with that other gurl or if i leave. I just want to know what you would do??? I just needed to vent because i have no one to talk to you or knows that i have a gf so if you have any words of advice it would be nice. NO rude or mean anwsers please.
Thanks
2007-05-29 05:17:47 · 12 answers · asked by lilma2588 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well it's not fair of her to put you on the back burner while she goes out and dates someone else... I would probably break up with her as she wants to date someone else and say that you won't wait for her, and then don't! Do not wait for her, do not go out of your way for her, you can be her friend, but I don't know if I would even do that, at least not right away! If she wants to look for someone different let her, but I would suggest you do the same, and move on with your life! Good luck! :)
2007-05-29 05:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jyse 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that is not fair by a long shot. You should not have to wait around while she chases a girl. It's not fair to you that she even asked you to wait up for her. I know your hurting and sad because of this but you will continue to hurt if you give into demands like these no one should have too. I can not tell you which is the best action to take but try a path that has as little
heart break for you, but the decision is still yours to make.
Just make up in your mind what you want and what is best for you and that is all the direction you will need!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK
2007-05-29 16:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a new love , love is the best cure for a broken heart i say because thats what i do when my heart is broken , i was in a relationship 100 percent love for 5 years and we were to be married , one month before the wedding she broke down in tears shouting she cant marry me because she has cheated on me , "how many times"? i asked, 3 times in 5 years with different boys !!!! WHAT THE ##&%(/+? so i made her leave and that was heart break if there ever was heart break !!!! so for almost 1 week of crying drunk and overdosed my sister told me to get out there and find somebody now TONIGHT !!! so i did , i forced my self out of severe depression and tried to have fun and promised NOT to talk about her and met a really nice girl within 1 hour of arriving at a nightclub and had great fun and took her home for desserts,,, it only lasted 2 weeks but it helped my broken heart enough to do it again , and again and again and now i have found ms right because we have been married for 3 years with 2 great kids ,
so you have a choice , sit at home frustrated with mixed emotions or find a new love , depression is a behavior as much as a broken heart is a way of behaving so get out to your local night club tonight and behave like the wonderfull person you know you are and show it to the beutifull single girls who are just waiting to be charmed by someone as charming as you know you are
2007-05-29 12:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by insenergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bay-Bee you definitely need to move on. You see what your ex is doing is that she wants to still have you,as a rebound catch me if it dosent work with her,Type of thing. You need to have integrity,suck it up, and forget about her. It is obviously hurting your male pride that she can go for a girl,and it is clear that she does not know what she wants.
But you do....You need a girl who likes you and will be down for you only. Dont take her bull and drop her like she hot. You will realize later when you look back and say to your self
"boy was I stupid or what"....
But it does hurt when you are in love and it is much easier to forgive someone we luv,then to let them go.
So dont let her string you along and if you wanna stick around then you are the dumb one.You dont deserve this and you are way better off.
2007-05-29 12:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Miss Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope you do not consider this rude, but you need to move on. Even if she comes back, do you want someone who would treat you this way? Goes off to have her fun but wants you to wait? Not a good sign on the character issue.
2007-05-29 12:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with her. Sorry to say, but she doesn't care enough about you to be faithful, which is an important part of every relationship.
Tell her you expect the same kind of commitment you have given her, and if she can't live up to that, then she will not be your girl friend anymore.
Have standards. You deserve them.
2007-05-29 12:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Karla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man itll be ok . Ive been there all you can really do is wait and at the same time see if something out there catches your eye. time will heal all wounds.
2007-05-29 12:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by JUNITO EL CHULITO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how it is.
She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you.
Harsh? Yeah. Truth? Absolutely.
Drop her. And then strut around with a hotter girl.
No point in being hurt over someone who's so cold...
2007-05-29 12:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i would wait!!!!!!!!! f***her n what she thinks. I would make her look stupid just 4 spite. I would get even , 4 her wanting u 2 wait 4 her. I would hurt her 3 times more.........
2007-05-29 12:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by linda89281977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks!!! Let her move on, you move on....i know easier said then done, but girl, if she wants another...what does that say about her feelings about you!?! Don't allow anyone to trespass on you!
Sometimes what we "want" isn't what is best for us....Don't be played!
2007-05-29 12:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lil_bit_witty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋