why does my husband tell me that he looks whooped in front of people when I say I want to drive? Why does he feel like I am making him less of a man when I say I want to drive?
I hate his driving, we have two small children and drives bad sometimes. AND he misses exits or doesn't know where he's going.
2007-05-29 02:57:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BTW, it's my own car.
2007-05-29 04:25:54 · update #1
i don't know why he'd think he looks "whooped"... lots of women drive... sometimes i'd rather have someone else drive, too.
hmm my boyfriend doesn't care who drives....
i guess your husband was influenced by his friends way back when he was a teenager or something? let him know he's not one anymore? (tee hee)
take care and have a good day!
2007-05-29 03:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, to be honest I hate that whole driving stigma too!
I think it goes back to the way that things were when automobiles were first invented. Times were a bit more chivalrous back then (and a bit chauvinistic at the same time LOL).
Men always chauffered women around because it was the gentlemanly thing to do. You opened the car door for a woman, escorted her to her seat, and you drove her.
It remains to be one of the last vestiges of chivalry remaining today, and I still do it. I open my wife's car door, escort her to her seat, and drive her.
At the same time, though, I also understand that my wife loves driving my truck. It allows her to see high over traffic, and it puts some power in her hands. She likes that, and I think it's cute to watch.
I must admit that I've had to suppress my macho feelings to allow her to drive. I've been doing it for awhile now, so it comes much easier. I've learned to enjoy scenery more, and I love having conversations with her. I also get to play around with the radio more! LOL
I'm a city guy, and we've learned that I like long drives, highways, driving in the city, and particularly driving at night.
She's a country girl, and it turns out that she likes short drives, scenic drives on those narrow two lane country roads, and mainly daytime driving. We actually complement one another, and take turns according to what the conditions are. We both dislike driving in most of the other's favorite driving conditions.
I would never have known that if I allowed my pride to get in the way. I have also learned to not care what anyone thinks, because enough people have seen me open every door for my wife. The world knows that I'm one of the few chivalrous men left.. so it's all good!
So to sum that up.. I've learned to turn down the macho, stop caring what people think, and lay off the pedal a little. I trust that I've shown my manhood enough times to enjoy the passenger seat once in a while :)
*Oh, also, I've found out that her sense of direction is ten times better than mine... but I'm an expert with maps. She's about as map illiterate as a person could be! Another way we complement one another.
So I totally trust her sense of direction when I'm driving, and I navigate for her with maps when she's driving. For long trips where I drive, I plot it out on the map and write out directions so she can navigate me. Works perfectly. *
2007-05-29 10:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by michaeljazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like that. I spent around 15 years behind the wheel of a car for up to 14 hours a day. I love my wife to drive.
2007-05-29 10:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tony A 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem with my husband. He wants to drive everywhere. It doesnt matter whether it is my car or his. If I get in the driver seat he whines and complains about feeling sick and has an attitude the whole way.
He's constantly asking where are you going? And then he starts to dictate. Turn here! Go left! We both get car sick but he is such a big baby about it.
2007-05-29 10:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's definitely a man thing, while I was in Phoenix (on vacation) my boyfriend would drive as though he was on a race track. I just held my breath and prayed :) He probably sees it as freedom!! or the only thing he is in FULL control of, maybe you should get your own car if you're really concerned about your kids. Good luck. :)
2007-05-29 10:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we were younger, my husband always wanted to drive because he said if he was in the passenger seat, everyone would think he was drunk. I thought that was pretty funny because I never care what anyone else thinks.
Now that we are older (mid-40's married 28 years) he likes for me to drive.
It's really a personal preference, but if your husband is a bad driver, you need to keep yourself and your children safe. Insist on driving yourself.
2007-05-29 10:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Myself, I like having the woman drive. I like looking around and see what's going on. In the city I see new construction and look for a sign saying what it is. In the country I see wild animals and trees, it beautiful. When I drive I do watch the road. It boring to me.
2007-05-29 10:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it makes us feel in charge its just a masculinity issue but no biggie how would you like it if he did something that made you feel less of a woman even if it is something as silly as driving good luck to you and your husband
2007-05-29 10:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by joekick@$$ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Typical man. They don't like to ask for directions either. And they sure don't want you telling them how to drive but they don't have a problem telling us how to drive. Go figure! I think it is a control thing.
2007-05-29 10:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lorrie W 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
OMG! LOL! Maybe it's their chromosomes! Mine drives like a racing car driver and sometimes does burn-outs just to be annoying!
I think I'm going to turn grey!
2007-05-29 10:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋