Hi, this may seem easy to you so my apologies...but I need help with the following. In short, my husband and I are taking our 2 kids on vacation. I have 3 nephews and nieces that are coming too. I just need to figure out based on the information below how much my sister would need to put in for her kids. Heres the breakdown.
Hotel room with just my family for 3 nights = $897. With her kids it would be $1257 for the larger room.
OK, the difference is $360. Should she pay me the $360 or is it $360 x 3 nights????? Also, as far as renting a minivan (we can't fit everyone in our car) do you think I should ask her to pay for half of the rental? What about food?
Any advice is appreciated, thanks to all.
2007-05-29 03:43:22 · 8 answers · asked by Angie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Barbara, although i appreciate the time you took on your response, I would never 'disinvite' children as it would be cruel, I also never mentioned I was strapped financially.
2007-05-29 04:31:04 · update #1
Here's what we do when we go on family vacations.
Each family then multiplies the cost per person times the number of people in their family.
If you can afford more than your sister, though, you might want to do it differently, to give her a break by taking:
2007-05-29 03:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should pay $360 for the 3 nights her children will be there. She shouldn't have to pay for half the minivan if you'd be renting one anyway. If however you are renting it because taking her children means you need more room, than yes, she should pay for at least half (technically she could pay for the entire rental since you wouldn't need one if her kids weren't going, but she's family). And you have to try and figure out what the food costs would be for three small kids for 3 days. I'd say all tolled, she should contribute at least $600. But whatever you do, don't fight. I've seen many of families destroyed over money in situations just like this. Good luck.
2007-05-29 03:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you invite these extra children or did they get pushed onto you?
Are the extra children nice kids - do they behave themselves etc. or are they bouncy and rowdy?
OK assuming you invited them, then everything but their spending money is on you. The larger room, the bigger car extra meals etc. You are the host - you bear the costs.
If the extra costs are way higher than you expected, you can
1. Disinvite the extra children - no it's not fun but things happen that way whether we like it or not. With gas at $3-$4 a gallon, that's the way things go.
2. Figure your budget - transportation, room rent, food, entertainment etc. Show the costs to your sister and ask her to kick in a fair amount. She is still responsible for their spending money.
If I were you I would plead poverty and disinvite the extra children. Yes, that's a tough decision - but you are not their parents - and you do not "owe" them a vacation - especially one that would break your bank account. Your sister should know this - if she doesn't understand and even begrudgingly agree, then she's being pretty callous to you.
2007-05-29 03:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 360 is probably the total but all this depends on if you asked them to go with or if the aunt/uncle asked if they could go with yoy then they should pay for the extra expenses
2007-05-29 03:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you invited them, then you are responsible for the costs although it would be nice for your sister to offer some money. If she wants to pay for her kids, then she should pay the hotel difference. Regarding food and the van, I think it would be nice for her to give you some money, but I don't think she is obligated to if you did the inviting. She should definitely give you spending money for her kids.
2007-05-29 05:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon. in case you invited your neices and nephews to come returned, then it somewhat is theory which you're overlaying their needs for the holiday: room, transportation, meals, events, and so on. in the journey that your or your husband's sibling asked in case you're able to take their childrens on the holiday then they could desire to help hide the expenditures. if so, it can be a minimum of $360 for the room distinction, and that i could ask her to evaluate contributing to the minivan condo fee.
2016-10-30 02:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't invite someone on my vacation unless I was willing to pay all of it.....but that is me.....When you invite someone to dinner do you just pay for yourself or for everyone......Everyone that is invited.....that is the proper thing to do.....
Unless you make an agreement with the other party to pay half.....
2007-05-29 03:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Split everything in half it is worth it and keeps it easy to understand keep all receipts have her pay in advance
2007-06-01 17:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by BOOGIE49er 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋