With anyone! Male or female.
It just seems to me that I can find a hundred and one things I'd rather do then be intimate.
I've had no bad sexual experiences in my life, or weird traumas or anything, I just find reading a book more fun!
Any advice?
I'm 29 years old by the way.
2007-05-29 04:52:03 · 19 answers · asked by bluedragon8084 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey, if that's your preference, than it's fine. Some folks just have a naturally low libido. It's really not a big deal. Different strokes for different folks (no pun intended!) Just be yourself & do what makes you happy.
2007-05-29 04:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by napqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just haven't found what you're looking for. A combination of sex and pain, sex and food, sex and porn, sex and toys, sex and costumes, sex and good music, etc. Or maybe you just aren't looking for the right thing. If you are focused on the end or having specific expectations, being too critical, focusing on something else at the time, not bothering to get in the mood first or are with people who's body type, personality, style, expectations are not the same as yours, that might explain it not working. I think maybe you are looking at it as too much of a single act. Don't think of it as you are gonna have sex with this person. Just focus on them. Experience the smells, tastes, sensations that are happening along the way, not because they are or aren't leading up to sex, but just because they are happening and they are pleasureable. If you are truley enjoying a long and sesuous massage, how can you not enjoy what comes after? Oh yeah, also, you may be expecting to like it too much. With an oversexed culture, the reality of sex (especially first experiences with sex) can be a bit of a let down. People like sex cause it's nice. If sex were as extreme as we are to believe up untill the day, people would be acting very extreme in order to get it. Sex is not everything. If you are happy with how satisfied you are in it, than by no means do you need to change. This is life not a porn. And if the book is that good and the sex is that bad (or just not that good) than go home alone at night, crawl under the covers, and read. Just do what you want. Don't believe that everyone has as much to do with sex as they would have you believe. Just make sure you check in on it every once in a while and make sure you still want that book.
2007-05-29 12:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by marisela138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello there
I am going to say that either you havent had a really mindblowing eperience or maybe you havent found someone to be extremely crazy about. I adore book, love them to death , collect them in different languages, organize my bookcase now and then but I assure you it does not take the place of sex. My last relationship really opened my eyes to a lot of different possibilites, I would fantasize about what to do when I see him (in a health way) etc. In my opinion at this moment you arent motivated enought by anyone to think about anything besides reading your book. My suggestion masterbad, get comfortable with your body and once you are comfortable you will be surprised what other can do for you that a book simply cant
Best of Luck
2007-05-29 11:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need for advice if this is a sate of affairs that causes you no distress. If you are troubled by your present level and type of sexuality, you might seek help, but your message suggests that you are not distressed. In which case, you should just be as you are!
2007-05-29 12:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by snowbaal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you haven't meet the man of your dreams yet, if you do you will like to be intimate with him and that's for sure.So do not in a hurry time will come books will be your second best than be intimate with your love of your life.
2007-05-29 11:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you just have not found the right one yet. Once you fall in love, you just cant help but to be intimate. It will come natural. Love is a beautiful thing.... Once you fall in love, text me and let me know how it's going.
2007-05-29 12:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Busy Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may simply have a low libido. As long as you aren't using that as an excuse to avoid relationships with people then don't worry about it.
2007-05-29 11:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, that sucks! I wouldn't dwell too much on it, i assume when you are ready...that it will feel right...or i at least hope for your sake.
Good Luck!
2007-05-29 12:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lil_bit_witty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your gyno for some hormones.
2007-05-29 11:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No advice. I think you have all the answers.
2007-05-29 11:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋