2007-05-29 04:51:36 · 22 answers · asked by Sweetie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get out of the relationship. Verbal abusive is just as bad a physical abuse. Does he realize he is doing this? Maybe therapy will work however people who don't see a problem will never change.
Please seek help and get out. You deserve better and will find that.
Best Wishes.
2007-05-29 05:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling for yourself is MORE KEY than for him. You need to build up your self-esteem and self-image. Verbal abuse can tear down your existence. Once you have found a good counselor then maybe you can see more clearly on what you should do. Remember you have choices but right now you can't seem them because he is the only one you're listening too.
I know you still love him and wish he will change. But the verbal abuse will eventually become physical if it hasn't already. So please get some counseling.
The books and resources below will also help.
2007-05-29 12:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking it through is the best idea. If he does not listen and continues he obviously has no respect or love for you. Leave before it turns into physical abuse. You must have loved ones who will take you in? There is also plenty of help out there if the situation gets worse.
2007-05-29 12:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Bettyb ♥ ™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion verbal and mental abuse are worse than being beaten. scars stay with us I say find a councilor and if that doesn't work get out.. People reach a breaking point, if you haven't yet you will. tell him that and if he lets you get to that point ,then your marriage will be over.. It is truly up to you but, verbal abuse is very damaging...
!Angel~
2007-05-29 12:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling, and if he doesn't change...be prepared to leave. Just so you know, the verbal abuse almost always preceeds the physical abuse. Abuse is abuse, no matter what. If the abuser can't stop the abuse, the victim can stop being the victim.
2007-05-29 11:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you as I went thru this and am now divorced due to having my ex break my nose. I wish I was not afraid of my ex to tell him to stop being so mean and domineering to me when I was married. Please be careful if he mentally abuses you go seek a marriage counselor and work things out as I am sure your husband is having problems too.
2007-05-29 13:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nearly enough info to answer this honestly.
Are you verbally abusive back? Are you verbally abusive first? Do you push buttons to set him off? Is it something he brings home from work? Does he drink a lot and then get abusive?
WHY is he abusive, then you can figure out what to do to fix it.
2007-05-29 11:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by Armless Joe, Bipedal Foe 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
as being a young adult and seeing that first hand through my parents, i think that the best thing to do is to get a divorce because its not gonna stop, he may say that he'll work on it and cry and boo hoo but its not gonna stop, my father was the same way to my mother and even thought it took me and my brothers time to get over the divorce, i still think it was the best move for her because shes never been more happier
that's just my outlook on it
2007-05-29 11:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get out of the relationship or have some intensive counseling. Take it from me, I went through this for years and years......I've been divorced for 6 years now and still haven't even begun to deal with it yet. It's not going to get better on its own.
2007-05-29 11:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him!! Sit down and try to have a casual conversation about how you feel, if by any chance that doesnt work, suggest conseling. The only thing that will hurt is you for not talking to him.
2007-05-29 11:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Destiney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋