What should I do???

Question

My exboyfriend is an asshole. We had a 5yr relationship we broke up just 3days ago he is acting like if nothing happend. He is already talking to 3exgirlfriends. while he's having fun am crying my eyes out. I don't want see or call him but we have son. How do I act like if don't care?

Answer 1

How about acting like a mother?

Answer 2

he cares. he just dealing with it his own way. you are doing exactly what u should be doing. grieving. its ok. that is all normal. just takes time to get over these kind of things. just surround yourself with family and friends. do more things with your son. and just try not to care so much about what he is doing. it is none of your business if u two are broke up now. he is the father of your son? then that is all u need worry about. keep it to that info only when he comes to see him. when he comes to see the son just be civil. don't ask him any questions. if he asks u about your private life just say that is none of your business anymore. the only thing u two share anymore is your son. tell him he needs to start paying child support too. and if he says no then get a lawyer. do it quickly too. he will take u serious. then go for full custody if u don't think u should have a shared custody. your call. i have been in same situation. i was married 5 years and we had 2 sons. he finally moved out. but you know what...it was me that didn't care anymore and moved on. i had enough of his crap that i was ready to give it up. he moved back home. i did the divorce myself and the lawyer said that it was better that i did that then him. i could set the rules. i sought full custody. he didnt contest and i won. now he has no say in our children and they are better for it. i wish u luck. hope this helps. be strong for your child. i know it is hard right now but believe me it gets better and actually it gets better without him around.

Answer 3

First dont ever ever under no circumstances let him see you crying, then contact your own exes or find some new guys to talk to and sooner or later he will get the picture. But most importantly you dont want him to know how bad he hurt you, it feeds his male macho ego. Just dont use your son as a pawn between you two a that little boy had nothing to do with this so dont take it out on him. Good luck

Answer 4

Don't act like anything. Be yourself. He sounds like a real jerk. Let yourself grieve the relationship and make plans for your future without him. Dream big. You have a new chance now to make your life exactly what you want it to be! Get over him and do it! Start writing things down on paper. Everything you can think of. The details of your new life. If you take the time to do this, you won't have to ACT like you don't' care. You WONT care!
Good luck, hang in there :) hugggggggggg

Answer 5

Many guys can just move forward. Unfortunately women's emotions are deeper and hurt longer. Right now you need to concentrate on going to Family Court (USA) for child support and for a schedule for visitation. This is the mature adult thing to do and will occupy your mind for the well being of your child.

Answer 6

FORGET YOU AND HIM. IF IT'S OVER THEN IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE A SON, THAT'S WHAT MATTERS. CALL AND ASK IF HE WANTS TO SET UP A VISITING PLAN. WHERE HE PICKS HIM UP FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS, OR IF IT'S LONG DISTANCE THE SUMMER. MY HUSBAND HAS A CHILD FROM A PREVIOUS LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP. AND IT PUSHES HIM AWAY WHEN SHE CALLS ABOUT HIM AND HER. SO WHATEVER YOU DO BE STRONG ENOUGH TO FOCUS ONLY ON YOUR SON'S RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS DAD WHEN YOR EX IS AROUND.

Answer 7

Well, look at the bright side of this awful situation: At least you didn't marry him! Right? Now you're not having to go through a divorce right now, just a painful break-up.
I'm sorry for your pain.

Answer 8

Let him go if he is acting that way.