My son is 15 and he has alot of friends, every gender, every race, different schools, he gets along with everyone he is very popular. My concern is he doesn't have one good bud. I notice that most of the other kids do have that one other guy they hang out with and ride with etc, sometimes their neighbors sometimes their not. I wish he had that best friend to tell anything to or hang with the ladies, just someone he can really get to know and trust. I have talked to him about it and he says he's fine with it. But I notice when all the friends leave they pair off in two's and mine usually leaves alone. When I drop him off at places he is always alone until he hooks up with friends, when others come in twos. He is almost like the third wheel no matter who he is with. I feel bad for him. Am I making drama out of nothing or should I push the buddy issue a little more?
2007-05-29 03:24:56 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well I'm not a parent of a teen boy or a teen boy, but I don't think you should be to concerned. Maybe he just hasn't found that other guy that he clicks with in the way you think he should be clicking. Give him some more time to find that guy. As long as he's happy and has some good friends there for him, then I wouldnt' worry so much.
2007-05-29 03:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what?...my son has this very same "problem". I say "problem" because I realize that it's not really HIS "problem", but more mine. He's a loner and happy to be that way. Because he likes things done in his own timeframe, because he's quite the profectionist. He meets up with friends at the movies, etc. It doesn't bother him. Are you close with your son? Talk about almost everything? I do. My son and I are very close. I know there are some topics that we don't discuss (real personal ones) but he knows IF he ever needed to ask ANY question, I would answer as best possible. So don't push the issue with him. It only makes him MORE concious of it. He could very well be very picky about who his REAL friends are...and he's just hasn't found one he can really trust just yet. He's young, he's got College and work buddies to find his "best friend" still. Don't sweat it Mom, I'm "trying" not to. lol
PS. You know, YOU might be that best friend to him. It sounds like you are .
2007-05-29 03:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are making drama unnecessarily. Maybe this is something, maybe it's not, but you shouldn't push this issue any more. This is his life. You can't make a best friend for him, nor is it really your place to push him to do it himself. He's at a point, and has been for years, that he should be making his own friends. You should only butt into that process when he asks or if there is a serious problem.
2007-05-29 06:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have a teen son but i am a teen
well i can see why you are making a big deal outta it..
this is really random because almost everyone does have that great BEST FRIEND... but you mostly see this in girls...
if he is happy with being popular with everyone and not having that one bestfriend then i would say dont worry to much about it now... but if he is worried about it then you can worry about it...
2007-05-29 03:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by lilmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how that feels, i move around a lot but get along with every one, so i make friends very easily, but ive had only five really good friends in my life. they usually come to you and usually they are only acquaintences at best in the beginning, but turn out to be the most trusting and trustworthy friends of all. its really no big deal, heel find out who his true friends are eventually. it may take a simple act of kindness, or something like that but a best friend will come along. i promise. btw hes still young.
2007-05-29 03:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave it! there is not one thing you can do that will make this better for him! highlighting the situation will make him down about it. from wat you have said it sounds like he is well-adjusted and happy, it would be more of a problem if he had no friends, but you say he has many! it is possible that he is perfectly happy with his social life and friends, you know? he will not appreciate you interfering with this, as almost all young lads would not. if he has a problem, trust that he will confide in you should he not have others that he can talk things over with!
2007-05-29 03:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Seona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds well rounded. You shouldn't worry about it. People make friends in different ways. Some people have few very close friends, and some people have many casual acquaintances. Everyone is different. Pushing it won't make him make a best friend. . .that has to develop naturally.
2007-05-29 03:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your son has discriminating taste, not ready to bare his soul to the casual buddy. Good for him, he's waiting for the right person. I wouldn't keep at him about this, he may start wondering if there's something wrong with him. He's a lucky kid to have such a caring mom!! P.S. I have three grown sons.
2007-05-29 03:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well at least he has friends, even if he doesnt have a best friend, as long as he has people to hang out with it shouldnt be a problem
2007-05-29 12:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Silent Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm its good to have alot of friends let him live his life give him time.
2007-05-29 03:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋