My brother is just like my best friend i mean me talk about EVERYTHING! i just cant see my bro being gay it would ruin our relationship... Please i need your help
2007-05-29 04:49:33 · 19 answers · asked by Ashlyn B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, sweetie, I think you need to realize that a little tact is in order. I mean, if he is gay, then one of the reasons he isn't telling people is probably that it would ruin his relationships - which just goes to show how much he cares about you and the rest of his loved ones. Check out PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) - they can help you work out your feelings on the matter, one way or another.
2007-05-29 04:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
His being gay should have no impact on your bro/sis relationship. How a person receives their sexual pleasure is a matter of personal choice or preference. We all have different likes and dislikes. Would you tell him he's no longer your brother if his favorite color was green when you thought it should be gray, or if he said he liked redheads, when you thought he should like blonds? If he would rather 69 or whatever, with another guy, instead of a girl, that should have no bearing on your familial relationship. He's still your brother and you can still love him and have a great relationship with him. You might even get some pointers from him on how to please a guy - information that could help you with your own relationships.
2007-05-29 15:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by augen blich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it would ruin your relationship, then you are not a very good sister. He is your brother, and him being gay does NOT make him a bad person. He's still the same person that you confide in. Then only thing different is that you have learned that he likes guys instead of girls. Big whoop.
2007-05-29 12:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Kim's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would it ruin your relationship? Think about it logically, if anything you'll have more to talk about.
Also there's one very important thing if he comes out to you, honesty. He has to be honest with himself, and honest to you, and it also takes a LOT of courage to come out, and you have to give him credit for it.
Remember he's not a different person, he's the same guy he's always been, he's just being honest, with himself and with you, and a little braver than before. You're also left with someone you have a little more in common with now.
But give yourself time, I know it can be shocking, just give yourself some time to think.
And remember no matter what, he's still your brother.
2007-05-29 11:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by Luis 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You handle it with LOVE.
Love your brother no matter what his orientation.
My bestest buddy in the world is gay. I LOVE him. He is a beautiful person who brought out the best in me. I will forever cherish his friendship.
Im a straight female. I have been in gay bars with him and has the best time of my life.
The gay community are the most non judgemental people I have ever come across and I love them!!
2007-05-29 12:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tania S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how would you feel if your brother whom you described as your best friend decided that your relationship was ruined and he didn't like you any more because you liked chocolate icecream? Well, you shouldn't get all upset just cause he likes coc*. Calm down. It's not like he likes you! Reconcider how you could look and feel about ruining your relationship over that.
2007-05-29 12:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by marisela138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least you understand that it is you not him with the problem. There is only one way to correct your problem and that is by educating yourself about homosexuality. There is a wonderful origination called PFLAG, parents and friends of lesbians and gays I suggest you get in contact with a chapter in your area. It would be a shame to have you and your brother become distant relatives over this issue.
2007-05-29 12:11:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ray T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is gay and he's been gay all your life. So you have already have a great relationship with your gay brother. Nothing has changed.
2007-05-29 12:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
with compassion, empathy, and kindness.
his sexual orientation doesn't make him any different, he just is orientated sexually towards guys not girls, nothing wrong with him, he isn't a peadophile or evil.
it won't ruin your relationship.. think of it this way, now you can both discuss how fit that guy who walked past was =P
nothing has changed, and by telling you about it, he's handing you a big amount of trust, don't turn him away when he's at such an emottionally sensitive stage, he needs all the support he can get fro his family, and his true friends.
2007-05-29 11:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by §ilver 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you think it would ruin your relationship, you are not a good sister!! If you loved him before you found out, you should love him just the same now!
2007-05-31 13:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋