Question/s to those so quick to judge...?

Question

I've read a lot of critisim about the Mcanns leaving their kids alone and I'm just wondering if this little girl had been snatched while at kindergarten, or from her own bedroom at home - would everyone still be so hard on them? What about the 'witness that came forward to say that she'd seen the child being carried off, should she be blamed for not doing anything about it? can ALL the parents out there or anyone who has ever babysat honestly say that they've kept an eye on the kids 24/7? What about all the parents whose kids have gone missing and they were not around at the time, are they to blame, (some were on their way to/from school)?
*The trauma suffered by the families when somethinglike this happens usually ends up in divorce, alcoholism because of the self-blame& guilt that they go through as it is. Is it fair to point fingers and say: "Well, I'D NEVER have done this".?
Just wondering...

oh. okay. So those who are saying that the parents are to blame would not utter a peep if they'd been in the living room, in their own home when it happened? Then they'd be better parents, not negligent and they'd have your sympathy instead of condemnation?

All this spitting venom and spite remind me of medieval peasants with pitchforks or a mob at a lynching. Can't you think for yourselves instead of allowing yourselves to be manipulated by media hype and sensationalism?

Answer 1

You don't leave your 3 year old kid alone for 30 minutes (yeah right) completely unattended unless you're a bit of a bad parent, end of story.

Answer 2

There is definitely an issue here about whether this case could have been prevented...Why is it that out of the thousands and thousands of families who visit abroad that this is not more common? Yes there are cases where the parents have notbeen at fault and then somebody or someone else is we dont beat parents on the head for the sake of it...

If at school a child went missing because somebody walked in and took someone .....teachers would know about and would report it....

It is when the child is taken and no one notices and crticical time passes there is a problem...

You cannot blame a parent when a burglar who breaks into the house because of the fact he has chosen to break in and there is nothing more that can happen when you lock up your own house....

If you look at the website with the blog etc this is a media circus for the McCanns ...Pope and private jet come on???

This is really important for Madelaine campaign?

In the abscence of hard facts about this campaign we have updated to do with Madelaine campaign...

Why is this so important? The fund for MAdelaine is still rising and people are donating ? for what? What
are they using it on when they are staying at the resort (presumably free) and using the private jet ?

If I were the Royal Family I will be a bit scared? I wonder if they are crictising the whole affair as they had the public during Di affair?

Answer 3

I totally agree with Netty J. Their wasn't half as much publicity or help for the little lad that went missing in greece.
The Mcanns will be beating themselves up, but so to are the public for the fact that nobody can get their heads round why they left all their children alone, and all we want is for Madeline to be found safe and well.It's looking really grim now. The Mcanns have the rich and famous putting up rewards, they're going to holy places,even to meet the pope and hand him a photograph of Madeline.Yes, I'm sure they are beating themselves up, but what about the twins, surely to god they must be affected by all this.After all they are missing their big sister, and all this publicity, their parents having to go here there and everywhere, media around them all the time, etc etc. surely this can't be doing them any good.
Now getting back to what you are saying, No you can't watch your kids 24/7 but at the ages that these kids are, ffs they need looking after and its a different story aint it, when you leave them to go out for a meal. At home a babysitter, child minder,relative , would be called to mind the children.You are talking a heap of shite when you go on to say about children who have gone missing from school etc. This is total neglect where the Mcanns are concerned, as they put their children to bed then went out to wine and dine. Who in their right mind does such a thing.
They are supposed to be intelligent people, both got good proffessions, yet it looks like their form of intelligence has been lowered when it comes to parenthood.
These kids are not even of school age,and if they had of been snatched from their own bedroom at home, then NO I wouldn't be so hard on them,but their still would have been questions as to why Madeline and not the other 2 children.Strange don't you think!

Answer 4

The point is they weren't at home, the parents weren't in. Madeleine wasn't at kindergarten or the hotel creche for that matter. These children aren't even old enough for school

Yes there comes a time depending on the age of the child when they do walk to/from school, play out - but that is not the age that these children are. It's as simple as that.

It is a tragedy when any child is taken - in certain circumstances I'm sure many parents would say 'there but for the grace of God,' but not in these circumstances - this was down to sheer stupidity and neglect on the part of the parents and pure evil on the part of the person/s who took her - if that is what happened, there is still a faint possibility that she did wander off and maybe met with an accident and just hasn't been found - yet.

I wish wholeheartedly for her return - sadly I fear that it won't be the happy reunion that we would all wish for in a perfect world.



I understand your point but I think the age of the children, and the fact they were left alone is what people just can't understand

Answer 5

I am a parent, i never left my son alone.
I have also babysat for other parents. i never left their kids alone either.
this was not an accident over which the parents had no control. if they or a babysitter had been present, then in all probability Madeleine would be safe and with her family.
If she had been taken whilst she was attending a nursery, then i have no doubt that the nursery would face investigation, and if shown negligent would be charged. in that scenario, it would not be the parents fault.
As for someone taking her from her room at home. i guess that depends on the circumstances. if the parents were asleep themselves, probably wouldn't be their fault IMO.

The issue is that three children under the age of 4 WERE left alone. the parents went out with their friends for a meal. they were 150 yds away. that is not the same as being in your garden, well at least it isn't in England, unless you own a stately home.
I don't know how often they checked because of conflicting reports. but even if it was at 30 minute intervals. any thing can happen in 3 minutes. let alone 30. As Doctors they should have been aware of that. its not just the (to be fair ,relatively rare) possibility of an abductor, but other risks too, choking or fire being just 2 examples.

Answer 6

There would be more support and sympathy for the McCanns if the disappearance of their child had not been their own fault. But the simple fact is that it is their fault. They left their kids in a vunerable position leaving any kidnapper the perfect opportunity to snatch their kids. Unfortunately there is no way to refute these facts and so it is about time they admit and take blame for situation instead of blaming alleged kidnappers, police and anyone else.

Anyone who acts against the interest of any child is to blame for the consequences. These are our children for Gods sake they are not fashion items or fads to picked up and put down as the mood takes us. We are their protectors.

Ponder this: How do you explain to a child why you weren't there to protect them?

MIlldoc: WTH!!!! are you a parent? "It's OK to leave them alone if they know what to do and they know they can say no to an adult" are you kidding????? are you an imbiscile???? this was a three year old girl and her two one year old siblings. Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Its just like people sitting in their back garden having a bbq and their child is in bed coz its late! They accidently leave the front door unlocked or they aren't watching the back entrance constantly! Its just as easy as that. When a sicko is watching every move and knows a routine or just sees their chance there nothing anyone can do to prevent it 100%. The McCanns are a little different there was a little bit more of a distance but the obviously felt sure that their children would be safe! Just as anyone would when their children are tucked up sleeping in a secure room!
I just feel for them and Maddie coz its heartwrenching to even begin to imagine what they're feeling! No one should be so quick to judge. The McCanns feel the same as any parent feels for their child. That they would go to hell and back again for them! They made an error of judgement. It would be unfair to attack them in a situation like this!

Answer 8

NO I have never left my toddlers unattended. It would be different if they were older, but three year olds need constant supervision. I am not familiar with the story at all, but I do know leaving a child alone that young is a very bad ideal. Were they home but just in a different room or the child was inside while they were in the yard? That could be different but if they left all together then they are to blame. It isn't passing judgement. It is basic parenting 101.

Answer 9

I have never left my child like that and gone off for a good time. Its not the same as it happening in the home, of course the parents would not be in any way held responsible had they been in the other bedroom. But the truth is that this pervert would not have tried to abduct poor Maddie if the McCanns had been in the appt.
I still dont know the whole truth about this, anyway. The McCanns seem to have changed the story so many times about the times they checked on her. And their friends are probably helping by not saying either, but it might help the police more if there was more truth about the times.

Answer 10

I understand what you're getting at and you can't watch kids every single second of the day. But, leaving three children under the age of four while you were having dinner in a nearby restaurant is asking for trouble. Plus they were on holiday and not in familiar surroundings. If they'd been at a park with the kids and took their eye of their child for a moment I'd have every sympathy for them. After all every one at some point takes their kids to the park. Does everyone leave their kids at home while they're at a restaurant? I don't care how close it was!
Let me ask you would you leave your kids asleep unattended while you were at a nearby restaurant? Even if the door was locked, would you?
-I WOULDN'T!!!!

Answer 11

I know what point you're trying to make, but what happened to the McCanns was very different than a kid being stolen from a bedroom or a kid being kidnapped on their way to school, etc. The McCanns not only left a 3 year old alone, but the younger twins as well. What if they woke up and wandered off? What if they woke up with a nightmare? I do believe that MOST parents would never leave their children in a strange hotel room in a foreign country to go have dinner with friends. Just checking up on them in their hotel room from time to time while they were in a restaurant isn't what most parents would feel comfortable doing. I certainly don't think they deserve what happened to them and I'm sure they're grief stricken beyond belief. But leaving those little ones like that truly is very bad parenting. Maybe we shouldn't be pointing our fingers, but seriously, most of us parents wouldn't have taken a risk like that.