Met a guy around 10 months ago through another guy friend we were like best friends and were also very attracted to each other. During the early stages he told me that he wasn’t looking for a serious relationship with any1 at the moment. So we were not intimate, but stayed close and got even closer than before. That was when he started saying that I am someone that he would like to be with as he has a soft spot for me, I am very intelligent, ambitious and very articulate. Then eventually we started seeing each other officially & things didn’t 100% work out, but could of as we got on SO WELL!! he still wasn’t in the frame of mind for a relationship & he was a very self centered and indecisive which were his down sides. we both tried to move on several times and would get back again. We finally broke things off as I gave him 1 last chance to tell me what exactly he wanted with regards to a relationship and he said that we should be friends as he cant give me or anyone that right now
2007-05-29 04:40:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So I moved on never called, he always called me. Then we had the 1st ever massive argument and he was very rude. He said that he never mislead me, when he did. I had reminded him of 1 of the times when he told me to wait and see what happens and he said to me “well if I told you to jump off of a cliff would you do it”!! really rude hurtful things. I was really angry and started crying, he was hugging wiping my tears saying that he went humble straight away.
I said to him that I didn’t know if we could work this out as it has gone too far and he said that he wants to work things out. He also said “I am not saying we are gonna get back together straight away or be intimate but we can work things out and take it from there. I am not sure if it is even worth keeping the friendship!
2007-05-29 04:40:37 · update #1
He has called me 5 times since the arguement and left a message for me to call. As the last time we spoke after the big arguement he thought we were on good terms again.
As he asked me and I said yes. But then thought about it and changed my mind and since he has called me and I havent returned them. Should I??
2007-05-29 04:41:02 · update #2
sounds like he wants you at his convenience, and when its not like that he becomes aggrivated. You sound like a bright person with a great future. The right person will not be that tough to get aling with. You will be able to do things easily toghether and will agree on alot of things. Most of all he will treat you as an equal. Dont be fooled by a wolf in sheeps clothing.
2007-05-29 04:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly get rid of this guy. He doesn't know what he wants and if he does it's on a moment's notice and on his terms. Who needs that? It sounds like you're on a constant emotional rollercoaster, it's time to stop that. Go out and meet other people, if he calls don't respond or call him later on. Let him know up front that it's over and not to call you for any reason anymore. He'll probably throw a fit etc but he'll get over it. After that, don't respond. You deserve better than all of this!! I'd be exhausted if I were you =) In my eyes, one gets two chances because there's no need to bang my head against the wall with someone who isn't able to change. Good luck!!
2007-05-29 11:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if this isn't the answer you want to hear... I would move on. If he wants to be with you, he's had plenty of chances. I am telling you from experience, sort of. I had a guy that was my best friend and we were pretty close and he had made it clear from the beginning that he wasn't wanting a commitment. He said he didn't want us to be intimate because he didn't want a relationship, and he didn't want to ruin the friendship we already had. He said that he cared too much about me for it to be ruined because he didn't want me to be just another girl. One night he got drunk and came to my house at 4 in the morning and ended up sleeping in my bed. We didn't do anything, but when I woke up, he was cuddling with me.. so I did it back, and when we were both awake later on we just layed there and held each other.. he asked me if I felt awkward and I said no, do you? and he was like, actually the exact opposite.. I'm really comfortable. Then after that he told me that he still didn't want a relationship and everything so I was really confused.. so I didn't pursue it and we were just friends and then one night he just kissed me out of the blue and said that he wanted to be with me because he was afraid if he didn't take the chance while he had it, that he would regret it later on because he felt he would have missed out on something good. I love him with all of my heart right now and I'm really glad he came around... but not everyone is like that and you sound like a very sweet girl and you don't deserve to be treated how he is treating you. I once heard something that kind of applies to him.. "One day, you're going to wake up and realize how much you love and care about me. And when that day comes, I'm going to wake up with the guy who already knew."
Tell him this is his chance... either commit now, or lose the chance forever because you aren't going to wait around for him.
Good luck!! Sorry my answer was so long!
2007-05-29 11:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by spoiled_lovell_brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on. He apparently liked to keep you dangling, and you deserve better. You need to find someone who is a little more like you and let him figure out how he messed up. Sure you can return his call, but you should tell him that you have decided to be only friends. Maybe by being a little more standoffish, and not eager...not that you sound eager to me.....but I think that he may be thinking you are....any way it may draw him closer in making a decision. but do not take any rude remarks from him.
2007-05-29 11:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one belongs to anyone .You are free ,He is free .Abusing mind is bad .Crying from him is bad .As far as told you are free .You are not a prisoner of his not clear wishes or mislead which are leads to rest room .Crying from him is bad .Stand for yorself and your values .Everything should go in relations without tries ,chances firs or lasts .If it goes not smoth ,better stand separate .
2007-05-29 11:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Antanini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I am going to say is " Move On"
2007-05-29 12:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by JEN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is move on.cause he is not even sure on what he wants.And by the looks of it you do.and you want to be with someone.Just move on.
2007-05-29 11:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Dulce O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋