My guy just called a little bit ago and told me he borrowed $10 from his Grandma to visit a friend in the hospital that I don't like or trust. (Get a balloon and parking) I guess the driver got killed and she was hurt. What he wants me to do is give him $10 to pay back his grandma. Should I help him out even though I can't STAND this girl he is going to visit or tell him as nice as I can that he is on his own in this situation. He is in between jobs right now.
I don't really feel it is my job to pay his grandma back cause he wants to visit his friend. The main problem is telling him I don't want to pay her back that he needs to do it. What do you suggest? He knows I don't like her. He can be friends with her & all but I am not going to be his way of seeing her. Get what I mean?
2007-05-29 04:33:26 · 7 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I pay for everything cause he is still looking for a job and he is also using MY car which I put gas in & he uses my car to drive his friends around when they need to go places.
2007-05-29 04:36:30 · update #1
Half the time I don't even get gas money from his friends.
2007-05-29 04:37:21 · update #2
I DID set boundries. However some of them went out the window when he did what he wanted to anyways while I was not with him. He tells me what he does with my car AFTER he has done it.. He tells me he was also looking for jobs. I want to trust him that he is looking for a job as well. I am just tired of him thinking it is HIS car. I had to remind him several times that it is NOT his car.
2007-05-29 04:56:35 · update #3
Sounds like you are enabling him....and so is his granny, for that matter. As long as your both give him money, let him borrow your car, eat your food, etc., he will not change. Personally, I would dump him for a better man who has a job and is mooching off other people.
As far as your current problem is concerned, just be straight with him and let him know that you are not going to give him money to pay his granny. Reiterate to him the fact that you don't like the girl in the hospital and that you don't mind their relationship, but you won't support it.
Good luck!
2007-05-29 05:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely right, it's not your responsibility to pay his grandmother back and you don't have a right to complain about his use of your car if your not going to set boundaries on how it's used.
I would just let him know that between car expenses, gas, and your other bills you can not help him out financially. If it's ok with you, I would let him know he can use the car for job related stuff or to assist you but outside of that you need to limit the use of the car. You need to protect yourself. Should he have an accident your insurance is not going to cover it unless you're paying for him too. Ask him to be respectful enough not to ask for it. If you continue to allow him free access to your property without proper boundaries then don't complain. If you don't do this he'll just continue to walk all over you and take advantage of your generosity.
2007-05-29 11:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are having a lot of people around you for quite cheap amount of money. If you stop giving money, you will be very very alone and without any friends or people around you. If I were a person like you I would spent 5 times as much money to keep people in touch; but fortunately I am not like you and a bit like that friend of you, who want you to pay for keeping company
2007-05-29 11:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well between jobs is sure a nice way of saying he is unemployed......how long has he not had a job and living off you? As long as you are allowing him to mooch of you and his Friends the same.....he is not going to get a job. Stop letting him use your car to take friends around....tell him you will do it yourself. It is his responsibility to pay his gran-ma back not yours.....if he really wants to pay her back.....get a job. If this guy has been without a job for a while....then you need to seriously consider getting rid of him and let him and his friends use some other female......don't be his doormat.....and stop letting him use you like this.
2007-05-29 11:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya.
I wouldn't give him the money to pay his grandmother back. He borrowed it and he can pay it back. It's not your responsibility.
Also, I'd let him know that his friends need to buy a tank of gas the next time they go out. They all sound like a bunch of freeloaders and gas ain't cheap these days.
2007-05-29 11:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a pity,you are been used till death.
Leave him and find a good guy worthyou,and stop paying for god sake.
2007-05-29 11:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would turn off the money faucet
2007-05-29 11:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋