A friend of mine been with his GF for 4 yrs. Recently they started getting closer. He's baring his soul to her, showing her a side she's never seen. He's buying her an engagement ring, taking it to marriage. He's really INTO her & wants to marry her. He's stepping up his game but he told me he wants to prepare for the worst. He said, "what if she rejects my marriage proposal or things dont go as they SEEM like they're going to go?" I told him I dont see why she would reject him. She's been with him for 4 yrs, she's loving this "side" he's showing her now & she mentioned if they were married maybe they'd be living together. So why would she reject him now? I think he's just being scared.
They've never been together like this before either, so this is like a "new stage" in their relationship. I think its gonna be fine. But can that actually happen? Can someone all of a sudden "fall outta love" or "pull back" once the other one starts opening up & showing a deeper side?
2007-05-29 03:45:49 · 23 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well breaking up all of a sudden isn't un-heard of, it does sometimes happen but there a lot of factors that go along with it. I don't think they fall out of love more than geting overwhelmed and cold feet.
2007-05-29 03:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it happens a lot, but if they've been together for 4 years and everything is good right now, then I don't see why she would reject him, but he's probably nervous as hell to propose anyway. That's a big step to take and a scary one too. I'm betting all will go as planned though.
2007-05-29 03:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is quite possible as a matter of fact i was dating this man for about 2 years and everything was great, i loved him so much..He proposed to me on christmas and i accepted shortly after things started changing, i did not feel the same way about him and it seemed our relationship was going downhill....I fell completely out of love with him though i did not realize it at the time and remained with him....
About a year later i ended up breaking off the engagement and leaving him...Soon after i started seeing this man who i have known for about a year and we ended up getting married one month later....Best thing i ever did in my life....
2007-05-29 05:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can happen and it has happened. Most of the time though, when someone pulls back, they are basicly scared of what is to come of this "new stage". But they will probably fine, if they love eachother as much as you say they do.If they are together then they can deal with their scared sides together, and that always seems easier when you have you loved one with you. And if it doesn't happen, then I guess it just wasn't ment to be. Good luck to them.
2007-05-29 03:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are scared of love. But she she is with him for 4 yrs why would she reject his proposal only if he isn't telling you something that he/she might of did wrong? If she is scared then maybe they should live together first. I think it will be fine. good luck to your friend.. just tell him to think positive.
2007-05-29 03:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, OF COURSE! Especially if she's really young, she may get cold feet and want to sew her "wild oats". However, if they've already been together for four years, I don't see why she'd run off like that. I would tell your friend to ask her what she thought about getting married "someday" and see what her reaction is. If she freaks out, return the ring! If not, DO IT! ;-)
2007-05-29 03:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fall in and out of love or really LUST all the time but if it's true love then it it's forever. There are people who are 80 years old and still in love with their mate...if it's true love, yes she will marry him-that's never-ending but if it's lust which is often the reason why relationships and marriages don't last, then no.
In other words...if your friends girl friend is in love with him...he has nothing to worry about.
2007-05-29 04:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by monique 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happens all the time. Very unfortunate but true. Look at it this way, it's better that it happens before they get married rather than after. Much less problems. Have a great day!!!
2007-05-29 03:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by roritr2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks but it happens all the time - i left 2 weeks prior to being married...it is a HUGE step and if there are any doubts....it is better to know prior to the marriage! I know it hurt my fiance at the time, but we are both in much better relationships...and it was ultimately the right decision!
2007-05-29 03:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lil_bit_witty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can honestly happen, I don't mean to say she will do this, but anything's possible. I actually had to do that with my ex fiance, this was in 05; I'd realized that he was in it for the wrong reasons, he wanted me to help him out of his debt and basically be his employee. When I realized all of this, I broke it off and gave the ring back.
2007-05-29 04:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋