I've wanted them to get a divorce for years now (I'm 15). They fight constantly and my dad has left us 5 times now. He always came back saying how sorry he was. And my mother would always forgive him no matter what he did or how many names he had called her. Then they'd be back at it a few months later. Now it's finally happening. I don't know where we're going to go because my dad wants the house. And I know we aren't going to have anything but I can't help but feel beyond relieved!
But when your parents get a divorce your supposed to be upset right? So..Does it make me a bad person that I actually wanted this to happen?
2007-05-29 03:27:23 · 33 answers · asked by sky2435 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply to my question! Y'all are truly a blessing and have a helped alot! I'm not sure what's gonna happen. But, I'm gonna try and keep a positive outlook and to keep in mind all the advice y'all have given me! Thank you once again and God Bless You!
2007-06-01 03:55:52 · update #1
some people are better off apart. when my parents finally got divorced i was happy for my mother. she didn't need to be with someone like my father and she deserved better. a lot of people stay together for their children yet they don't realize they could be better parents on their own. it would be much better to have divorced parents then parents together that are constantly fighting and basically hate each other.
2007-05-29 03:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person because you are not upset. My parents faught all the time and my brothers and sisters, and I always said that my parents should have gotten divorced. It would have been better for all of us, but they stayed together and hated each other for the longest time.
If your parents fight a lot and your dad walks out all the time, divorce is the right thing to do. Your mom, dad and you have a change to start over for the better.
2007-05-29 03:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have more wisdom than your mother. You see what your dad is doing and want to get away from the liar and the cheat. You just want some peace in your life. You are tired of the fighting, the lies, and the cheating. Your mom has someone on her side and does not realize how lucky she is to have someone that is only 15 that can see what really is going on and is standing up . Good luck and God Bless
2007-05-29 03:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being glad that your parents are getting a divorce after having endured years of their bickering, name calling, your dad*s leaving and subsequent returns, is perfectly acceptable and understandable.I went thru much the same thing,
only my parents did divorce..but dad would keep coming home..and try again...last a week or two and then he was gone back to his other family again. This went on for years after the divorce. We*d leave for school and dad wouldn*t be there..when we got home he was. We*d look for him to come in one evening after work..and he*d never show up. It is hard to start all over again..but in the long run it is for the best, and things do have a way of working themselves out for your betterment. Don*t allow yourself to feel guilty over this. Be happy, and thankful that a solution has been rendered, and move on. I*ll be more than glad to talk to you at any time...email me if you want. I*ve been where you are and I know what you are going thru.
2007-05-29 03:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by lonely needing friends 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any human being requires a calm and quiet life. Certain people have no respect for the others and quarrel and fight like dogs without bothering about the place, position or environment. It is extremely difficult to adjust and live in such an atmosphere. So what you feel is correct and justifiable. It affects the mental balance of the occupants of the house and may make them mental patients.
2007-05-29 03:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by rajan l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel bad. That was an awful relationship that needed to go away for the sake of everybody's sanity. My parents are still married although they should've gotten a divorce a LONG time ago. There they are, in their 50's & 60's, still fighting about the same old crap. They scream and fight but they are just about exhausted. That is no way to live.
2007-05-29 03:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by ok4u2bfree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't make you a bad person at all. Some people are just plain incompatible. You're a good person to know that both of your parents deserve to be happy. I'm sure they're both crazy about you and I bet things will get a lot better once they are both on thier own and hopefully they can remain friends! Just try to focus on school for the next few years and make them proud of you! Don't let what's going on between them affect your concentration on school work and you'll be a success.
2007-05-29 03:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no don't feel bad
i come from a family where my farther was a violent drunk.
he use to come home a bash my mum for more money to get more grog.If mum didn't give him money he would run a bath and drag my sister and i to the bathroom and holed our heads under the water until mum would give him money.
we used to run away but dad would always find us in the end and he would say sorry and he would change. He would usually last about 6 months before going back to his old ways , but even when he didn't drink he was very nasty because he want to drink.
the best thing he ever done was die at the age of 43...but he should have done it sooner as far as i am concerned
don't feel guilty about feeling good about the break up...you deserve a peace-full life and your mum will need your support so you and her should have a better relationship.
it,s far better to be in a home with the love of one parent than a home of fighting
2007-05-29 03:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by pestie58 the spider hunter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make you a bad person...it makes you human. Its always unfortunate when parents argue...but unfortunately sometimes the forget that their kids are always around and can hear everything - even if they go in their room and shut the door. When people are just around yelling it raises their stress level, and its worse when its your parents. Divorce is not a happy or great thing to go through, but in alot of cases its necessary, and good can come from it.
2007-05-29 03:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, things will get a lot better for everyone. You should not even consider yourself a part of the process. It is about two other people who have not learned to get along. You should if possible just be supportive and not take sides. It will be ok. Ignore the upset and the process. Anger and hurt is just part of it. Things will get better. I am glad you sound strong. There is nothing wrong with you.
2007-05-29 03:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋