Me and my husband and our 2 kids live his mom and stepdad. My husband is away in Fl working when this happend and won't be back till 6/1. My husband has alot of anger towards him already. My husband is on probation so he can't get into anymore trouble. I know when he finds out he will really hurt him. and right now we have know where else to go.
2007-05-29 03:58:03 · 16 answers · asked by lips1220 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have a talk with him and his mother. This is not any action you want to see or have your kids see. If you are living there you need to get this in control before it gets out of control. Think of your children. Just make sure your husband does not lose control tell him that you are fine you just need to inform him of the pass his stepfather made.
Best Wishes to you and your family.
2007-05-29 04:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be looking for somewhere else to live bacause when you tell your husband all hell is gonna break loose. Do you really want your children exposed further to your husband's stepdad?
It might be a good idea to get your husband away from the house and his stepdad before you tell him. You know your husband better than anyone, and if he will hurt the old man. In the mean time, try to avoid being alone with the stepdad.
2007-05-29 04:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know the trouble this could cause why say anything right now? When you say you have no where else to go, there are shelters, which may be better than the prospect of being sexually assaulted by your father-in-law. At least work on getting out of their house as fast as possible and then have nothing more to do with them, do you have a job? Get one and start saving, take any job there is, beggars can't be choicers in a case like this, every dime will help. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-29 04:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an issue that requires a lot of widom and discretion.if ur step father tried to abuse u,he'll do it again.Since ur husband is on prob and can't get into any trouble,u should break the news to him the best possible way coz whether u tell him or not,he'll find out and he'll be mad with u if he finds out elsewhere.When telling him,u should remind him of his condition so he doesn't act rashly.My advice mite sound wayoff but the truth is always bitter.ur dignity as a woman is more important than any other thing.GOODLUCK.
2007-05-29 04:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by ojelarinaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that environment. If you have to move into a studio apartment or a room in someone elses home, you must do that. But, I would tell the step dad in no uncertain terms that if he ever does that again you will tell his wife, your husband, all of his friends and the police. That should keep him at bay until you can get out. Do not let him say "if you tell, I will hurt the kids or something like that" TELL, TELL, TELL, everyone you can and anyone that will listen. This jerk needs to be found out.
2007-05-29 04:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by happi2bwu2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep your distance from your husband's step-dad. And buy a lock for your bedroom door.
Start looking for your own place to live. He's working. Your just going to have to figure it out so that you can get your own place. I would tell your husband that you all need to move out immediately. When he asks, tell him that you are feeling so uncomfortable and it is time to get your own space. If you have the option to move back with your family, do so.
Not being able to say anything about that asshole, is empowering him to do worse next time. Once you are safely out of his reach, then you can speak to your husband about it.
2007-05-29 04:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 kids only other place would be a shelter-never be alone with him again or the children for you do not know how to trust him there ------i'd be slient till you get out the shape your in but i'd tell him look leave me alone or i'm talking it does not do any good geta recorder record the seen what hapen use the recorder to keep him away from you period and your kids ---then after you move and are away then tell your husband ,,,,,,you are in a ackward spot right now make plains to get out fast
2007-05-29 04:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry to hear about that, I'd say yank his Penis off but, thats not gonna fly.. Pray for your hubby to be able to deal with this and maybe you need to tell him while he is away so he can have time to digest this information and figure out how to deal with this.Have you told the mom in law or is that not an option? My prayers are with you..
~Angel~
2007-05-29 04:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell him. Best bet is to tell his Mom. Stepdad is relying on your not doing it. I imagine that you cannot really afford to leave. I feel really sorry for you.
2007-05-29 04:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You better sing like a humming bird girl! Because he might be mad latter on if he find out about it and u didn't tell him
2007-05-29 04:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by olivia_aka_sassy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋