ive been watching births on the discovery channel and now im scared to ever give birth because damn! the pain?

Answer 1

As soon as you see your baby, the pain is forgotten!

It is something you will talk about and remember in a "bragging" and helpful way for others.

This is why we keep having more children....It is totally worth every pain, cramp and ache!

Answer 2

Your vagina actually, somehow, numbs itself a little bit. Its also a different kind of pain. Its like enjoyable pain with the best reward at the end of the tunnel. I know a lot of mom's say this over and over again, but I too found out for myself after I gave birth; once your hold your little baby in your arms for the first time you completely forget about the pain. Its like pain? Naw, that was nothing. I could do it again, if the result was the same. HENCE, why women continue to reproduce.

Labor isn't all that bad, and if you are that worried talk to you Dr. or midwife about pain management options. I actually gave birth in the water. It was an extremely unexpected water birth and let me tell you; if I was to get pregnant again, I would indeed most definitely have to give birth in the water. The water made it easy for me to swing my hips from side to side making the contractions less painful. Another thing I used was those funny looking birthing balls. I always thought that peopled looked funny when using them, but now I completely know why they do. Its provides so much relief that you just don't care how silly you may look.

Good luck and if all else fails, look into having a doula attend your labor. You can learn more about doulas by google searching the term. I did not use one as my active labor progressed that fast.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

First thing I wanted to tell you is that while I was pregnant with my first daughter I watched a million of those shows and was scared to death too!! But if you havent ever had a child....it doesnt always look like the ones on tv...and if you watch the same ones I do, its the Special Deliveries...where most of them something goes wrong...most dont have all the problems. Having a child was not easy it felt like the worst period cramps that you can possibly imagine. Get a good coach, it will mean the most, and maybe try a midwife, they are usually more personal and have remedies for pain managment. I didnt have any medication because ive heard bad things about the epidural and im not a fan of a six inch needle going into my spine...so that being said I knew I had to just suck it up and deal with it, thankfully my labor was only 8 hours...im not sure I couldve lasted much longer!! Trust me every mother knows that in the end it was all worth it, thats why so many of us are having more children. Good luck and God bless!!

Answer 4

Well we shouldnt have ate that apple. But seriously, pain is just a part of giving birth. When I had my daughter I was so terrified of the pain but the contractions were very uncomfortable not painful. The doctors and nurses are there to make you as comfortable as possible and will give you the medicine you need to ease the pain. I got an epidural at 3cm which is early for most but I made comfortable and gave me the oppotunity to rest a little before all the pushing started. Dont be afraid to ask for the medicine because thats what its there for.

All women are different and tolerate pain differently. You may hear horror stories from women but every woman in the end says it was all worth it. And I have to agree with them.

Answer 5

It's normal to be scared. I was too, before the birth of my son.

Every pregnancy is different... And every labor/delivery is different.

That said... I tried to go natural, but after 50 hours of labor the doctor told me that an epidural might help me have the baby vaginally. (They were considering a C-section, because I had been laboring so long).

Labor hurts that's the truth. The epidural helped IMMENSELY.

Do what you think is best. Make sure that your doctor is not a fanatic on it either way. Once you go into labor, if the pain is too much, you can always ask for an epidural, but once given it takes a while for the epidural to wear off.

Two hours after the epidural, my son was born.

My son is almost 7-years-old now, and I still can remember the pain and exhaustion of giving birth to him. So don't listen to people who claim, "you'll forget the pain."

It's just that the pain, once its over is over, and you're fine.

Do what is best for you, and you'll be fine. Good luck. God bless you and your little one.

Answer 6

As a mother of 4 I can tell you it is not that bad and best of all the endorphins kick in and you forget any pain you have been through the second you look into that tiny little face.

I have allergic reactions to most pain killers and can not have an epidural. So my kids came without medical help in that respect. Natural is sooo much better than induction. There are things you can do, like heat packs and hypnosis and my personal fave the hot shower.

As for describing what it feels like; for me it is like a badly pulled muscle. That burning stinging sensation. I guess it is mind over matter, as each contraction hit I went with it. If you fight it it hurts more and let gravity help. Trust your body when the time comes, as it knows what to do.

If it was more than women could handle as a species we would have died out a long time ago. As I have told many friends you are stronger than you think.

I hope that helps.

Answer 7

unfortunately, pain is a natural process of delivery....but, i should not say a word. i have had 4 kids, all natural, and had to have the labor monitors kept on at all times to know when to push....i could not feel any of the contractions....never even knew when i was in labor until my waters broke. my longest "labor" was 3hrs, but, that was a complicated issue, and my shortest was put this way...."can you walk?" - yes - "can you run?" - yes - "good...we need to run you across the hall" and before the midwife could gown up, my daughter was born. i was known as "the new mommy you didn't tell the other new moms about" for all 4 of my kids.
pain may be an issue for you now, but when you think of the reward that you will have in your arms afterwards, it'll be a distant memory. your medical provider will go over the birthing plan, along with setting up a back up plan in case you realize your birthing plan isn't what you expected.
all those shows overdramatize and at times i think are meant to scare the hell out of you. i know they sure did me too.

Answer 8

lol, if you are pregnant, its gotta come out some how, and thats the easiest way believe it or not!

Coming from someone whos had 5 kids yet never had a vaginal birth I can say, that I wish I could have all that pain and push a watermelon out a key hole, but it was not meant to be for me!

if you arent pregnant yet, dont let it put you off, in some ironic way, after 9 months of pregnancy birth sounds GREAT!! in fact once you go even a day late you are prepared to do anything to get labour started.

At the end of the day, no matter which way the baby comes, its all worth it when you hold your baby

wish I could do it again lol!!

Answer 9

I think everyone is different. My mom has been doing some unofficial research in the area and has found that most women follow their mothers in the delivery process. She said she had an easy time, one pain and that I will too. Now, I don't know if she really remembers but I figure I know lots of women who have multiple babies so it can't be that bad.

Like others have pointed out, there are pain meds. Once I decided that I was going to deliver this little one as naturally as possible - no epidural, no episotomy - (demerol is okay), I was okay that it was going to be painful.

Answer 10

I know what you mean. I am 8 months pregnant and I am scared to death about having this baby. Every time I watch the baby shows there is always some type of complication during pregnancy and there is the awful pain most of the women experience. But every time I see the babies being born I always cry because after all that pain a beautiful baby is born. My boyfriend told me to stop watching that channel because every woman handle pregnancy differently, but I can't because its so addictive. lol

Answer 11

I've had 4 babies, 2 with no meds and 2 with an epi...if you are afraid of pain- get the epi. No need to suffer in this day and age. When I had the epidural I was much more able to cope when it was all over and I enjoyed my baby immediately. Natural childbirth is important to some women but if it isn't to you, do what makes you comfortable. Also, don't listen to people who make you second guess yourself- they aren't the ones feeling the pain or taking care of your baby after 20 hours of labor!