hi im a married man (41 ) with 4 children ,,,,, but have been living a lie for all the time iv been married ( 21 years )...IM Transgenderd...!! how the hell do i sort my unhappy life out as its driving me crazy .... i NEED to be Female ..My GP is looking into HRT treatment for me....
2007-05-29 04:40:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh... Wife knows but Really dont like ... i can see here point .... ( she thinks its a "Faze" ) im going trough..!!
2007-05-29 04:54:17 · update #1
Ray T ... Thanks for the kind words.... still dont know where to turn... Children are 11 / 6 / 2 ( 18 y/o not around ) ALL have seen me as a "Woman" as in the way i dress ..and all is ok ... but thats just the outside ... its whats inside i need help with.
2007-05-29 09:01:00 · update #2
Oh, hun....it's going to be difficult, I've been there.
Your wife and children love *you*, no matter who you are. Tell them when you're ready; if you can't face telling them face to face, write it all down and let them read it first, then talk to them.
They will be upset; they'll be as hurt and confused as you are, but the only way to deal with that is love and truth. Answer their questions as honestly as you can, and reassure them that you still love them. They may be unable to accept, and you may lose them (most of us do), but if they go, don't let it be because you drove them away.
For yourself; find a counsellor with experience in gender issues, and talk to him/her; be honest, don't try to hide anything or play mindgames.
If you are transsexual, you have a long, hard road ahead of you, and you'll need to find reserves of mental and emotional strength you don't even know you have, but believe me, please believe me, it's worth it in the end.
There are some links below that may help you; and if you need to, you can email me.
2007-05-29 05:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your GP should have also recommended counseling to help you come to grips with this change in your life. You should be able to contact a specialist in transgendered issues and I would suggest you start seeing him/her.
Simply the personal opinion of a mother, but is there some reason why after all this time you can't wait until your children are grown to do this? You may have been living a lie but your wife and kids were living the truth, and its not fair that they have to sacrifice when you won't.
2007-05-29 05:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day, you are going to have to bite the bullet and tell your wife... She is not going to be happy and it wont be easy. I would suggest you get as much info and advise as possible then talk with her. This is not going to go away, and it is not going to be an easy road. But if you dont deal with it you will end up causing more heart break and pain in the longer run. To be fair I dont subscribe much to the whole gender thing, I am a great beliver in people being themselves honest and happy. Although I am actually female genetically, I can not really understand how you feel, but you have to be true to yourself... Good luck x
2007-05-29 04:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by Maria S © 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old your children are. If you have been married for 21 years my thinking is they are in their teens. Sounds like you have been a good father and husband sacrificing yourself for them all these years. I think you now deserve to just be you. I would suggest you sit down with a counselor and the family and just get it out in the open. You deserve your happiness. If any of the others are so selfish they cannot see this then keep in mind it is their problem not yours. Be you and be happy.
2007-05-29 05:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ray T 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't agree ... it is not the human inhabitants in step with se however the "intake" of the inhabitants. additionally relies upon on the place you reside. as an occasion in Australia over inhabitants isn't a extensive undertaking, majority of the environmental concentration it somewhat is on water (the source for human beings, environmental flows, aquifer recharges, salinity, irrigation, degraded waterways, stormwater, wastewater and so on. and so on.) additionally satirically the two droughts and floods too. whether Mauritius could say their best situation is starting to be sea ranges. Pakistan and Bangaldesh could in all probability checklist floods. Deforestation (and effects, which includes environmental and social) could in all probability be close to the real of the checklist in Brazil, in spite of the fact that over inhabitants is basically too (whether greater a social issue in Brazil). i could say endangered species does not rank very intense ... you will in all probability discover threatened communities, poorly represented communities and so on. are a miles better undertaking (it fairly is a wholistic attitude to administration, particularly than species oriented).
2016-10-30 02:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by norvell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize with you, except in my case it was that I'm gay. You need to seek a counselor. Believe me. It will help you more than you realize. You have some big decisions coming up and you need to make sure that you are ready for those decisions. I can't stress enough, seek help. Please.
I was married for 23 years, it's been a rough road, but ultimately worth it. Things will get rough, but it can't be any rougher than living like you are. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
2007-05-29 05:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might want to speak with a counselor about your issues and feelings... then probably sit down with your family and do the same. I would urge the counselor first though as she/he might be able to help you out more than probably any of us really could. As she/he will be able to continually help you through the whole process. Good luck and be happy being yourself! :)
2007-05-29 04:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jyse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart... you may have thought this before you said your "I do"'s.
You may have done a huge damage to a woman who loved you, and you may have ruined four lives that you are accountant of their existence...
I know you have all the right to search for your own happiness, but think about... and find balance between your happiness and theirs. Don't do more mistakes. Your children are not guilty for your past mistakes, don't make them even more miserable because new ones.
Perhaps your kids are old enough now to understand a few things about their daddy, but... please, be careful with them.
Greetings!!!!
2007-05-29 04:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ces 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to start by telling the people who love you, who you really are, they will support you thru anything....it doesnt matter
what matters is you. Be honest about it and tell how u feel..
No one can change you, you are who you are..people who accept you are your true friends and people who love will love you no matter what..
2007-05-29 04:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife will be very surprised. Just spare the kids any long explanations.
2007-05-29 04:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋